|
VaguelyCurious -> RE: Handeling Rude Doms (2/26/2010 12:47:26 AM)
|
This is my serious hat. I'm going to stop being sarcastic and actually answer you.
quote:
ORIGINAL: MasterJC69
I can understand if I was rude or obnoxious in any of the emails that I have written and not getting any response back from them. I don't have a problem with that. But in fact I have been very polite and courteous to anyone I have written to.
Ok. Polite, courteous-I believe you. But how about interesting? There are several reasons women don't respond to the polite but boring:
1) It gets repetitive reading the same generic questions, and it would be even more repetitive answering them- generic emails with the content you described in your first post stack up, and people just aren't willing to take the time to do something as boring as replying to all of them for the benefit of nobody but a faceless stranger on the other side of a screen.
2) If you reply with a message which basicallly says 'thanks but no thanks' (which is the only common response you are likely to get with a generic email), then no matter how politely or gently you word it you get replies which are just streams of invective and abuse. Not from everyone, obviously, but the responses that are like that cross the line from 'boring and faintly irritating' to 'unpleasant'. After a while you get sick of actively increasing your own chances of dealing with unpleasantness for, again, the benefit of nobody but a faceless stranger.
quote:
Some of you have flat out missed the point of what I was writing. The profiles have given little to no information about themselves and some have read similiar to the one I will post here. So I have politely ask a few questions trying to find out a little more information to see if there was some common ground to base future correspondences on.
"Willing girl seeks to be trained and owned. she is definitely not here seeking money for any reason. she can relocate at her own expense." End of Profile.
That profile text is telling you something. It says 'I put some words here because there was a box to write in and it looks silly if I leave it empty, but this is not an advert'. the key word there is seeks; you aren't supposed to look at her ad and go 'ohmygosh! This is the love of my life-her writing touches my soul...'.
If she's serious and interested she is going to mail you. That's a profile designed not to attract particular attention-by mailing her out of the blue you are responding to an invitation that isn't actually there. So is it really surprising that your mails are unwelcome and you don't get responses?
If you want responses, target profiles with content that you relate to. Write an interesting message, tailored to that content and how you relate to it. That's the soopersekkrit method; it's not complicated, but there really seems to be no other way.
quote:
I find many of the threads on here to be highly out of line and quite rude and really it is uncalled for. Gives a new member a very bad taste in his mouth for the people who make up this community. I don't feel my question was that inflammatory to receive such nasty comments and emails that I have gotten. It was a simple question asked out of curiosity to see if maybe I was doing something wrong.
Again; not inflamatory but repetitive. On a good week we get one or two posters complaining about the lack of manners on the other side-on a bad week we get tons and tons. There's a search button at the top right of the page. It lets you see if the thread/topic detour you want to start has already been done to death.
I think it's the fact that new people never ever seem to use it that pisses regular posters off; it's like being made to have the same conversation over and over-you aren't my grandpa, and you don't have Alzheimers. I'd have the same conversation over and over for him because I loved him, but can you see why people aren't willing to do that for the benefit of nobody but a faceless stranger?
I'm sorry, but it wasn't just a 'simple question asked out of curiosity'. It was a 'simple question asked because you couldn't be arsed to take five minutes to use the search function to see if there is already a thread answering it.'
The reason you get only 'nasty' replies is that anyone who has the energy to be earnest about stuff like this has already been earnest about it a gazillion times to a gazillion brand new posters. That leaves only us sarcastic bitches behind as people willing to talk to you...:-P
quote:
No I don't think since I am a Dom that entitles me to anything but I do believe in common courtesy, being polite and respectful towards people which I see many now in this community have no idea what that means.
For the record: I'm pretty new. I've been here for a few months. I have, however, posted a lot. (Mainly 'cause I have trouble sleeping, and then in the morning I see stuff like this and can't let it lie...)
I've never received any abuse or nasty emails from anyone on the boards. In fact, the closest I've come to any nastiness at all was the spat with Lorenzo above, and that is because I have found his attitude toward women on this thread very hard to stomach.
Why have I been treated only with courtesy and respect? Because I haven't asked daft/repetitive questions, and because I've kept a sense of humour. You've done neither of those things...
<edited because I used the word 'ok' twice in two paragraphs, and the miniature tweed-skirted English teacher that is my conscience felt that this was a violation of all that is good and beautiful about the English language.>
|
|
|
|
