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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 2/28/2010 10:58:25 PM   
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You could try being nasty to me ..


Nah, I save the nasty talk for sex. 

Anyway, I still say you should just throw yourself out there and take a chance. 

Here's your homework, should you choose to graduate WinDsWinOne 101:
Write to 20 women with nothing at all whatsoever in their profiles but that they are slaves seeking a Master, and say hello.  Preferably a little more than hello, and a little less than a novelette. 

WinD


I don't know if there are 20 local ladies who fit that description, and I'm already cringing at the thought of the responses from those half my age ...

20 huh?

Keep the thread running, I'll report back when the task is complete.

"... less than a novelette"!?! Slave-driver !!!

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 2/28/2010 11:39:19 PM   
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Sorry, but that's the best I can do to keep the thread running.  I'm off to bed.  The day has been a long and emotional one and I'm exhausted.

Good luck with your homework. 

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 8:59:25 AM   
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Good luck with your homework. 


Sorry, Win, but I am afraid I will have to fail your course.

Found a blank profile, a lady half my age seeking friends only ... and I could think of nothing to write.

I'm profoundly uncomfortable with this approach. It is as if to say the lady is so socially inept she needs me to break the ice. How could I explain my 'interest'? "Well, you see, there is this lady named Winsome, and she said ..."

It felt too much like I was about to objectify this lady. She was just a number, one of the 20 I am supposed to write.

I wasn't writing her because of her distinct personality, the manner in which she expressed herself ... I was only writing because she was "homework".

Sorry, I can't do that to someone. I'd hate it if I found out someone was doing that to me.

I failed your homework.

Thank you for trying.

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 9:22:27 AM   
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Good luck with your homework. 


Sorry, Win, but I am afraid I will have to fail your course.

Found a blank profile, a lady half my age seeking friends only ... and I could think of nothing to write.

I'm profoundly uncomfortable with this approach. It is as if to say the lady is so socially inept she needs me to break the ice. How could I explain my 'interest'? "Well, you see, there is this lady named Winsome, and she said ..."

It felt too much like I was about to objectify this lady. She was just a number, one of the 20 I am supposed to write.

I wasn't writing her because of her distinct personality, the manner in which she expressed herself ... I was only writing because she was "homework".

Sorry, I can't do that to someone. I'd hate it if I found out someone was doing that to me.

I failed your homework.

Thank you for trying.


See, you thought of it as homework and reaching a goal of 20.  I saw it as a chance for you to reach out and possibly make a potential friend.  Aww well, it was worth a try.  Stepping out of ones comfort zone and doing things contrary to their habit patterns isn't easy.  Especially for a dominant set in his ways (read cantankerous bugger).   

Maybe just start with 1 person!  1 Random person that you say something nice to, that just happens to be a slave looking for a master.  Paying kindness forward has always worked for me.

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 9:35:57 AM   
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Good luck with your homework. 


Sorry, Win, but I am afraid I will have to fail your course.

Found a blank profile, a lady half my age seeking friends only ... and I could think of nothing to write.

I'm profoundly uncomfortable with this approach. It is as if to say the lady is so socially inept she needs me to break the ice. How could I explain my 'interest'? "Well, you see, there is this lady named Winsome, and she said ..."

It felt too much like I was about to objectify this lady. She was just a number, one of the 20 I am supposed to write.

I wasn't writing her because of her distinct personality, the manner in which she expressed herself ... I was only writing because she was "homework".

Sorry, I can't do that to someone. I'd hate it if I found out someone was doing that to me.

I failed your homework.

Thank you for trying.


See, you thought of it as homework and reaching a goal of 20.  I saw it as a chance for you to reach out and possibly make a potential friend.  Aww well, it was worth a try.  Stepping out of ones comfort zone and doing things contrary to their habit patterns isn't easy.  Especially for a dominant set in his ways (read cantankerous bugger). 


I just can't behave contrary to my ethical code.

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Maybe just start with 1 person!  1 Random person that you say something nice to, that just happens to be a slave looking for a master.  Paying kindness forward has always worked for me.


I've done quite a bit of that, Win.

For a while anyone new who spoke of wanting to learn would receive an invitation from me to read the various essays and stories I've had posted to my profile (I've taken all but one down, but there have been times when several pages of material was presented).

Many of them have visited, some wrote, nothing led anywhere.

I no longer bother.

Nothing I do will make a woman seeking love join this site, and considering just how many jerks there are on this site, can anyone blame a selective, emotionally mature woman seeking love choosing to avoid this place like the plague?

I doubt more than six women claiming to seek love join this site per year, for all of Canada.

All the rest are seeking meaningless sex/kink.

The odds of a match are not good, but then, I'm not here because I think the odds are in my favour.

I'm here because the alternative is to give up ... and that is something Love won't let me do.

My lady is out there, somewhere. She needs me as I need her. Until she's found, I'll keep looking.


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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 9:57:14 AM   
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My lady is out there, somewhere. She needs me as I need her. Until she's found, I'll keep looking.

Look no further, here she is!

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:00:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I do not see how contacting an empty profile has anything to do with an ethical code...

It isn't rocket science... just say, "You live in my area, and although you have a blank profile I would like to extend myself and see if you would like to get to know each other better. Here is a little about me...." And make sure it is a very little, not pages and pages like your profile states.. point her to your profile to learn more about you than the very basics..

In my experience, it always worked better for the chance of something to happen when men made the first move. Most men prefer it in my experience.


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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:15:42 AM   
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Found a blank profile, a lady half my age seeking friends only ... and I could think of nothing to write.


you can never have too many friends, man. as for the profile: maybe she's just shy, or re-writing it and didn't think to post that it's a work in progress?

i have trouble thinking of shit to write, too. haha, believe it or not.

if i see somebody with a blank profile, but for some reason i wanna strike up a conversation, then i'll just comment on something vague. like right now: "[brief introduction of self], i saw your profile and wanted to know if you'd be into messaging. are you enjoying the olympics?"

ehunno.

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:16:25 AM   
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I've done quite a bit of that, Win.

For a while anyone new who spoke of wanting to learn would receive an invitation from me to read the various essays and stories I've had posted to my profile (I've taken all but one down, but there have been times when several pages of material was presented).

Many of them have visited, some wrote, nothing led anywhere.


Bob,  I mean this in the kindest of ways, but you keep leading people to your "writings" and it isn't working for you.  After 7 years, you are still seeking love.  Maybe you should just put away your creative writing, and engage women on a personal level.  I'm not talking about inviting them over for casual sex.  I'm talking about writing to them, approaching them, putting yourself forward as available emotionally.

If I show an interest in someone, and their only reply to me is "go read my profile" or "go read my journal" I don't feel as if my interest was reciproprocated.

I'm not going to harp on this, lest it begin to sound like I'm trying to bully you into trying things "my way," and this is the last I'll say on the topic.  I acknowledge that when all is said and done, all we can do is be true to ourselves.  I just think that sometimes, we aren't aways doing things in our own best interest and it benefits us to try new things and approaches, when what we are doing isnt working for us.

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:48:00 AM   
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Poor Bob. You must be soooo backed up with sperm. Just go out and fuck someone already.
It really will clear your head.
You most likely will have to pay for it though...

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:49:48 AM   
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You are a dork and ruining Shorebound!


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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:50:55 AM   
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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:51:04 AM   
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No wonder there are so many wannabes


the main reason there are so many wannabes is:

1. It starts with the wannabe Dommes (aka - Pro Dommes)
2. This is followed by those people who have money to throw away to pretend they are submissive/slaves.

*next silly question*

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:53:44 AM   
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Snowed in at the shore and a night at Atlantic City. Gambling, whore watching, a swinger club.
Once again....I must apologize to the cleaning staff of Bally's. I'm truly sorry. It was SB's call to do that nasty thing to me.
And to my mom and dad up in Heaven...I'm sorry too that you now know how deviant I really am.

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:56:03 AM   
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Of course, that's assuming that you and SB actually USED the bed...

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 10:57:18 AM   
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Edited to add...but we had so much fucking fun!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 11:02:52 AM   
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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 11:07:56 AM   
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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 11:10:11 AM   
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RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... - 3/1/2010 11:12:12 AM   
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do you have any idea how much housekeeping staff bitches when there are bodily fluids on the beds? 

Of course, that's assuming that you and SB actually USED the bed...



What about the poor folks who used the room next?

They have Aileen cooties

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