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barelynangel -> RE: Giving up (3/6/2010 9:32:26 AM)
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Well if you can't fuck your friends who can you fuck? (special saying from a good friend of mine).
Secondly, you know not all relationships occur according to some rule books, sometimes a relationship happens with friendship first and then love, some happen where love comes first and then the friendship evolves, sometimes the sex comes first then the friendship then the love.
Perhaps you need to stop trying to go by a rule book and simply try and go with the flow. Life and especially relationships are not about rules but many times about BREAKING the rules.
In the end, you will get what you put into it. SOOO logically, if you give up -- you won't get anything. If you simply go with the flow, you may find that love and relationship sometimes come out of the most unexpected situations or simply because two people sync.
Whining about how you can't find someone to "do it your way" and claiming you are going to take your ball and go home -- don't be surprised when people say --- don't let the door hit ya.
SEX IS AN IMPORTANT PART OF LIFE!! I know many people try and put it in the oh its not that big of a deal but it really is, many times it is within a relationship a core piece of glue BECAUSE its a reaffirmation of so many things -- sharing each other, enjoying each other, being a part of each other etc. SOmetimes its a stress reliever, and anger releaser, a celebration etc.
Seriously, if you are that desperate to have the friendship first then don't be surprised when you don't get men biting -- Men are capable of making their own friends, while i am sure the will form a friendship with you in a relationship, they want a relationship. If you keep expressing friendship to them and not relationship -- i am not surprised they don't stick around. They have friends and are capable of making their own without the pretense of relationship.
Things like i need to be friends with someone i am in a relationship with utterly amazes me, I would say pretty much all of my friends guys and women are not people i would maintain a relationship with in the romantic/love sense which is why i m not in a relationship with any of them. I have had sex with some of them and damn good sex, but not relationships of a romantic/love concept of which i believe you are speaking. OUr friendship will sustain but hell, when i am in a relationship, i don't want the "friendship" to be the core, i want the RELATIONSHIP with -- the thing we don't have with anyone else and our connection on THAT aspect to be the core. I want sex to be a huge piece of the glue. I have friends i have fucked friends, but in the end, the relationship with a Man i want more than the friend.
Perhaps your priorities are off.
angel
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