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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:15:57 AM

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Ah. Tone is tough to convey online. I'm actually kind of amazed at how many hits this thread has gotten in just 15 minutes. Had no idea this board was so active, but it's encouraging...

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:18:03 AM

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What are her objections?

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:18:23 AM

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Yes this is the kinda of thread people like to sink their teeth in...

and btw its not nice to call someone Cruella..shame on you

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:18:38 AM

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Are you and she poly?
I ask because if you are, then you can discuss about you living in some sort of poly arrangement.
I also ask because if you aren't poly, why are other dominants bothering her? You haven't said what kind of relationship you have between yourselves but if shes the s to your D then it was up to you to put the record stright both with her and your expectations and with asshole dominants.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:18:54 AM

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I don't understand. You wish to find people to have fun encounter's with, going to events?

Your profile reads you are seeking dominant, submissive and switch women and now friends. But it reads or seems as if you are seeking encounter's which means to me, kinky encounters when you add that you like sensual to the mix. If you don't want to cheat, you might want to clear that up.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:21:45 AM

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My wife is a repressed Catholic, so no, we're not poly. Lockit, I've rechecked the "friends only" box, so hopefully that will let people know that I just enjoy attending events with other like-minded people (a.k.a. pervs).

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:22:38 AM

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My wife is a repressed Catholic, so no, we're not poly. Lockit, I've rechecked the "friends only" box, so hopefully that will let people know that I just enjoy attending events with other like-minded people (a.k.a. pervs).

wow first you call me names and now you go after the Catholics ..

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:23:09 AM

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I'm a lapsed Catholic myself, so I know how it goes.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:24:53 AM

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My wife is a repressed Catholic, so no, we're not poly. Lockit, I've rechecked the "friends only" box, so hopefully that will let people know that I just enjoy attending events with other like-minded people (a.k.a. pervs).

SO is she the s to your D? I see you are down as a switch, I just wondered your dynamic with her.
Or are you a top?

It might help you to be a bit more explainitory in your posts. It might stop people jumping to concluesions that your looking to cheat. I think I dig your drift on what your asking, but it might help you to clarify a bit more (2 cent suggestion - take or leave it).

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:25:05 AM

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If you check only the friends only, then I think your message comes across clearly that you only want friends. But with what you say in your profile and seeking these other women, it says to most I believe, that you are seeking more and women for friends only too. I would want to make sure it was clear if I only wanted to attend events with others. I mean, what happens if you wife finds out about your profile? One of the friends of yours that she will go to events with could happen to mention it. lol

Really, make yourself clear and I bet some of the harsh words on this thread would have no merit and would not continue.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:29:19 AM

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This is my first post to this board, so maybe I haven't got the hang of it yet. To answer RCdc, we don't really have a Dom/sub dynamic per se. She's generally more submissive in bed and bossy out of it. LOL. Lockit, I do have a number of dominant female friends, some of them respected pros, who understand my situation and are happy to go with me to the events and parties, where I usually just indulge in voyeurism. But just looking has a way of making one want more, and that's tough to swallow in my situation.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:32:10 AM

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RCdc is so formal... Call me dark - it's all cool!

Do you practice BDSM at home with her? Is it that you are wanting her to expand to be part of parties and a bit of exhibitionism? Or shes just not into it full stop?

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:35:34 AM

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Dark, I'd love for her to play in public, and she's done it once or twice, mainly in the domme role. However, I'll settle for any helpful suggestions on how to incorporate bdsm/fetish play into our private life without alienating her.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:36:06 AM

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OK, you have a number of dominant Friends and they can't help you?

red flag dude

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:37:19 AM

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Dark, I'd love for her to play in public, and she's done it once or twice, mainly in the domme role. However, I'll settle for any helpful suggestions on how to incorporate bdsm/fetish play into our private life without alienating her.

I think the only way to alienate her is if you dont invite her lol

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:38:38 AM

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Would you like her to dominante/sub or switch? Top or bottom? I know I am asking lots eek.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:42:20 AM

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It sucks to be you. But I am not telling you anything that you don't already know.

I am not married but I do understand what you are going through. What do you do when your partner no longer exactly fills your sexual and physical needs?

Most guys out here as a last resort just end up banging divi. I would suggest sitting down and having a soulful and honest heart to heart before you choose to trot down that syphilitic path.

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RE: Married to vanilla? - 3/10/2010 10:44:41 AM

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Keeping it on the Disney theme.. since you called me Cruella..
You're Pinocchio

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