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RE: What would you do............. - 3/26/2010 3:01:39 AM

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if a big part of who you are was making jokes, making people laugh & just general kidding around & your master told you to stop.

Could you give up that large part of yourself for him/her?
I know the rule of thumb is whatever it takes to make your dom/me happy but if you can't be who you are during your vanilla exchanges could you silence yourself willingly?

Been there, done that, choked on the misery.

I don't want to be with someone who doesn't like the joy I find in life. However, ways we express our joy can be channelled into other behaviors. It does no good for someone to take something away without giving a replacement to fill the void. If you can't make jokes, can you express your joy in dance or in writing or singing? The problem comes when something that is in fact part of one's identity (as you suggest in the question), is required to be removed. What is left with the person then? frustration and misery and loss of identity in their own context.

Also, the question is - for how long? I mean if the D-type wants it to be not around him, that's one thing... it's something else if it is to be eradicated from one's personality. In the end, this is part of personality. This does not change. People are foolish to try to remove a part of someone's personality. It reminds me of the old joke - don't try to teach a pig to sing. It hurts your ears and frustrates the pig.

As for me, personally? I tried once. Thankfully, I've gotten smart since then and realized how foolish it is to try to fit myself into someone else's definition of me. If they don't like how I am, my personality, my way of interacting in the world IN GENERAL, then there's no hope for us. (and vice versa). Edges can be rubbed down, but the only way to turn a square into a circle is by destroying a huge hunk of it.

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RE: What would you do............. - 3/26/2010 5:27:39 AM

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I had to think about this one overnight, good topic.

My sense of humor and how I use it is so much a part of me, that I couldn't change it if I (or he) wanted me to. And frankly, if he turned into someone who did want me to, I'd be saying bye bye.

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RE: What would you do............. - 3/26/2010 6:06:38 AM

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Good Morning, All!

Thanks for the WONDERFUL insight! Lots of very good posts here & I thank each & everyone of you. Merc, are you accepting applications?
Ooooops, that was a joke

I rec'd a surprising visit around 12am & it was not very pleasant. Very harsh punishment but I survived & now that that's over we can talk about his expectations.
But damn it hurts to sit down!!

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RE: What would you do............. - 3/26/2010 6:09:11 AM

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But damn it hurts to sit down!!

translation: Potsie has a headache.

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RE: What would you do............. - 3/26/2010 6:21:50 AM

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