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RE: Subs- do you feel a Dominant has to be cruel and ev... - 4/14/2010 7:29:48 AM

VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

and usefulidiot- this is the wrong forum for that post. good luck in your search

Why was usefulidiot's post wrong? All that was said was that the op sounds exhausting. The comment fit the thread quite well. Anyone can post anywhere and if there is a problem with it, I am sure the mod's can readily take care of it. In this situation... your correction of usefulidiot's post was in error.

New question... do we apologize as a dominant when we are wrong?

I was wondering about that also. The first thing that came to my mind when I read the op was how exhausting it would be. Not sure why it was wrong for him to point that out.

Me too-and I noticed that the OP said it wouldn't be beneath her to apologise, and yet didn't actually apologise...

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RE: Subs- do you feel a Dominant has to be cruel and ev... - 5/31/2010 1:31:58 AM

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of course a D doesnt need to be cruel and evil all the time. life is not an internet porn site. lol. :)

not that there is anything wrong with porn.... but come on real life has to happen sometimes too. plus, if someone was mean all the time i would have issues trusting them to care about my well being once i was tied up and at their mercy.

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RE: Subs- do you feel a Dominant has to be cruel and ev... - 5/31/2010 3:13:24 AM

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it is not necassary for my Mistress to be on all the time. there is quiet time and meal time and playtime. i enjoy playtime very much but just sitting at Her feet is enjoyable as well.

OP,
Actually I think clip and the guy whose post you said wasn't relevant at all hit the nail on the head. Not only is it not realistic to expect this, it's not fair to the Dominant. Only fanatics would expect it, regardless of what role you are in, you are still human. Everyone needs to be allowed to be what they are, have emotions, have down time, quiet time, etc. and yes, it would be exhausting. We are not roles, we are (hopefully) fully formed humans with a variety of attributes, moods, emotions and behaviors.

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RE: Subs- do you feel a Dominant has to be cruel and ev... - 5/31/2010 7:00:06 PM

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no, im not into cruelty or beastiallity. Its too tired to be cruel and evil all the time, we are in our BDSM relationship 24/7 but we love each other very much. I need to feel myself loved and safe .

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RE: Subs- do you feel a Dominant has to be cruel and ev... - 5/31/2010 7:04:45 PM

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Dominants are dominants. An evil and cruel dominant does have a function, but I hope there are not many of them. Whether evil and cruel or not, the foremost qualities of a dominant are to be responsible and to protect.

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RE: Subs- do you feel a Dominant has to be cruel and ev... - 5/31/2010 9:24:00 PM

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Cruel, evil, and degrading? Oh hell no! i've been in a relationship w/ the most loving Dominant ever imaginable, yet i knew He was in charge and our relationship had a D/s foundation to it. It was going to be long-term, but He died. If i met a cruel, evil and degrading Dominant, i would run so fast in the other direction, i'd trip over myself getting there!

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RE: Subs- do you feel a Dominant has to be cruel and ev... - 6/1/2010 1:33:47 AM

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I quite like my man being cruel and evil at times. Other times I prefer him to be plain dominant. Other times I want the soft and sensuous side of him in the forefront. I wouldn't want any one activity ALL the time, it would become too much.

That being said, I get what I am given, I can like it or lump it.

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