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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 5:52:29 AM

RCdc

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I am going to sound completely awful now. Not for the lady in question either.
I just don't get it. If I have a question, I'll post on the message board and ask it about myself. I'll even give my opinion (which is what you are getting now - and I am trying to be as nice about it as possible - honestly I wish you could hear my voice because it wouldn't sound so mean).
The lady in question has made bad decision. One of those being trusting you as a friend. I know that sounds dreadful in type, I do. But what kind of friend comes onto a message board and basically vomits up all her friends personal life just because they are sad and angry when they aren't even really involved? Sure, take it to another friend and share to get it off your chest - but a public forum full of strangers?
Not only does she choose (allegedly) a bad men, but bad friends to share and confide with also. I would be incredibly hurt and disappointed should a friend of mine do this to me and about me. What everyone is doing is talking about this woman behind her back. How unpleasent is that?

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 5:53:01 AM

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DesFIP with all due respect, and I do respect you a great deal, you're not reading what happened. Oh perhaps I am an ineffective communicator, that may be the case as well and if so, I apologize.

pulled away? Hardly, it is my understanding he begged to come and was doing horribly where he was with his father (note also a different state, so it's not like she brought him away from some joint custody arrangement). Allowed to return home? He's begging to stay, that I know for sure.

bad weather? Rain storm, yes rain. And it does cause accidents, that's true. But if everyone stayed home in the rain in New England, nothing would ever get done and I am sure she was trying to help the man she considered to be a partner, as she had a job interview. I would have done the same in her shoes assuming the rest of this crap was not a factor.

In short yes, she brought her troubled kid along while she moved to pursue a relationship. 9 months, 9 weeks, whatever, that's a judgment call that is clearly up for debate as posters have come down on both sides of it. I do think the added factors of being friends with him in the past, as well as maintaining her separate household and finances were a practical way of handling this situation.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 9:53:07 AM

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What did she expect would happen when a 16 year old boy was summarily pulled away from his father and his friends and support system in order to watch his mother chase after some asshole? Of course he made bad decisions. The boy ought to be allowed to return home to live with his father.

As far as her agreeing to risk her child being motherless by choosing to drive one of the 'toys' to the airport in bad weather? Another sign of her not thinking with her head, but with her clit.

She's made bad decisions from the beginning. No problem as long as it just involved her. But she's causing a child at a difficult age huge amounts of angst and that's unforgivable.

I think you missed the part where the son was doing poorly where they were and BEGGED the mother to take him.

As for the accident.... Umm at 16 I had a drivers license and begged to take the car whenever something needs driving to get done. Rain or shine. Learned to drive in the Snow and Mud when I had a permit. So I think what you are saying here is highly judgemental because I doubt the clit had as much to do with the son driving as the freedom of driving is for a kid.

In the end you seem to have strong emotions on this, did something like this happen to you? I am curious because it would seem you have already made up in your mind what really happened and so far that story has yet to have been told.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 10:20:24 AM

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quote:

In the end you seem to have strong emotions on this, did something like this happen to you? I am curious because it would seem you have already made up in your mind what really happened and so far that story has yet to have been told.

Am I the only person thinking that was completely uncalled for? What, so people are unable to to carry on gossiping about someone they don't know and only have second hand bias information about so start on other posters to try and analyse them?
What you have done is made your mind up already. Y'all should be embarressed for acting like a trashy magazine and replaying days of our lives with someone elses alleged inexperience.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 10:29:19 AM

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No Sorry I have no desire to co-sign your bullshit.

I asked a question based on what she wrote.

You turned it into whatever you did all on your own.

Kay-Thanks-Bye

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 10:37:16 AM

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Not so pleasent when someone points out your negative issues is it?
Just imagine how it feels if and when some lady finds out her private life has been laid out for gossips to have fun talking over.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 1:06:28 PM

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fast reply...

I get so tired of the evil dom stories. "Do you know that bastard forced me to quit my job. Then the evil fucker told me to sell my house ... Had the nerve to order me to uproot my kid and move 1000 miles...so I could be with Mister Wonderful Dom.

WTF and your upset cuz Evil fucker and your friend didn't ride off into the sunset. If I had a nickel for every "evil whomever" < yes it's sad but true bitches lie just as convincingly as bastards> I'd be rich! Just another somebody done somebody wrong song.

Frankly if I were to do something that stupid I'd be far to embarrassed to tell anyone. Take your lumps, learn from it, Move on. Maybe next time they will look before they leap.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 1:51:05 PM

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that is really not the point of my post at ALL, and I honestly don't think she would, for a second, blame me for wanting to rant about this a little myself as I have listened and supported her for months without complaint, and will continue to do so, but I need my own release too and being a good person herself, she would not begrudge me emotional support when I need it, just as she gets from me.

Not to mention I did not use her name, or her mans name, or anything about where they are from and she's not even on this site.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 1:52:55 PM

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wow you're a happy guy aren't you? I wish you all the best.

quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

fast reply...

I get so tired of the evil dom stories. "Do you know that bastard forced me to quit my job. Then the evil fucker told me to sell my house ... Had the nerve to order me to uproot my kid and move 1000 miles...so I could be with Mister Wonderful Dom.

WTF and your upset cuz Evil fucker and your friend didn't ride off into the sunset. If I had a nickel for every "evil whomever" < yes it's sad but true bitches lie just as convincingly as bastards> I'd be rich! Just another somebody done somebody wrong song.

Frankly if I were to do something that stupid I'd be far to embarrassed to tell anyone. Take your lumps, learn from it, Move on. Maybe next time they will look before they leap.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 1:59:04 PM

SailingBum

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miss ButtInSki,

As others have pointed out your a drama queen. Personally I much prefer to get my drama from jerry.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:02:33 PM

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LOL right, I'll keep my thoughts on you and your character to myself. As the first person EVER to call me a name and be directly nasty to me on this site, welcome to the lonely place on my blocked list, enjoy your trophy.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:08:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RCdc

I am going to sound completely awful now. Not for the lady in question either.
I just don't get it. If I have a question, I'll post on the message board and ask it about myself. I'll even give my opinion (which is what you are getting now - and I am trying to be as nice about it as possible - honestly I wish you could hear my voice because it wouldn't sound so mean).
The lady in question has made bad decision. One of those being trusting you as a friend. I know that sounds dreadful in type, I do. But what kind of friend comes onto a message board and basically vomits up all her friends personal life just because they are sad and angry when they aren't even really involved? Sure, take it to another friend and share to get it off your chest - but a public forum full of strangers?
Not only does she choose (allegedly) a bad men, but bad friends to share and confide with also. I would be incredibly hurt and disappointed should a friend of mine do this to me and about me. What everyone is doing is talking about this woman behind her back. How unpleasent is that?

the.dark.

quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

fast reply...

I get so tired of the evil dom stories. "Do you know that bastard forced me to quit my job. Then the evil fucker told me to sell my house ... Had the nerve to order me to uproot my kid and move 1000 miles...so I could be with Mister Wonderful Dom.

WTF and your upset cuz Evil fucker and your friend didn't ride off into the sunset. If I had a nickel for every "evil whomever" < yes it's sad but true bitches lie just as convincingly as bastards> I'd be rich! Just another somebody done somebody wrong song.

Frankly if I were to do something that stupid I'd be far to embarrassed to tell anyone. Take your lumps, learn from it, Move on. Maybe next time they will look before they leap.

I would like to agree with you both and if the op wasn't so fucking bangalicious I most certainly would. I just can't do it.....It's the Doms fault.... It's the Dom's fault.... It's the Dom's fault.

I know the op is with someone right now but judging from past threads it is very apparent that Doms die off or boot out their subs on a rather frequent basis. It's really just a matter of time.

So I won't ask if her sub friend has body image issues, or is stupid, or has the inability to sort things out. I know that due to the hotness of the op that she would never be dishonest or befriend someone that was not pure of heart and mind.

It's good to be pretty.

< Message edited by domiguy -- 4/6/2010 2:11:40 PM >

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:14:40 PM

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I don't think for a moment that any friend would begrudge another friend the need to get something off their chest to another friend or even a group of friends. We are all human and some people do need to do this for the sake of their own sanity and well being.
But a public forum full of strangers? And not only that but some rather personal information and judgements? Like I said, I know that my opinion sounds harsh in the written word, I really do. But that's my opinion.
And I also know this is going to insult people because they might take it the wrong way - but really - look at the peoples responding(no disrespect intended to the new posters or Domi coz he rocks

). Apart from a couple like Elisabella(the exception who tried and has been ignored) who didn't comment on the individuals but on her own experience and Des - where are the posters that would give any good and solid piece of advice? Honestly where are they? Any of the handful of respected posters that give any ounce of wisdom on these boards? They aren't here, because gossiping isn't something they tend to do. That's why.

I know that I sound hard - I really do. I absolutely mean it with kindness. But I am not expecting you to just accept that from me and I get that my words may be meaningless to you.

the.dark.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:21:48 PM

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If you are a Man good friend will buy you a beer and after 2 minuets tell you to quit your fucking whining.

Women share too much

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:24:21 PM

RCdc

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

If you are a Man good friend will buy you a beer and after 2 minuets tell you to quit your fucking whining.

Women share too much

URGH... AfuckingMEN to that. And people wonder why most of my friends are male.

Now gimme a beer.

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:25:58 PM

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If you are a Man a good FEMALE friend will get drunk and blow you.

How about a nice Pale Ale!

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:27:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: RCdc

I don't think for a moment that any friend would begrudge another friend the need to get something off their chest to another friend or even a group of friends. We are all human and some people do need to do this for the sake of their own sanity and well being.
But a public forum full of strangers? And not only that but some rather personal information and judgements? Like I said, I know that my opinion sounds harsh in the written word, I really do. But that's my opinion.
And I also know this is going to insult people because they might take it the wrong way - but really - look at the peoples responding(no disrespect intended to the new posters or Domi coz he rocks). Apart from a couple like Elisabella(the exception who tried and has been ignored) who didn't comment on the individuals but on her own experience and Des - where are the posters that would give any good and solid piece of advice? Honestly where are they? Any of the handful of respected posters that give any ounce of wisdom on these boards? They aren't here, because gossiping isn't something they tend to do. That's why.

I know that I sound hard - I really do. I absolutely mean it with kindness. But I am not expecting you to just accept that from me and I get that my words may be meaningless to you.

the.dark.

meaningless? No. and I do appreciate your input. thank you.

Edited to add, and unfortunately yes, this post did get away from me, and I did not reply to each person. Elisabela's comment was referenced in a subsequent post I wrote about the subjective nature of time, something along the lines of "9 months, 9 weeks, etc" and I did not credit her directly for that. My apologies to Elisabela, I meant no disrespect.

< Message edited by HisSweetElysium -- 4/6/2010 2:34:56 PM >

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:28:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

quote:

ORIGINAL: RCdc

I am going to sound completely awful now. Not for the lady in question either.
I just don't get it. If I have a question, I'll post on the message board and ask it about myself. I'll even give my opinion (which is what you are getting now - and I am trying to be as nice about it as possible - honestly I wish you could hear my voice because it wouldn't sound so mean).
The lady in question has made bad decision. One of those being trusting you as a friend. I know that sounds dreadful in type, I do. But what kind of friend comes onto a message board and basically vomits up all her friends personal life just because they are sad and angry when they aren't even really involved? Sure, take it to another friend and share to get it off your chest - but a public forum full of strangers?
Not only does she choose (allegedly) a bad men, but bad friends to share and confide with also. I would be incredibly hurt and disappointed should a friend of mine do this to me and about me. What everyone is doing is talking about this woman behind her back. How unpleasent is that?

the.dark.

quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

fast reply...

I get so tired of the evil dom stories. "Do you know that bastard forced me to quit my job. Then the evil fucker told me to sell my house ... Had the nerve to order me to uproot my kid and move 1000 miles...so I could be with Mister Wonderful Dom.

WTF and your upset cuz Evil fucker and your friend didn't ride off into the sunset. If I had a nickel for every "evil whomever" < yes it's sad but true bitches lie just as convincingly as bastards> I'd be rich! Just another somebody done somebody wrong song.

Frankly if I were to do something that stupid I'd be far to embarrassed to tell anyone. Take your lumps, learn from it, Move on. Maybe next time they will look before they leap.

I would like to agree with you both and if the op wasn't so fucking bangalicious I most certainly would. I just can't do it.....It's the Doms fault.... It's the Dom's fault.... It's the Dom's fault.

I know the op is with someone right now but judging from past threads it is very apparent that Doms die off or boot out their subs on a rather frequent basis. It's really just a matter of time.

So I won't ask if her sub friend has body image issues, or is stupid, or has the inability to sort things out. I know that due to the hotness of the op that she would never be dishonest or befriend someone that was not pure of heart and mind.

It's good to be pretty.

LOL I love you domiguy, you're perspective is always valued! :)

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:30:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

If you are a Man good friend will buy you a beer and after 2 minuets tell you to quit your fucking whining.

Women share too much

Hey now, I bought a couple rounds of sangrias last time, not so different!

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RE: Being a good friend-Rant enclosed - 4/6/2010 2:31:16 PM

RCdc

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Ah Jeffff dude. I'm not a retired old bird yet.
Gimme something with bite!

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