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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/6/2010 9:59:54 PM

HisEvelyn

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I had never before gone younger than myself. But my Master is 7 years younger than me, and he is absolutely amazing. I couldn't hope for a better match. So I've learned that for me, age doesn't matter so much as individual personality and compatibility.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/6/2010 10:15:03 PM

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for me age was a guide and not a hard limit. as each of us develops in a diffrent way and time. as it turns out i am a few months older than my Mistress and it was a limit at the time , but W/we matched in so manny ways it just wasnt one after awhile. i personaly would not be so self limiting in my choices but for each their own in the lifestyle. so my lines can be redrawn if needed

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/6/2010 11:11:26 PM

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I'll have to be shallow here and say I go for looks first on sites like this. that doesnt mean that i will only chase stunning babes, but a profile picture can make or break it. she would have to have that look on her face that says she knows herself (you know the one I mean?) after that it is the personalty and then the age.

To me they eyes are the main asset. and a certain glance on a photograph will have me typing like a loonatic before i ever get to the age part of the profile.

Call me shallow, but I'm honest about it lol

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/6/2010 11:21:29 PM

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I think its fair to say that attraction has to have something to do with it. People get all in a huff about others being shallow for caring about looks but what is attractive to me is totally different than say one of my best friends. I'd never date the guys she goes after. I know myself I'm a very visual person, learning style included. That doesn't mean though that I necessarily want a guy with washboard abs and a model face... everyone likes something a little different, which I think is great, so I don't end up chasing the same guys as my girl friends do ;)

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/6/2010 11:52:23 PM

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I wouldn't date a guy who was born after my birth year. Personal preference.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/6/2010 11:53:24 PM

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I think its fair to say that attraction has to have something to do with it. People get all in a huff about others being shallow for caring about looks but what is attractive to me is totally different than say one of my best friends. I'd never date the guys she goes after. I know myself I'm a very visual person, learning style included. That doesn't mean though that I necessarily want a guy with washboard abs and a model face... everyone likes something a little different, which I think is great, so I don't end up chasing the same guys as my girl friends do ;)

Total threadjack but OMG don't you LOVE this! It's like my best friend and I.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 1:06:39 AM

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I draw the line with sidewalk Chalk when it comes to dead bodies on my living room floor. Seriously, it's certain combinations of things where I draw the line. The whole package deal is what I'm concerned with the most.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 3:21:05 AM

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I apologize for posting and abandoning... I fell asleep, phone in hand...

I've loved reading all off the replies... and Domiguy... how do you manage to get it sooooo wrong?

He saw his family lose everything when the communists took over, served enforced military time, spoke 7 languages fluently and knew more about world history, economics, politics then I would ever hope to know.

Not everyone grows up in America...and the life experiences one can gain through adversity puts things on a very different level and physical age has very little to do with that.

It was actually the reactions to the rejection messages I sent that prompted me to make this post.

In both cases the maturity of the responses struck me...especially after some of the replys I've had from some of the men in their 50's.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 5:56:05 AM

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I can't submit to someone considerably younger than me (shup Clumsy).
I feel like I'm older (shup Clumsy) so I should be in charge. Just a issue I have, not saying it's right.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 6:29:22 AM

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I never quite know what to expect when the new messsges tab lights up...I, like everyone else here, wade through those that are looking for a wank, being "uber Dom" reasonably nice guys who live on the other side of the world but want to chat ect.

What I didn't expect is that the two messages that made me smile, that quickened my pulse... would be from a 22 year old and a 27 year old.

The words on their profiles couldn't have suited me any better, if I had written them myself...until I got to the age.

We all have to draw the line somewhere regarding difference in age.

So my question where do you draw the line.. Is that line different for play partners vs relationships?

s/s could you submit to someone considerably younger then you are?

When I was a younger man, I had a submissive that was much older than I was (way over 10-yrs difference), and was not concerned with age differences...I'm still open-minded concerning BDSM, age, and what makes people happy. I've since matured on many levels, and personally am happy with not such a vast age difference. My girl is close to my age and though it isn't an issue, even if one of us was more older than the other; then I think we'd still see past it and still love each other as much as we do now.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 7:54:08 AM

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Until recently most of the men I have dated were on average 5 yrs younger than I. In the last year or so that has changed to a 10 yr younger range. I rarely date older men. And I don't date younger men if they refer to me as "an older woman".

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 7:58:24 AM

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I draw the line at 'legal age'. But I must add, that less and less do the below 30 crowd hold my interest anymore. Once in awhile a gem comes along, but it is rare.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 8:32:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I draw the line at 'legal age'. But I must add, that less and less do the below 30 crowd hold my interest anymore. Once in awhile a gem comes along, but it is rare.

It appears that there is more acceptance of age difference with the D/D's then with s/s's.

Which would confirm that most s/s want to be Dominated by someone they see as being powerful and in charge of their lives. I think a common mistake we make is equating physical age with these traits.

The 22year old left home at 15 and has been working as a musician in S. Cal until a year ago, since then he has been traveling... I can only imagine that his life skills and challenges met exceed that of many 30 somethings.

I still would have a difficult time considering someone that much younger... but it does make me pause and consider...

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 8:42:52 AM

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I draw the line at 'legal age'. But I must add, that less and less do the below 30 crowd hold my interest anymore. Once in awhile a gem comes along, but it is rare.

Exactly. Unfortunately we are wading in the same pool, hunting in the same preserve. I have always wondered about those corn fed Iowan slit lickers you got teeming around over there. Is it worth the trip?

It's a race. I wish you well.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 8:44:24 AM

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I can understand. I used to struggle with the idea of an older slave. I was raised to honour the elderly, etc. The idea of treating someone older, as I think of a slave, was nearly impossible for me. I think I got past that mental block, and have talk to a few. They ended up being incompatible, but not because of age.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 8:45:56 AM

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quote:

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I draw the line at 'legal age'. But I must add, that less and less do the below 30 crowd hold my interest anymore. Once in awhile a gem comes along, but it is rare.

Exactly. Unfortunately we are wading in the same pool, hunting in the same preserve. I have always wondered about those corn fed Iowan slit lickers you got teeming around over there. Is it worth the trip?

It's a race. I wish you well.

Dommegal

Sad to say, I wouldn't bother...

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 8:53:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I draw the line at 'legal age'. But I must add, that less and less do the below 30 crowd hold my interest anymore. Once in awhile a gem comes along, but it is rare.

Exactly. Unfortunately we are wading in the same pool, hunting in the same preserve. I have always wondered about those corn fed Iowan slit lickers you got teeming around over there. Is it worth the trip?

It's a race. I wish you well.

Dommegal

Sad to say, I wouldn't bother...

Well you should be please to know that the lez scene in Chicago is simply Gash O' riffic. Some of the most quintessential and beautiful queefing queers are located just up the way.

You should visit. I am so tired.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 8:56:05 AM

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I am working on making that August soiree' a part of my late summer agenda. Even if for a day.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 10:01:33 AM

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I have no older age limit. I'm into older men. Young guys make me feel giggly when they flirt with me, but I can't take them seriously.

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RE: Where do you draw the line? - 4/7/2010 10:03:50 AM

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I am working on making that August soiree' a part of my late summer agenda. Even if for a day.

I'm trying also..would love to hang with LaT

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