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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 5:55:30 AM   
sunshinemiss


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I agree with you ! I've been pondering the question for a bit and keep going back to something I once wrote: When you are starving you will eat dirt. And how many times do people say "sometimes I just need a spanking"? At some point, on some level, there are real physical / psychological cravings that, like hunger, need sated.

I like the combination thing...

best,
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p.s. I vote no on the shakers - unless it is a martini kind of shaker. Grey Goose dirty martini... yum.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 5:59:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Absolutely. When you can't get it, it becomes overwhelming and is all you think about. When you know you can get spanked, tomorrow if not today, then it assumes its proper place which is not ahead of the person and the relationship.



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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 6:23:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Celeste,
I agree with you ! I've been pondering the question for a bit and keep going back to something I once wrote: When you are starving you will eat dirt. And how many times do people say "sometimes I just need a spanking"? At some point, on some level, there are real physical / psychological cravings that, like hunger, need sated.

I like the combination thing...

best,
sunshine

p.s. I vote no on the shakers - unless it is a martini kind of shaker. Grey Goose dirty martini... yum.


That is just a cocktail. A martini is made with gin.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 6:24:49 AM   
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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 6:27:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Celeste,
I agree with you ! I've been pondering the question for a bit and keep going back to something I once wrote: When you are starving you will eat dirt. And how many times do people say "sometimes I just need a spanking"? At some point, on some level, there are real physical / psychological cravings that, like hunger, need sated.

I like the combination thing...

best,
sunshine

p.s. I vote no on the shakers - unless it is a martini kind of shaker. Grey Goose dirty martini... yum.


That is just a cocktail. A martini is made with gin.



As a former 15 year bartender, domi's on it. Gin, only gin, I am a purist that way. Dn't even get me started on those fucking atrocities like "chocolate martini's" and "Green apple martini's". WTf is that? If I went out with a guy and he ordered a martini and it was blue or red? Yeah....no.
Bombay Sapphire Gin, up, dirty, rocks on side, wave the vermouth over it, and it better be as cold as humanly possible.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 7:21:20 AM   
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And yet, here we all are on a site for BDSM, D/s, M/s, bondage, S+M.
I have 'nilla guy friends but it will never go beyond friendship because all of the above is important to me in order to have an intimate relationship. I want a compatible, likeable, intelligent and handsome man who is sadistic and wants to dominate me.
<<<whines>>> Is that so wrong?
You know, I was actually thinking along these same lines. Sure, I value Carol a great deal. But for me, it's all about love. Take that out of the equation and Carol becomes not viable for me as a partner. I see no reason why someone else can't substitute "power exchange" or "kink" for "love". The person is not in and of them self enough.. .they have to be the right kind of person. A partner who cannot supply whatever my basic needs are may still be a great person, but they will suck as a partner for me.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 7:27:41 AM   
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That is just a cock tail.



I'm down with that.




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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 7:40:23 AM   
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Part and parcel. No matter how great the person is, if there's no sex we're not getting into a relationship. It will be friendship only.

But I also want to have a lot of commonalities. I don't want to never get to see the tv show I like. Or never go to my favorite lunch joint. Or never get to play miniature golf again. I need it all. Because shared enjoyment of activities is one way you are compatible. Shared morals and ethics are others. For some, they need to share religion as well.



I´m glad I´m not the only greedy one here... I want it all, the person and the play... a person who wasn´t concerned with the play wouldn´t be compatible with me and play without connection just feels empty.


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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 7:42:03 AM   
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That is just a cock tail.



I'm down with that.





I will not care about you as a person...We should have cocktails and play.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 7:49:37 AM   
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That is just a cock tail.



I'm down with that.





I will not care about you as a person...We should have cocktails and play.



I'm glad you're clear about your preferences.

And when is your flight arriving? And by the way... what is this thing where lushy has not had any not napping for awhile and during that "awhile" she met up with you and Jeff... and she STILL was not not napped?

ahhhhh... if only you had references to go with your preferences.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 11:37:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

What is more interesting and important to you, the play or the person?

Are there activities that you could not live without, regardless of the person involved.

For the sake of this question, poly doesn't count. You have your own little group..:)


I havent read any of the posts yet (sue me). For me OP, the person is what matters to me. I am not a casual player.

I cannot live without the activities of breathing, eating and taking baths. I do like painting and feeding birds is fun!

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 11:39:25 AM   
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What is more interesting and important to you, the play or the person?

Are there activities that you could not live without, regardless of the person involved.

For the sake of this question, poly doesn't count. You have your own little group..:)


The person is definitely more important.


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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 11:49:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: catize
And yet, here we all are on a site for BDSM, D/s, M/s, bondage, S+M.

Yup. Here we are. The person is more important to me than the kink, but the person i'm interested in has to be very Dominant & this is the most likely place to find that.

~kitten~

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 12:06:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: catize
And yet, here we all are on a site for BDSM, D/s, M/s, bondage, S+M.

Yup. Here we are. The person is more important to me than the kink, but the person i'm interested in has to be very Dominant & this is the most likely place to find that.

~kitten~


I thought that you would have died from an orgasm by now.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 2:46:03 PM   
DesFIP


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That is just a cocktail. A martini is made with gin.


Onion or olive?

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 5:52:33 PM   
catize


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The whole problem with this post is that it assumes it is one or the other. It isn't, it's both. If you need pain play, then you need it. But you need it inside a good relationship.



Exactly! How many threads do we see, or how many times are we contacted on the other side, by people who are 'happily married' but they have become so obsessed with what they lack, they are willing to jeopardize that 'happiness'?

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 6:15:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy


quote:

ORIGINAL: DWCskitten


quote:

ORIGINAL: catize
And yet, here we all are on a site for BDSM, D/s, M/s, bondage, S+M.

Yup. Here we are. The person is more important to me than the kink, but the person i'm interested in has to be very Dominant & this is the most likely place to find that.

~kitten~


I thought that you would have died from an orgasm by now.

hahahahaha Oh Domi, You are SO funny!!! i see You read "Health & Safety" too.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 6:40:41 PM   
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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 6:46:31 PM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
And by the way... what is this thing where lushy has not had any not napping for awhile and during that "awhile" she met up with you and Jeff... and she STILL was not not napped?


Her own fault. If she had brought Jeffff a pot roast, he would have not napped for it. He's easy that way.

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RE: Preferences - 4/13/2010 11:51:13 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		It's all bout the person.
The dynamic, the way she moves to my touch, writhes to a pinch, squelch with desire at a touch. It's the way I can light her up. It's the way I can take her down. It's dancing the electric mambo, riding the tiger, caught in the space where two souls intersect.
I don't play with people I don't react well off of. Doesn't mean they are bad folks, doesn't mean they are bad slaves or there is anything wrong with them, but if the spark is missing, the way she responds to my actions, that dynamic is lacking, I don't play. Cuz ya know what, it ain't any fun. And I don't do things I don't enjoy doing.
And damn, I just slaughtered the English language there. Can I get a shout out for the double negative.


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