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RE: Silly Frightened Moments... how to stay dominant? - 5/2/2010 10:14:34 AM

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That's a good question. I've had to explain many times my irrational dislike of talking on the phone. Not so much a phobia, but more like an aversion. I just don't like talking to someone I don't know well on the phone. It's uncomfortable to me.

And I've had creepy closets too. I had a closet in my apartment I didn't like for a long time and then one day the creepy feeling just kind of went away. I don't know what changed. But there could be a reasonable explanation for your discomfort.

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RE: Silly Frightened Moments... how to stay dominant? - 5/2/2010 10:39:50 AM

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No worries about how you are seen - that's pretty well covered.

Suggestion for the scary closet:
Get one of your submissives (or maybe just a good friend) to totally clean it out, paint it inside and out.
Then have them spend some good time sitting in it - Door open/ajar- perhaps as part of a D/s scene.
Set a light that goes on when you open the door.
Play good music, run some yummy scented candles or incense in there - take bright and artistic photos while they are there.. have then sort out your things according to colour or size.

This is just a basic reconditioning to make it easier for you, after all, it is the unfamiliar that tends to be a bit more creepy than the well inspected and under controlled spaces in our lives.
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RE: Silly Frightened Moments... how to stay dominant? - 5/2/2010 1:51:34 PM

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Yes, I understood that it was 'her way', not 'the way'. But one can still have integrity, strength, self-control, etc., be dominant, yet not sound so humourless. It just all smacks of 'trying too hard' to me. If you're a genuine person, you shouldn't have to try to be anything more than who you are. But perhaps that's the Brit in me: we think taking ourselves too seriously to be a cardinal sin.

Maybe it's just a question of striking the right balance, and the right tone. I don't think there's anything wrong with acknowledging and laughing at one's own failings - in fact, I think there's everything right with it, and I'm prone to self-deprecating humour myself. But I don't see why acknowledging failings and not taking oneself too seriously should preclude recognising strengths, and trying to build on them. I mean, I know you only through your posts on these forums, but I've seen enough to be quite certain that your talents extend well beyond cracking a beer with dinner!

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RE: Silly Frightened Moments... how to stay dominant? - 5/2/2010 2:02:39 PM

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It is only human to be afraid of things in the dark that you would not be afraid of during the daytime. It is a survival mechanism that served humans well for millions of years, even though it is not as necessary in todays world as it was in the past.

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RE: Silly Frightened Moments... how to stay dominant? - 5/2/2010 5:48:15 PM

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I don't think there's anything wrong with acknowledging and laughing at one's own failings - in fact, I think there's everything right with it, and I'm prone to self-deprecating humour myself. But I don't see why acknowledging failings and not taking oneself too seriously should preclude recognising strengths, and trying to build on them.

An ancient Chinese proverb comes to mind. Actually I made it up, but same difference. If you can't laugh at yourself, everyone else will be glad to do it for you.

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