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porcelaine -> RE: what is happening? (5/12/2010 2:06:51 PM)
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I left not really understanding where I stood.
When a man wants to make your role in his life crystal clear he does. Conversations that fail to take place regarding this subject always relate to the following: ambivalence, uncertainty, or disinterest. Unfortunately some refuse to communicate this or use shoddy excuses for an exit.
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I log on to the net he is there, does not say hello! I mean contact between us was a lot, now 24 hours without any contact.
Just because you see someone online doesn't mean they're sitting at the computer. I was notoriously bad about having instant messenger open and being away. Assuming he wasn't there, one night isn't a big deal, but if the behavior was continual I'd probably think his interest was waning. But I wouldn't spend time wondering, cutting to the chase is better.
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He says he won't see me again for at least 6 weeks, and will be in touch when he gets back.
You're not powerless. If you find the terms unacceptable say so. But don't waver back and forth. I realize you find this upsetting and some of that is sparked by your previous situation, but it hasn't been that long and I've never met a dominant man that enjoyed being dictated to. Giving him orders and ultimatums will be an instant turn off.
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He says he is busy and not on msn its on in the background, yet he had logged on to cm.
I'd sincerely advise that you stop tracking his movements. You're only inviting the angst you're experiencing. The default installment for MSN is to boot up on restart. Unless he's disabled that feature he'll always appear online. Or maybe he's signing in through his phone, but it usually shows that distinction in the user list.
For what it's worth, I don't feel this medium is best suited for everyone. You appear to be quite fearful and overly anxious about a situation that is early in the making. You're investing a lot in someone that doesn't appear to have done the same where you're concerned. I can't say where he stands or what he's thinking, but you can ask yourself those questions and make some adjustments.
~porcelaine
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