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Let me point out that a profile at Collarme implicitly is a "solicitation" for responses, unless the profiler explicitly states that he or she is "not looking right now". Therefore, responses are not "unsolicited" mail, as you suggest in your reply.

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Let me point out that a profile at Collarme implicitly is a "solicitation" for responses, unless the profiler explicitly states that he or she is "not looking right now". Therefore, responses are not "unsolicited" mail, as you suggest in your reply.

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Just a small comment. I personally don't feel *gratitude* that someone writes me... to me that comment makes you (btw, this is a general you, even it if it applies to you personally in this instance) sound weak and pathetic. It is one thing to appreciate the efforts of someone else, it is another to feel grateful that someone notices you enough to chose to correspond.

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ORIGINAL: happypervert

Though the ads are looking for responses, they do have target audiences in mind and of course will respond to those that fit what they're looking for.

I use the analogy of a company with a help wanted ad -- if they are looking for experienced engineers, there is no reason to respond to recent graduates, janitors, lumberjack or anyone else that isn't a fit. But they will call the ones they want to interview.

Now after reading your posts, it looks to me like sending a compliment to gals is a really a test of your own charm; getting a reply lets you measure your success. And since you didn't get the thoughtful replies to give yourself a warm and fuzzy feeling, you got upset enough to start this discussion framing the situation as a lack of courtesy in the girls. Let's face it -- if it wasn't about getting your ego stroked, you wouldn't care at all whether they replied or not.

But as others have stated, there's no reason at all for them to reply. As a matter of fact, there is a disincentive to sending a even quick "Thanks, but no thanks", because that would just encourage a lot of bozos to reply again to try to build upon her politeness to eventually weasel their way into her pants.

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ORIGINAL: MasterSnowBeard

MrStrapwell
Well I have found always being a Gentleman is a good thing when contacting
a submissive here on the board or in real life.
But I believe from your post that you are a Gentleman.
You mentioned being direct in your first email...
I do not know what all that includes for you...
but as for Myself my first email to someone is more of a greeting
and do not get into specifics
of what I might have as desires or wants about that person.
I will save that till I know that there is some interest
created first from the person responding favorably to my first message.
But also I know that not all ladies will be attracted to Me....
and don't take it personal when someone does not reply ....
as everyone has their own tastes in what they are
looking for in a partner. That doesn't make you any less attractive though.
I also know ladies here sometimes become overwhelmed
with the massive amount of email they recieve
and sometimes do not have time to respond to all.
I have not read your profile yet ...
so don't know what you say or what kind of mental image of yourself you paint.
But I do suggest putting a little fire in your profile if there isn't.
Something that makes a lady who is attracted have to stop and think about
you and what you have written. And does not have to be sexual.
Just the energy and aura you project and create will draw ladies to you.
I have many ladies contact Me ...that I have not contacted,
because the see something in my eyes in my picture.
They can sense something by what they have r


Just the energy and aura you project and create will draw ladies to you; or Repell from You....

(in reply to MasterSnowBeard)

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ORIGINAL: mousiemae10126

RE: Help needed regarding getting replies from subs.

I am a sub, who is Extremely new to this site.

With in minutes of my first posting at all, i recieved Entirely Too many postingies to aswer their Q's.

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I have emailed a few subs/slaves since I have been on this site. Some have responded, some have not. The ones who didn't respond to me, I just assumed they were not interested. No big deal. I don't dwell on the reasons why. And I certainly don't take it personally.

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And Estring, it saddens me to hear that he pulled a stunt like that with you. . .not because you "aren't man enough to take it"

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ORIGINAL: compes
I do hope you do well – your apology impressed me. From what I’ve seen in the BDSM community, some Doms feel as if they have no need to apologize, which is something I disagree with.