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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 12:50:09 PM

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If I recall- the vax tho- offers some protection.

I thought long and hard. This was the 90s-- the shots - 3- over 6 months cost $200 back then.

Those are probably A and B vaccines. There is none that protects against C, but if you have C - or believe you may have been exposed - it's recommended that you get vaccinated for A and B because if someone with C contracts either of them, it is very bad news.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 12:52:16 PM

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Thank you LadyPact...and again ThatDamnedPanda, thank you too! This thread has been very informative and hopefully I'm not the only one that has learned a thing or two from it.

You're more than welcome. Your friend is lucky to have a friend like you. There were a lot of times I could have used one like you myself. Again, the best of luck to everyone concerned.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 2:04:55 PM

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One thing i would add - touch is important. Back in the '80s, when HIV was just being learnt about, i was working in an ER. We would occasionally have patients with AIDs come in, and the RN's would discuss wheither or not they would touch or care for them.

There was one man who came in, who was ill with AIDS - and i touched his shoulder and smiled at him - pretty much what i did with all my patients. His doctor came to me afterwards and told me that that the patient was tearful - because that was the first time anyone had willingly touched him since he was diagnosed.

Can you imagine how it must feel to be literally "untouchable"?

Hug your friend whenever you can. Touch her. Let her know without words that you don't find her unclean,dirty or bad. People can say something all they want, but sometimes a touch does way more than words ever can.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 2:27:16 PM

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Yes, I would decline a relationship with someone who had STD's. I don't want the hassle or risks that a relationship with someone with an STD requires. Now maybe if, like in the case of Hep C the risk of getting it was so minuscule it was non exsistant, if they were that important to me, maybe it'd be workable, but on a whole? Nope, I'm walking. Having communicable diseases is a deal breaker I tell people up front.

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Anyway, my questions are...if you met someone that you really could see yourself having a successful relationship with, would you turn them away because of an STD? Would it depend on the STD? If so, where would you draw the line?

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 2:54:45 PM

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When I was still searching, to be honest I think I probably would not have started a relationship with someone who has an STD. I also wouldn't have started a relationship with someone who has some kind of disability that would prevent them from leading the same type of life I enjoy.

Now if I was already in a relationship with someone and they caught an STD, we'd be having a loooooong discussion but I probably wouldn't just throw the relationship away. It would all depend on what caused it. At that point we're already established.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 3:15:18 PM

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 3:49:18 PM

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Can you imagine how it must feel to be literally "untouchable"?

Hug your friend whenever you can. Touch her. Let her know without words that you don't find her unclean,dirty or bad. People can say something all they want, but sometimes a touch does way more than words ever can.

This is exactly right!

The nurse who attended me when I was first diagnosed gave me a huge hug and that ment the world to me at the time.
Actually I'm getting teary just thinking about it now.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 4:27:39 PM

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Anyway, my questions are...if you met someone that you really could see yourself having a successful relationship with, would you turn them away because of an STD? Would it depend on the STD? If so, where would you draw the line?

I would not turn them away.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 5:19:52 PM

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That's for Hep B, hunk.

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If I recall- the vax tho- offers some protection.

I thought long and hard. This was the 90s-- the shots - 3- over 6 months cost $200 back then.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/24/2010 8:10:19 PM

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I did not read all the way thru. My profile says, that I am HIV negative. In the ISO (in search of) section I wrote "HIV negative preferred." I have had a seven-year relationship end with my lover dying in my arms.

ALL sex needs to be safe. BDSM has little (if any) exchange of bodily fluids.

hey Lance,

I don't know why you directed that at me, but I didn't imply that BDSM had anything to do with exchange of bodily fluids, but most M/s and D/s relationships that I know of certainly do. I also have so many gay friends and was unfortunate enough in the 80's to have two of my dearest friends die from complications from HIV before it was even really out there, at least where I live, which is Maine.

I said this "However I don't play casually to the extreme I do with my SO, and with him, we exchange all bodily fluids, including watersports" which in no way was a blanket statement that all BDSM activites are like mine, but I apologize if that was how you interpreted it.

Many female submissive are in relationships where bodily fluids in all manners are part of our relationships. I guess maybe I am missing something in your post?

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/25/2010 2:49:48 AM

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That's for Hep B, hunk.

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If I recall- the vax tho- offers some protection.

I thought long and hard. This was the 90s-- the shots - 3- over 6 months cost $200 back then.

You are welcome.

But I am not infected.

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RE: Would you close the door on a potential partner bec... - 5/25/2010 3:31:48 AM

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Hello erin,

In addition to dating groups for people who have particular STD's there are support groups that can really help when first diagnosed and learning how to cope with dating and relationships, daily living, treatments, etc.

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