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porcelaine -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 3:44:03 PM)

SimplyMichael,

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Those two seem like very different slaves. One is clingy, desperate, eager to throw her neck throw whatever collar is held before them, the other is someone who perhaps never imagined herself bending her knee to a man until she met HIM. Frankly why anyone would want the former escapes me and it is the latter that intoxicated me, to be the one man among many who could inspire such from a woman with few equals.


It is interesting how the second type is often derided by some. To the point where her inability to kneel for all save one is considered a character defect.

~porcelaine




leadership527 -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 3:56:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine
It is interesting how the second type is often derided by some. To the point where her inability to kneel for all save one is considered a character defect.
Actually, both types are derided by various people. It's all a part of the "who's the truest slave" game.




porcelaine -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 4:09:15 PM)

leadership527,

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Actually, both types are derided by various people. It's all a part of the "who's the truest slave" game.


I can understand the motivation of the misguided on the kneel, but what's the dominant payoff in the debacle?

~porcelaine




SimplyMichael -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 4:18:50 PM)


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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

SimplyMichael,

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Those two seem like very different slaves. One is clingy, desperate, eager to throw her neck throw whatever collar is held before them, the other is someone who perhaps never imagined herself bending her knee to a man until she met HIM. Frankly why anyone would want the former escapes me and it is the latter that intoxicated me, to be the one man among many who could inspire such from a woman with few equals.


It is interesting how the second type is often derided by some. To the point where her inability to kneel for all save one is considered a character defect.

~porcelaine



We all deride something, Leadership527 posts on a bdsm board telling us how he isn't into bdsm. I post in the hopes of felling windmills. But where some see a glorious bitch, I see a woman worth taming. To each their own!




leadership527 -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 4:26:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
We all deride something, Leadership527 posts on a bdsm board telling us how he isn't into bdsm. I post in the hopes of felling windmills. But where some see a glorious bitch, I see a woman worth taming. To each their own!

To be fair, I've come a long way in my understanding of BDSM since when you and I first met... a long, long way. It's been a long time since I derided it. I still see only partial overlap with me but I'm pretty neutral on the topic overall.. "it works for some people.. wonderful"




Icarys -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 4:27:56 PM)

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We all deride something, Leadership527 posts on a bdsm board telling us how he isn't into bdsm. I post in the hopes of felling windmills. But where some see a glorious bitch, I see a woman worth taming. To each their own!

The trick in life for me at least is to try and rise above the pettiness..I don't always master it much like yourself but I do continue to work on it.

The only windmills I see are the ones you build for yourself, Michael..

Just a personal observation over time..I've seen more than one person go after females that they thought needed taming only to find out after they had "Conquered" them..The thrill was gone.

As you say though..Each to their own.




Icarys -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 5:05:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
We all deride something, Leadership527 posts on a bdsm board telling us how he isn't into bdsm. I post in the hopes of felling windmills. But where some see a glorious bitch, I see a woman worth taming. To each their own!

To be fair, I've come a long way in my understanding of BDSM since when you and I first met... a long, long way. It's been a long time since I derided it. I still see only partial overlap with me but I'm pretty neutral on the topic overall.. "it works for some people.. wonderful"

Random hi-jack:

I've enjoyed reading what you guys have put together on your site, Jeff.

Back on track..




NuevaVida -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 6:43:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

SimplyMichael,

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Those two seem like very different slaves. One is clingy, desperate, eager to throw her neck throw whatever collar is held before them, the other is someone who perhaps never imagined herself bending her knee to a man until she met HIM. Frankly why anyone would want the former escapes me and it is the latter that intoxicated me, to be the one man among many who could inspire such from a woman with few equals.


It is interesting how the second type is often derided by some. To the point where her inability to kneel for all save one is considered a character defect.

~porcelaine



Interestingly, I see the first type derided more often than the second.  Perhaps it depends on the place from which we view.




Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 8:02:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: osf
There is a movie made from a book "Of human bondage" that answers nicely for me what slavery is and it's really simple it is someone that wants/needs the other person and the relationship so much that they will do most anything to preserve it.

With this definition a person can be a slave in one relationship and never again, also the type of relationship has little importance to the fact of slavery

Now there are those that will seek out this type of relationship above all others, they may have an inherint need to sort of enslave themselves to someone.

The object of their need may or may not enhance or exploit the need of the enslaved and it may not matter for the outcome to be the same.

Hell some people enslave themselves to inanimate objects, can you say idol?


osf, I enjoyed this post because it keeps things rather simple. I'm sitting here trying to think of any great exceptions and I can't think of any yet. What's the name of the Movie?




Ishtarr -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 8:06:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Just a personal observation over time..I've seen more than one person go after females that they thought needed taming only to find out after they had "Conquered" them..The thrill was gone.




Or find that while he can conquer her in part... she still has a spirit that he can never fully posses.
And then turn the thing he claimed to find most attractive at first into a fault of hers while he walks away.





Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 8:19:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Ishtarr
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ORIGINAL: Icarys
Just a personal observation over time..I've seen more than one person go after females that they thought needed taming only to find out after they had "Conquered" them..The thrill was gone.

Or find that while he can conquer her in part... she still has a spirit that he can never fully posses.
And then turn the thing he claimed to find most attractive at first into a fault of hers while he walks away.

Worse case, both apply either way meaning the relationship was screwed right from the start. lol

Some people change relationships like they do their underwear...




MrRodgers -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 8:43:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
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ORIGINAL: porcelaine
SimplyMichael,

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Those two seem like very different slaves. One is clingy, desperate, eager to throw her neck throw whatever collar is held before them, the other is someone who perhaps never imagined herself bending her knee to a man until she met HIM. Frankly why anyone would want the former escapes me and it is the latter that intoxicated me, to be the one man among many who could inspire such from a woman with few equals.


It is interesting how the second type is often derided by some. To the point where her inability to kneel for all save one is considered a character defect.

~porcelaine

We all deride something, Leadership527 posts on a bdsm board telling us how he isn't into bdsm. I post in the hopes of felling windmills. But where some see a glorious bitch, I see a woman worth taming. To each their own!

Yet another post born of the kinksophere. Never was there a question of just what was up back in the day. Everything had to be inspired or there was...nothing, nothing but sluts and slutmongers.

Now we have these various debates about just what is slavery, submission, what motivates us and only because we have this digital venue to proclaim ourselves such and seek a believer.

Here, meeting is the key, then your chat & phone come into play. Then all bets are off and the sky is the limit.




Icarys -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 8:43:39 PM)

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Or find that while he can conquer her in part... she still has a spirit that he can never fully posses.
And then turn the thing he claimed to find most attractive at first into a fault of hers while he walks away.


There is that too.

There are many things in life I enjoy challenges from..My females and relationships aren't one of them. I don't think for a second there won't be any but I don't need anything that's gratuitous as I see it. Save the drama for your mama so to speak :>

Although I'm one for slavery..I have very few romantic notions about it. I realize the "possible limitations" as it pertains to BDSM's definition but know most if not all of them can be overcome if she is willing and of the "right mind".






porcelaine -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 8:45:53 PM)

NuevaVida,

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Interestingly, I see the first type derided more often than the second.  Perhaps it depends on the place from which we view.


I had to dig this up because it sums up my feelings on the angle you've taken. Particularly when espoused by submissives and slaves. Although this snippet was originally written for a couple, I believe its wisdom is apropos in this case:

We can only draw to us those people who are on our ray, our level of energy and development. They reflect back to us the very things we do. Most of us reject this idea. But then most of us reject criticism, too. We find it difficult to accept those things about us that others see. We do, however, feel completely justified when we criticize our mates. Here’s a question for you: How would you know what to call what you see in your mate unless you had seen it somewhere else?

Sometimes the things that others demean are aspects of themselves they're unable to accept.

~porcelaine




NuevaVida -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 8:49:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

Sometimes the things that others demean are aspects of themselves they're unable to accept.



I absolutely agree with this.  I have lived it.  On the flip side, I find when I feel particularly defensive about something someone says, it's time to examine within.




Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 9:14:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine
Sometimes the things that others demean are aspects of themselves they're unable to accept.

I've seen this be the case so many times, that it ain't funny.




porcelaine -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 10:48:55 PM)

NuevaVida,

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I absolutely agree with this.  I have lived it.  On the flip side, I find when I feel particularly defensive about something someone says, it's time to examine within.


Lately I've been looking at opposites and asking myself some important questions. Are we really that different or am I bothered by the fact that I may have something in common with the person/idea/behavior because it contradicts my identity in some way? The questions have compelled me to examine my associations and reconcile the stigmas and ego driven notions that I unknowingly attached. It's been quite the discovery process thus far. :)

~porcelaine




MarcEsadrian -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 11:20:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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ORIGINAL: osf

1. Now there are those that will seek out this type of relationship above all others, they may have an inherent need to sort of enslave themselves to someone.

2. With this definition a person can be a slave in one relationship and never again, also the type of relationship has little importance to the fact of slavery


Those two seem like very different slaves. One is clingy, desperate, eager to throw her neck through whatever collar is held before them, the other is someone who perhaps never imagined bending her knee to a man until she met HIM. Frankly why anyone would want the former escapes me and it is the latter that intoxicated me, to be the one man among many who could inspire such from a woman with few equals.


Is the first always clingy and desperate? Inherent need is in all of us for something, but what makes us "weak" has many reasons. The problem with your version of the dichotomy is (what seems) assumption of this or that. The picture is much more nuanced and much less absolute among so many people—certainly you know this to be true with experience.

I'm a big believer in inherent need, but that doesn't take away one's ability to place that need wisely in the right hands, and having that sense about you doesn't mean you have to be distant and indomitable. Though I can appreciate the exclusive conquest that otherwise could have never been until the almighty "chosen one" appeared, I tend to find that those who need to harp on that paradigm and wear it like a badge are more often than not very self-impressed.




Kana -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 11:36:42 PM)

Sometimes the things that others demean are aspects of themselves they're unable to accept.


Down here in the dungeon we simply refer to this as "Ya spot it, ya got it." syndrome.




leadership527 -> RE: Slavery is bullshit (6/2/2010 11:39:53 PM)

I can easily recall back to my entry into this weird world of whips and tarps and blood spatters and slaves and whatnot. My "derision" (not exactly an accurate term) was born simply of a total shock to my world view. I was caught between my old familiar understandings of "how relationships work" which were clearly inaccurate and this new world where inexplicable things seemed common place. It wasn't so much either fear or identification with anything... it was just utter confusion.




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