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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 11:16:22 AM   
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Some enjoy it within the right context, usually during a scene or fighting play- like a kitten hissing and spitting as you hold it by the scruff. It's an honest emotional reaction.

I also enjoy it as a form of intimacy- using foul language and curse words as a form of closeness and a symbol of our humor and connection.

I don't know anyone who enjoys or accepts it when used in a serious non play context though.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 11:39:27 AM   
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i have lost my cool a couple of times, but swearing just feels kinda crass - having said that i remember not being able to sleep because my M at the time had a cold and was snoring his head off, so i went and slept on the sofa.  i was woken by him pulling the blanket of me and giving my bum a swipe - in my defence it was a bit of a shock but the 'fucking SHIT' that escaped my lips didnt go down at all well - i had my arse slapped all the way back upstairs and some more when we got into bed, to make matters worse after he went back to sleep the snoring was louder than ever - that was a long night  - but then i guess i had broken a cardinal rule, not to get out of bed (unless for a pee) until he said i could.

its a tough life (sigh)

but as a general rule, no - not even tempted, its just feels really rude and disrespectful.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 12:34:09 PM   
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I do not appreciate swearing at all, and tolerate little of it from my sub.  If she ever swore at me like that and meant it, I would review what had happened to make her lose respect for me to that point, and I would correct it if possible or else the relationship would be over.

If she cannot respect me, either I am a bad Dom or she a bad sub, or we are not suited.


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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 12:35:02 PM   
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That i can reminber, never happened... and if it does i believe that i will be punished hard... but i also believe that will never happen, not much of a swearing person...

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 12:39:28 PM   
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I swore at my former Master quite frequently, sometimes when I was mad, sometimes when I was just annoyed, and sometimes in a joking/loving way.

"Asshole" was the most common one, and one that he wore as a badge of honor.
Me saying "You do realize that you're the biggest asshole on the planet, right?" right before, or during carrying out his exact order to the letter would leave him grinning, almost proudly "Yeah I know, and you love it about me".

I also have a tendency to swear a lot during play and punishment "Aaaaah! Motherfucker, that FUCKING hurts!"
Usually the swearing becomes more intense right before I reach my "breaking-point" of where I feel I physically cannot take anymore what's being done to me.
After pushing past that point (which I intensely enjoy doing) the swearing stops and instead, I'm reduced to a mass of blubbering submission crying, begging him, pleading with him to stop (which he happily ignored until he felt like quitting).

How he dealt with my swearing would depend on the context in which it was said, and my (never his) mindset while I was saying it.





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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 12:47:36 PM   
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Ishtarr, if I was your Master I would be very turned on by such swearing, as you described it.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 12:49:51 PM   
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Swearing or saying bad words isn't generally my style, but I might do it as part of a role-playing scene. If I lost control enough to lash out in anger, verbally or physically, I'd be really mad at myself. Most likely, if someone drove me to that point, the relationship would be over.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 3:14:48 PM   
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I swear as naturally as I breathe and it will normally increase the more passionate/angry I get.
It's become a habit that I hardly notice anymore.

My EX never had an issue and he's be pretty quick with the profanity himself.
Directing profanity at him in one long stream when I was angry just made him grin and acted as foreplay.
Seeing that grin on his face I just knew I was in for a hell of a time.
I admit I wasn't above provoking him.

I think if a Master has an issue with a slaves vocabulary it needs to be discussed from the outset.
Just assuming Masters sensibilities aren't going to be offended without prior discussion is a bit unrealistic.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 3:29:30 PM   
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In conversation, argument, or discussion I find swearing a rather crude way of getting a point across, and I do my best to avoid it. I was raised in a bit of an old fashioned family and that just was not acceptable. Though, I have been known to occasionally cry out a swear word when the whip hits a little harder than I was ready for.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 3:38:17 PM   
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No, I've never sworn at him and he's not sworn at me. I wouldn't consider swearing at each other to be recreational but a sign of something being very wrong.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 3:39:18 PM   
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Carol and I are not verbally abusive to each other. This has nothing to do with an M/s dynamic for us. It's a result of love and manners.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 4:46:11 PM   
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I swear all the time, and so does he. We call each other pet names like "asshole" and "bitch" He never punishes me for it, but I can only remember one time where I was truly irate. He'd come to the bar where I was hanging out with friends and never spoke to me. He'd told me he had his son, so of course, I didn't expect him out that night, not that I was doing anything I wouldn't have done had I known he was there. What made me furious was the fact that he spoke to one of my friends but not to me and then told her not to tell me he was there. In the meantime, he sent text messages implying I was being watched and should behave. When I found out upon leaving the bar that he'd been there, I went ballistic and called him every name I could think of. He made light of it, which infuriated me even more. The next morning, he said he hoped I'd sobered up enough to rethink what I'd said. That was all. I was mortified.

Our name calling is usually silly. One night while lying in bed, I called him an asshole. I can't remember why. He started singing "He's An Asshole" which made me start giggling. Then he said he was a big smelly asshole that just farted. I dissolved into hysterics. He wanted to know, since he's such a big asshole, why he couldn't be a whole ass. Giggling, I told him he was only the hole in the ass, lest he get too conceited.


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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 4:50:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FlamingRedhead

I swear all the time, and so does he. We call each other pet names like "asshole" and "bitch" He never punishes me for it, but I can only remember one time where I was truly irate. He'd come to the bar where I was hanging out with friends and never spoke to me. He'd told me he had his son, so of course, I didn't expect him out that night, not that I was doing anything I wouldn't have done had I known he was there. What made me furious was the fact that he spoke to one of my friends but not to me and then told her not to tell me he was there. In the meantime, he sent text messages implying I was being watched and should behave. When I found out upon leaving the bar that he'd been there, I went ballistic and called him every name I could think of. He made light of it, which infuriated me even more. The next morning, he said he hoped I'd sobered up enough to rethink what I'd said. That was all. I was mortified.

Our name calling is usually silly. One night while lying in bed, I called him an asshole. I can't remember why. He started singing "He's An Asshole" which made me start giggling. Then he said he was a big smelly asshole that just farted. I dissolved into hysterics. He wanted to know, since he's such a big asshole, why he couldn't be a whole ass. Giggling, I told him he was only the hole in the ass, lest he get too conceited.




I loved reading this. Thank you for sharing!

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 8:24:03 PM   
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I never swear.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 9:48:44 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

Ishtarr, if I was your Master I would be very turned on by such swearing, as you described it.



Well, I wouldn't say that he got very turned on by it... but you could defiantly tell that he liked it.
The few times I swore at him in an inappropriate way... well I regretted it... a LOT.




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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 5/31/2010 11:46:31 PM   
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I don't usually swear...and if I do it's of the "mock indignation" variety...

Ex: After a bit of unfulfilled teasing I had to go grocery shopping...at the checkout counter I realized I hadn't brought any money and had to return home... when I told him what happened he said that if I would get my thoughts out from between my legs it wouldn't have happened... my reply was a laughing "you bastard". it had been his fault I was so distracted.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 6/1/2010 12:49:25 AM   
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As both LP and my first sig line can attest, I swear a lot during play (Mr.P was quite amused when I called him a 'fucker' for hitting the SDS for the 20th time).
Outside of play, not so much. Teasing stuff is cool, but if I am swearing at him and mean it, something is seriously wrong in the relationship.



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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 6/1/2010 2:57:34 AM   
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I am another one who doesn't swear, usually. I would NEVER yell at my Master unless there was something very very wrong. We actually discussed this once, and he told me that if I ever actually yelled at him, he would know there was something dangerously wrong with me and that punishment would be the furthest thing from his mind, because if I am yelling? I'm on the edge of a real breakdown of some sort, and need compassion. I simply don't yell or swear.

However, I do say WHATEVER he wants me to say during play. If that means he wants to hear me beg him to fuck me, or to call myself/describe ridiculously vulgar things? His wish is my law. He enjoys coaxing profanity from me with a good hard using.

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 6/1/2010 3:27:58 AM   
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A thought-provoking question.
I would never be attracted to a man who swears in the vanilla world, so this has never arisen, and would not be acceptable if it happened.

Which makes it that much more arousing when prim and proper good men are bound, 'forced' to talk dirty and use real words!
'What am I going to do to you?'
gulp, pause, 'Mistress, You're going to f-fuck your good little dog's ass.'
Delectable!

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RE: Swearing at Masters/Mistresses - 6/1/2010 5:45:12 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

A thought-provoking question.
I would never be attracted to a man who swears in the vanilla world, so this has never arisen, and would not be acceptable if it happened.

Which makes it that much more arousing when prim and proper good men are bound, 'forced' to talk dirty and use real words!
'What am I going to do to you?'
gulp, pause, 'Mistress, You're going to f-fuck your good little dog's ass.'
Delectable!


Please. You have no problem in your profile referring to a potential sub as "a good dog" but you abhor swearing?

What kind of dudes do you chicks actually attract?

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