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To expand on what the lovely Wyld says (smooches), not even slightly. I can only imagine what would happen if I told my Master I hadn't done something because I was "compelled" to listen to music instead. Let's just say I would not sit, walk, or stand comfortably for a very long time.

What I gleemed from the OP regarding music and things he immersed himself into, was that this were activities he choose to do over going out and socializing or interacting with other people. Basically, pent up time where he isolated himself in his room listening to music or reading. That in part, his social skills have suffered as a result of it some. That this may have something to do, with why he has weak boundaries when interacting with others in person, simply because he's not used to telling other people "no". When he does get the fuck out of the house or interact with people, he does not want to displease other people because he's trying to socialize and not want to loose what little interaction he does manage to achieve with others. (Mind you, I'm formulating my best educated guess deductions based upon information presented in the OP). In a nutshell, his coping skills for dealing with social or peer pressure are weak because he's been a music listening, book reading introvert held up in his room.

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Oh fuck me...

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Oh fuck me...

If you insist.

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

Actually, the more I read it, the more I am convinced that I have Addictive personality.
I finally got diagnosis.
But I never had so extreme addictions as those described in this article, and luckily I wasn't
addicted to destructive things.

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Maybe I wasn't really addicted to porn, since I could stop at any moment, but I had the habit to masturbate a little too much while indulging in various erotic fantasies online.
However, if I had some real life things to do which would force me to go away from computer, I could go for a week or two without any porn or erotic fantasy, but after that time, I'd go back to it.

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External Control that interupted your pattern of behavior. Sounds like to me if you were left to your own idle devices, that you would continue this pattern of behavior, until another fixation or obsession takes hold to over-ride it?

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
Odd, I could have sworn he said he was doing things like listening to music instead of getting things done that needed doing - not in the OP but elsewhere in the thread. I really can't be bothered to look but I'm sure of it.

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External Control that interupted your pattern of behavior. Sounds like to me if you were left to your own idle devices, that you would continue this pattern of behavior, until another fixation or obsession takes hold to over-ride it?

Not always, sometimes I would simply firmly decide to stop doing it.
For example from January 27th to April 6th 2008, I haven't used computer at all. Just to prove to myself that I can. And this had very beneficial effects on me.

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As I said, another obsession to take hold and over-ride it. You were fixated upon knowing if you could do this or not, so therefore it really did happen. :-) Don't you think or believe how you reacted was rather extreme? You were fixated upon doing so, so it actually happened. You replaced one fixation with another in this case. Not using a computer "At All" from Jan 27 until April 6th was/is rather extreme.

What I'm seeing here is the Fixation becoming a bit of a mask, to the fixation itself. Where you were fixated upon controlling your own fixated internet use.

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It would have been more impressive if you could have limited your computer time to a "reasonable amount" without even putting an exact number on what a "reasonable amount" is.

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It would have been more impressive if you could have limited your computer time to a "reasonable amount" without even putting an exact number on what a "reasonable amount" is.

Yeah, you're right. The same as with alcohol.
But, I simply can't do it. I can't limit my computer time to a reasonable amount, unless I am forced to do it by some other obligations or if I am in a period of intensive social life (which happens from time to time, mostly in the summer).

It seems you got it right, I'm an addict.

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It seems you got it right, I'm an addict.

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telling yourself you'll manage with just one drink is an illusion.

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telling yourself you'll manage with just one drink is an illusion.

I know a lot of smokers who were never able to restrict the number of cigarettes they smoke. They only succeeded when they decided to quit smoking totally.

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However, many smokers and even alcholics can establish and set life priorities and reach those goals. Do you see where I'm coming from? There are some extremely functional people with additions. The problem is when the additions start to cause problems to the point that priorities get screwed up. It's okay to have more than one drink, ironic many people will have at least a couple of drinks when they drink or go out. So if you can stop at a reasonable number it's okay that you drink more than one. If however, you can't handle drinking at all (meaning you'll drink and drink and drink yourself stupid, or your personality becomes mean and angry and you want to fight and do harmful things, it's best to not drink).

Again, many people smoke and drink and still manage to maintain their priorities. Meaning they won't drink while on the job, they will wait until after work, then set a reasonable time limit to be at a bar, for an hour or two, then go home, do work around the house or whatever else. So what if they had 1,2,3,4 beers at the bar. Basically, it's manament of your time and setting priorities.

Hope this helps you some.