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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/5/2010 5:18:51 PM

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Have you ever had sex with anyone? You seem to know so little of what really goes on. Honestly, get out there and do it.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/5/2010 6:14:15 PM

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These are interesting fantasies and I can see the appeal but they will always be fantasies. Besides if you accomplished some of these, you would just think to yourself "this is what they really wanted from the start or they wouldn't go through with it" and it will lose the attraction that you had for it in the first place, and would just be messy and unfun.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/5/2010 8:17:59 PM

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I have turned my former dominant into a little fluffy princess, but I am a switch and I think he is WAY more little princess than dom actually. It didn't make me feel special, as it was just kind of the way our relationship evolved. We both thought it was funny, since it sounded like bad femdom fiction. I wouldn't dream of doing anything similar with Master, as he is in no way submissive.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/5/2010 10:59:24 PM

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I'm not being facetious when I say this: one of the best things I ever did for my emotional well-being was to stop trying to be special and just try to be the best me I could. I may not be special, but damn, I am the finest lucylucy you will ever meet!

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/5/2010 11:04:33 PM

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I'm not being facetious when I say this: one of the best things I ever did for my emotional well-being was to stop trying to be special and just try to be the best me I could. I may not be special, but damn, I am the finest lucylucy you will ever meet!

This was really sweet!

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/6/2010 10:07:15 AM

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quote:

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I'm not being facetious when I say this: one of the best things I ever did for my emotional well-being was to stop trying to be special and just try to be the best me I could. I may not be special, but damn, I am the finest lucylucy you will ever meet!

This was really sweet!\

Make that "I'm the finest, sweetest lucylucy you will ever meet!"

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/7/2010 5:51:49 AM

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I am special - to him. If I wasn't, I wouldn't be in this relationship.

As to the stuff the op listed, I'm bemused. What's special about lying about your true agenda, deliberately getting into a noncompatible relationship, and attempting to manipulate others to make them unhappy? Special isn't the word I would use for that.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/7/2010 8:00:56 AM

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/8/2010 12:10:45 AM

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That was just plain nasty! Just because he's young doesnt mean he can't ask questions.

In answer to Socrates question.......myself.....no, i have never wished any of those things...i am living my fantasy of having a wonderful Master who loves me as much as i do him.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/8/2010 11:14:19 AM

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This thread is great! I got a few good laughs of several of the posts!! Here here to humor, view points, and opinions!

Keep up the good work,

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 5:36:10 AM

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I'm working on it. I fantasize finding a young (48-60+) lady of somewhat cruel and imaginative disposition who might enjoy playing painful melodies upon an aging, but not nearly worn out body. That plus sign, by the way, extends quite a few years.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 2:54:26 PM

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My philosophy on success was formed in part by my late Sensei who introduced me to The Book of Five Rings (Go Rin No Sho) is a text on kenjutsu and the martial arts in general, written by the samurai warrior Miyamoto Musashi circa 1645. It is considered a classic treatise on military strategy, much like Sun Tzu's The Art of War and Chanakya's Arthashastra. I seriously recommend it to all Masters and Mistresses for obvious reasons and to all others for personal development.

Really? I found it nothing extraordinary and wouldn't recommend it as a personal guide to anyone.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 9:18:51 PM

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Took me three or four reads before I started to see what is there. It was influential then I finally acquired the "Sword no Sword" technique. Part of the teaching is to become one with nature and to use nature to your advantage leaving no footprints on the environment. Still no one book or system suite all each must find their own system and books.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 10:19:29 PM

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I haven't posted on here in a long time (in fact if I remember right, my last post was on the kinksters who play warcraft), but I feel I can can chime in here. I met Akasha on a gaming thread here and we started a gaming guild together and have been talking daily ever since. She never even suggested I become a member of her site and never asked me to buy her anything. In fact - I've built up a small collection of toys and gear, all of which were gifts from her. Almost a year and a half after starting to talk to her, I flew out from Montreal to California and did spend the weekend at her house and had an awesome time. I get along with her husband very well, especially so because we happen to have a lot of common interests.

Akasha is everything she says she is and more. She is awesome.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 10:21:05 PM

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I haven't posted on here in a long time (in fact if I remember right, my last post was on the kinksters who play warcraft), but I feel I can can chime in here. I met Akasha on a gaming thread here and we started a gaming guild together and have been talking daily ever since. She never even suggested I become a member of her site and never asked me to buy her anything. In fact - I've built up a small collection of toys and gear, all of which were gifts from her. Almost a year and a half after starting to talk to her, I flew out from Montreal to California and did spend the weekend at her house and had an awesome time. I get along with her husband very well, especially so because we happen to have a lot of common interests.

Akasha is everything she says she is and more. She is awesome.

Very sweet of you. See you this summer (no, you aren't getting out of that, just like you didn't get out of the rubber straitjacket)

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 10:27:46 PM

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Re. the OP's topic, how terrible to try and manipulate someone to make yourself feel special. If I discovered that someone was trying to change my personality just for kicks, I'd kick them in the balls (or vagina), preferably in public, make a terrible scene (saying things like "manipulative bastard" and "user"), and gleefully share it with you all online.

I've done it before, and I'll do it again.

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 11:33:49 PM

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Re. the OP's topic, how terrible to try and manipulate someone to make yourself feel special. If I discovered that someone was trying to change my personality just for kicks, I'd kick them in the balls (or vagina), preferably in public, make a terrible scene (saying things like "manipulative bastard" and "user"), and gleefully share it with you all online.

I've done it before, and I'll do it again.

You do this when???? After you have been used or manipulated or before and if so do you check and double check that the sid is trying to manipulate or just has bad communication skills and is really trying to do something for you?

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/9/2010 11:54:15 PM

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Yeah. I want to be special. I want to be the last man that my next submissive ever has.

Now, where the hell IS she?

probably other end of thte world. like australia

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/10/2010 1:24:18 AM

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But where? Where the crows fly backwards and the populace are called "Crow Eaters" or where I am where the climate is perfect, we win the State of Origin Football. cane toads rule and the populace are called "Banana Benders"? I wonder where she can be?

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RE: Trying to be special - does it EVER work? - 6/10/2010 7:43:38 AM

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You do this when???? After you have been used or manipulated or before and if so do you check and double check that the sid is trying to manipulate or just has bad communication skills and is really trying to do something for you?

After I had been casually cheated on. It actually didn't bother me, but sometimes making a scene is quite fun.

And I make sure my sources are accurate before I act. Nothing worse than kicking a fellow in the nads for no reason.

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