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BitaTruble -> RE: How do you see yourself? (6/7/2010 6:43:05 AM)
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
Hello everyone,
CarrieO's recent thread on "online presence" got me thinking.
The following questions are kind of in line with what I'm asking, not specifically... just a sign to point the way.
How do you see your personality? Is it the same online as offline? Do you express yourself differently? Is there something you do differently here versus in real life, face to face meetings/discussions?
Both offline and online, I'm even-tempered and tend more towards the serious but have been known to banter on occasion. I feel most comfortable in that regard bantering with folks whom I know and only poke fun if my internal sensors allow me to do so without being hurtful. For example, Himself is great at banter and I can handle of lot of poking myself but I would never poke fun at someone like my daughter because it would hurt her feelings. If I poke fun at someone on line, it is because I know they can handle it and I am genuine in my regard for them, their wit and their ability to handle such banter. That said, just because I may *not* banter with someone doesn't mean I don't care for them or like them - it's just that if I do, then for sure I like them so my banter and poking done is along a line of, "I really like you as a person.. so this is a way for me to entertain and laugh with you knowing you can handle it."
I'm open minded to a point but I also have a double standard when it comes to D/s or M/s. That's true of online and offline and not something that is so important that I think I'll take the time to work on it at this point. I'm reflective and thoughtful and tend to view most people in a positive light. If I can't hold that view, then I disengage and withdraw and rarely give a second chance to someone unless there is longevity in the relationship. I can be fooled once but rarely can be fooled twice by the same person and if someone tells me that don't want to be around me for whatever reason, I make sure that happens and, if online, I ignore or block and if offline, I just stay away.. completely. If I get dumped, that's good enough for me because I only want to be around people who actually want me to be around and I don't try to second guess *why* someone may have choosen to dump me although I might find their reasoning foolish if they dumped me for some bullshit or shallow reason. If they don't tell me why they backed off or stepped away than all I can do is go with my gut and best guess as to why and that's pretty much that and that's also true both offline and online. I'm not naive but I have to admit that I don't *always* get the joke and if I don't get it I tend to ignore it. That said, I am fairly insightful and intelligent so I actually may get the joke.. I just don't think it's funny. That happens a lot when Himself thinks he's onstage even if I'm his only audience. I'm good at keeping him humble in that respect. [:)]
I see myself as a teacher and student heavily weighted with a penchant for D/s or M/s relationships and BDSM hobbies and prefer that my friends also enjoy BDSM and engage in M/s or D/s relationships so they don't freak out when I'm running naked through the house, Himself grabs me by the hair and drags me over his lap to have his way with my ass. It's just easier that way. :)
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