Missokyst
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Aye,,, most women I know would have been scared off, and with good cause in most cases. I have never been among the norm. It is the knowlege that I am not like most women which often makes me question my personality quirks. I choose to be a loner, but I do it in crowds. I fear what people think of me, yet I have no problems leading and doing it successfully. Leading comes naturally to me, but would willingly follow some men. I am a dichotomy of black and white, yes and no. And either I have been very lucky, or very intuitive in the choices I have made since my mid teens.
Most women I know would have said, PASS. But for whatever reason there is a trigger that flips inside me which defies reasoning and carries me along in the tide.
It is not something anyone can do to me. I have to feel an initial safety in their presence.
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ORIGINAL: Andalusite
Kana, Rush's "Freewill" came out in 1980, but I hadn't really though of it as old.  I didn't hear it until the late 90's, so I suppose it seems newer to me.
Missokyst, continuing to push for private play at his home rather than public play after me expressing discomfort would have scared me off, and made me felt he couldn't "read" me in play, and wouldn't respect limits in that context either. I would have been much more clear in my discomfort at his second attempt. If he brought it up a third time, I would most likely have canceled the playdate and either found someone else to go with, or made other plans. It would't really matter what D/s or BDSM orientation he was - plenty of men who identify as submissive are actually more domineering than many Dominant men I know. I'm not saying that you should have had that response, just that's how I would most likely have reacted.
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RE: A choice.. or a decision? - 
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