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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/11/2010 8:28:27 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		And your point is???????

I've been know to lead a slave on a leash around my local markets, taken her on a leash with Nets and I shopping at my local mall. Taken her via public transport (Bus and train) into Brisbane on a leash and through Brisbane for the day and returned home via public transport and only one person commented how loving it was to watch us and how much she loved the maile collar. Taken the slave (leashed) to the Ettamuga pub for lunch and the Australian Bush Museum next to it. Had some Japanese tourists take plenty of photos of us. Only had one person ask if this was legal and one police officer comment that he likes the collar and leash and asked the slave if she was ok with this of which she answered that she was and loved it. Same slave begged the privilege of (off leash) serving Neets and I our refreshments on her knees and asked to be allowed to remain kneeling next to me whilst we ate.

I may not do this again leading a girl on a leash in public) only because it may give the youngsters a wrong impression about relationships, but then I may do it again locally. Anyone watching couldn't help but see the love and affection there was between the three of us.


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 12:07:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Public displays within reason are acceptable- Mistress Sonia Vaughn and myself were at the mall.  Her slave had to tie his shoe, she made him kiss her boots while he was down there.  I thought it was great!

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 12:21:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		That's wonderful to hear Bear.  I'm glad you ran in to that officer actually.  He was sensible and concerned for the well being, without being taken aback that she was on a leash in the first place.  It is surprising how many people are thoroughly nonplussed by seeing such a thing also.  I remember the times I would walk my pet as well and no one seemed to be at all bothered by it.  Some people don't seem to take into account that sometimes it's not about the D-type's desire to walk their S-type, but there's a psychological and emotional comfort to the S-type, having that collar and leash on them, that they want, crave and in some ways literally need such a thing sometimes.  Of course, not all have this in them, that's just ridiculous to think that, but to some, it's certainly there, and in those cases it's no more a sexual thing than a child wandering the store with their blankie or teddybear.  It's simply a security thing, knowing that Sir/Ma'am is there and that they are safe, secure and cared for.


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 12:50:57 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		The lass was terribly afraid of getting lost so the leash was her version of a safety line. There are enough Goths who wander around so we'd be confused with them especially as I always wear black

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 1:23:03 AM   
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The lass was terribly afraid of getting lost so the leash was her version of a safety line. There are enough Goths who wander around so we'd be confused with them especially as I always wear black



THIS was my point IB, kinksters are not the only ones who use a collar and leash in public. Far from it actually.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 1:24:54 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Sort of harks back to the chain gang days huh? We have a better dress code though

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 1:53:20 AM   
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Sort of harks back to the chain gang days huh? We have a better dress code though





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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 2:37:16 AM   
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Why perform in public? To give some losers a wank?

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 2:47:55 AM   
ExquisiteStings


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Status: offline 		In response to "reynardfox", Hey some people like to be flogged in public. And others want to watch.  Not everyone is gonna want the same thing for the same reason. Who are you to say what's best for everyone or the reasons that others do what they do?
Not all public displays are for the purposes of "wank" material, ignoramus. It can also be for educational purposes.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 2:49:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		And as a PS: to reynardfox; this obviously applies to way more than just flogging. 

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 2:59:14 AM   
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kinksters are not the only ones who use a collar and leash in public.

I've always assumed that those goths were also kinksters. How does one get lead around on a leash and not be kinky

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 4:56:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut
kinksters are not the only ones who use a collar and leash in public.

I've always assumed that those goths were also kinksters. How does one get lead around on a leash and not be kinky



On this we agree. From what I know of Goths, at least here in Montreal, many of them are kinky and they are (or at least were as Goth is slowly fading) at the forefront of the Fet scene here.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 5:15:22 AM   
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We have similar upbringings then, because at my grandparents your dressed for dinner, and I don't mean formal, but presentable. Jeans at church? Never.


We did indeed have similar upbringings.

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I went to lunch yesterday with my honey and we went to a casual little seafood place on the water, I wore jeans, and espadrilles. All good. However, it's Friday, we are dining at a fantastic elegant french bistro, Francine, and I will be properly attired as will he. It isn't one or the other, just like you said, and hopefully I won't witness any blowjobs there either. ;) I do want to see duck confit and foie gras though. :) I just won't eat all day..lol.


Oh yum! I do hope you enjoyed your meal. If you ever make it to Montreal, do let me take you to a few little French restaurant gems!

quote:

Oh and you are quite the paragon of lovely and elegant yourself...


Thank you for the kind words, Aynne.

quote:

Back on topic. He recently had back surgery and is temporarily using a cane. I tie his shoes quite often, and I certainly see nothing inappropriate it to do so in public. I also order for him usually, he likes it. It really isn't anything to do with our "dynamic" he is just more comfortable with me ordering in high end places, his ex-wife wouldn't dine at such places, so it's just something he asks me to do. I hope no one sees that as an inappropriate diisplay of anything other than courtesy. Any more than how he assists me with putting on my coat, pulling out my chair and always standing when I approach the table. Dominants and chivalry can very much go hand in hand. I wouldn't be with a man that wasnt that way.


Dominants and chivalry do go hand in hand, as it does with submissive men and really all men in my opinion. Again, this might be a cultural thing, but if I go to a business lunch, my male colleagues ensure to take my coat or pull my chair. Not all men here are chivalrous, that's true. But the ones I work with and associate with are. I really do appreciate it as well.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 6:05:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: DaddysInkedSlut
kinksters are not the only ones who use a collar and leash in public.

I've always assumed that those goths were also kinksters. How does one get lead around on a leash and not be kinky



Does that mean everyone who wears a collar is also kinky??

The reality is there are people out there that wear these things and do these things who are not involved in bdsm lifestyle.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 6:38:59 AM   
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I mean doing KINK in public.
Dragging a tranny down the street.
Walking a subbie like a dog across the street...you know...PUBLIC.


Oh, we're actually back on topic now?  Cool.

In all seriousness, the first example isn't automatically a kink.  If a person really is transitioning, they may be living as the gender that they are transitioning towards.  They don't just show up for surgery one day as a male and the next day they are a female.  You honestly have no idea if that person who was born genetically male that is wearing that dress to get a kink on or because that person suffers from gender dysphoria.

The second one I'm almost willing to give you because it's either one of us or someone who is goth.  For the record, no, not all goth people are kinky, though there is some cross over.  One of the best advantages that the goth folks brought us with their choice of fashion is that ours became more acceptable in public.  (Being older, I'm still not thrilled about a collar having a different meaning between the cultures, but that's just Me.  I don't need a lecture on the subject.)

My point of this is, being kinky, there are a lot of things out there, due to our personal backgrounds, folks might automatically assume are kinky that really aren't.  Rochesub pulled up some excellent examples of this in the way he conducts himself toward his Domme.  You honestly don't know if he's serving her by opening doors or carrying her packages while shopping or if he was just being a gentleman.  My husband does the same things and it doesn't have a thing to do with kink.  It has to do with the way he treats Me.

If you're going to take a stance about being against kink in public, along with defining "public" as the thread started out, you might also want to access where the "kink" point really is.  Not everything you see that you think is kinky necessarily is kinky.  The subject is a bit broad.


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 7:16:16 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		Most people are kinky in one way or another, my friends and family are not kinky, they are plain warped and perverted. Me? I'm as straight as a die (after being part melted)... 

Point it what is kink to me may not be kinky to someone else. This is the beauty of having such a veritable diversity of kinkiness and the whole spectrum of intensity to boot.

Kink is such a personal thing, much like fashion and good food and fine dinning. I could if I stretch the imagination, add sex in here to because most of us either love or are addicted to sex and what is a good head job for some is a Hooo Hum.. boring for others. But being a Virgo I'm quite innocent in those matters..

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 11:15:26 AM   
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Oh, we're actually back on topic now?  Cool.

In all seriousness, the first example isn't automatically a kink.  If a person really is transitioning, they may be living as the gender that they are transitioning towards.  They don't just show up for surgery one day as a male and the next day they are a female.  You honestly have no idea if that person who was born genetically male that is wearing that dress to get a kink on or because that person suffers from gender dysphoria.

The second one I'm almost willing to give you because it's either one of us or someone who is goth.  For the record, no, not all goth people are kinky, though there is some cross over.  One of the best advantages that the goth folks brought us with their choice of fashion is that ours became more acceptable in public.  (Being older, I'm still not thrilled about a collar having a different meaning between the cultures, but that's just Me.  I don't need a lecture on the subject.)

My point of this is, being kinky, there are a lot of things out there, due to our personal backgrounds, folks might automatically assume are kinky that really aren't.  Rochesub pulled up some excellent examples of this in the way he conducts himself toward his Domme.  You honestly don't know if he's serving her by opening doors or carrying her packages while shopping or if he was just being a gentleman.  My husband does the same things and it doesn't have a thing to do with kink.  It has to do with the way he treats Me.

If you're going to take a stance about being against kink in public, along with defining "public" as the thread started out, you might also want to access where the "kink" point really is.  Not everything you see that you think is kinky necessarily is kinky.  The subject is a bit broad.




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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/12/2010 11:28:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		It all depends.  Those two word terms can mean a million things to a million different people.  Some things can be done in certain public situations.  Depends on what you are doing and who is around.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/13/2010 7:32:44 AM   
picardtim


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Status: offline 		i think public is ok within reason.
like someone said earlier that he was leading a sub around on a leash. i think that is ok,
and it is something that all of you need to figure out on your own. if one is not comfortable with it it is not going to work out


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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/13/2010 7:45:31 AM   
monochromaniac


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ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas
Walking a tranny down the street while he is warring a leash and a pink poodle skirt is NOT appropriate,


(Haven't read through the whole thread just yet)
Clearly, you've never been to Brighton. This thing goes on daily, and nobody cares, because - guess what - it's just clothes. People have the right to wear what they want.
That's like saying that when I dress up in my lovely gothic lolita dresses, it's not appropriate because that's not your taste in fashion. Stop being silly.

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