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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 12:29:41 PM   
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Funny, I'm having that discussion with someone now. I wholeheartedly agree.

Do tell.


It is rare that both parties entering the exchange are self aware and liberated from self-inflicted forms of slavery. As such, it's a little challenging for you to shine the light on something in another that you have difficulty pinpointing within yourself. To that I'll add, I don't feel most are finding their "real selves" in the manner it's put forth, but typically a depiction of self as constructed by the other party.

As we know there's a million ways to look at a painting. But it's creator recognizes the meaning behind every detail it contains. For most, finding the answers beneath the strokes is willingly assigned to others rather than managed from within. As such, it's inevitably that the supposed discoveries are later refuted as falsehoods and mistakes.

~porcelaine


That's the nature of people to a degree though. A willingness to look over things in all aspects of life rather than facing things for head on. If people spent time focused on fixing themselves instead of expecting others to find those issues for them(or just plain looking the other way entirely because they can't or don't want to look inside), they might be further along, rather than taking years after the relationship has began to get to a "sweet" spot.




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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 12:31:29 PM   
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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 12:50:51 PM   
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Its just too bad everyones not as evolved as you!

If only you weren't such a whore..I suppose whores have a bit of wisdom too..

It's too bad they choose to spread other things around instead.

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 12:50:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Icarys
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That's the nature of people to a degree though. A willingness to look over things in all aspects of life rather than facing things for head on. If people spent time focused on fixing themselves instead of expecting others to find those issues for them(or just plain looking the other way entirely because they can't or don't want to look inside), they might be further along, rather than taking years after the relationship has began to get to a "sweet" spot.





to be honest though, i dont think generally that people are that good at looking at them selves.  they dont see the common denominator as themselves, not because they consider themselves perfect at all, just that they see themselves from the skewed perspectives that got them to who they are right now.  most people feel justified that they are a certain way because of life and things happening to them.  the next step of course is to deal with those certain ways if they keep proving to be the common denominator in every relationship they end up leaving.  but the trick is recognising that, not many people do.

part of my letting go curve was recognising my mistakes in the past and owning up to them and realising my part in things going wrong.  once you start on that path it gets easier and you get kinder to youreself, but i do remember a time when i blamed everyone else and did not want to see how my mindset and views on love, life and the universe had affected people who loved me.  it was all theyre fault and none of mine.

it was liberating to realise this in the end because i then had the insight to avoid the problems that had occurred before.  not easy, barriers and blocks are built up for a reason, but at least recognising them meant that i had a better chance of making my partner happy.

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 12:53:07 PM   
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Its just too bad everyones not as evolved as you!

If only you weren't such a whore..I suppose whores have a bit of wisdom too..

It's too bad they choose to spread other things around instead.


Im not a whore, I am a SLUT!!!!
With all your wisdom I would expect you to know the difference!

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 12:59:29 PM   
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to be honest though, i dont think generally that people are that good at looking at them selves. they dont see the common denominator as themselves, not because they consider themselves perfect at all, just that they see themselves from the skewed perspectives that got them to who they are right now. most people feel justified that they are a certain way because of life and things happening to them. the next step of course is to deal with those certain ways if they keep proving to be the common denominator in every relationship they end up leaving. but the trick is recognising that, not many people do.

part of my letting go curve was recognising my mistakes in the past and owning up to them and realising my part in things going wrong. once you start on that path it gets easier and you get kinder to youreself, but i do remember a time when i blamed everyone else and did not want to see how my mindset and views on love, life and the universe had affected people who loved me. it was all theyre fault and none of mine.

Absolutely.

It boils down really to the inability to except responsibility and the refusal to hold yourself accountable. I think once you get past those "hurdles" you can begin to take a peek inside and maybe gain headway.


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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:00:45 PM   
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Its just too bad everyones not as evolved as you!

If only you weren't such a whore..I suppose whores have a bit of wisdom too..

It's too bad they choose to spread other things around instead.


Im not a whore, I am a SLUT!!!!
With all your wisdom I would expect you to know the difference!

You obviously are not self-aware enough to know yourself and the path you walk.

Stop interrupting the conversation.

< Message edited by Icarys -- 6/13/2010 1:02:32 PM >

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:25:05 PM   
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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:26:43 PM   
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Oh come on, fornication and the exploitation of primevil carnal desire is what ascension is all about. :-/

I'm not sure ascending is what will happen if she doesn't mind her whorish ways

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:29:33 PM   
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Oh come on, fornication and the exploitation of primevil carnal desire is what ascension is all about. :-/
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Yes and there have been many religions that included sex as a ritual thing. Ask a hindu or someone that does tantra.

Im a healer ya know

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:32:18 PM   
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Oh come on, fornication and the exploitation of primevil carnal desire is what ascension is all about. :-/
,

Yes and there have been many religions that included sex as a ritual thing. Ask a hindu or someone that does tantra.

Im a healer ya know

Self denial....(Shakes head)


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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:35:24 PM   
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Oh come on, fornication and the exploitation of primevil carnal desire is what ascension is all about. :-/
,

Yes and there have been many religions that included sex as a ritual thing. Ask a hindu or someone that does tantra.

Im a healer ya know

Self denial....(Shakes head)



ICarys know not of what he speaks. I really am a healer.

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:37:33 PM   
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ICarys know not of what he speaks. I really am a healer.

I suppose if blow jobs were considered medicine you be a pharmacist as well?

Thank you nurse, may I have another!


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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:41:24 PM   
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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:43:08 PM   
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ICarys know not of what he speaks. I really am a healer.

I suppose if blow jobs were considered medicine you be a pharmacist as well?

Thank you nurse, may I have another!


No I am a licensed clinical massage therapist and massage instuctor. But I am good with everything I do and yes. Blowjobs are one of them.

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:44:07 PM   
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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:45:50 PM   
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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:47:05 PM   
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ICarys know not of what he speaks. I really am a healer.

I suppose if blow jobs were considered medicine you be a pharmacist as well?

Thank you nurse, may I have another!


No I am a licensed clinical massage therapist and massage instuctor. But I am good with everything I do and yes. Blowjobs are one of them.

Right up there with foot doctor!


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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:49:24 PM   
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For me, the more I trust(You pay), the more barriers are dropped(Clothes). I am able to shed my armor(Inhibitions since I can't shed my drawers..Don't wear any..Helps with the fish smell).

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So evolved you dont know how far to take it and when youve hit below the belt. Way to go with your evolution.

And dont insult my work. asshole.

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RE: letting go - 6/13/2010 1:51:02 PM   
Icarys


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For me, the more I trust(You pay), the more barriers are dropped(Clothes). I am able to shed my armor(Inhibitions since I can't shed my drawers..Don't wear any..Helps with the fish smell).

Translated.



So evolved you dont know how far to take it and when youve hit below the belt. Way to go with your evolution.

And dont insult my work. asshole.

I never claimed to be evolved lol.


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