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Jeffff -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:18:43 PM)
Merc, I have to agree.... really.... :). Anytime I have ever seen someone ACT dominant, it always looked like a preformance.

LadyPact -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:26:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NewDomCouple87 Only in an attempt to prove a point. [;)] Get used to Me. I do it all of the time. [:)] (I also laughed so hard, I think I scared the neighbor's dog. [8D]) One of the biggest mistakes that happens when people decide that they're interested in this thing, oddly enough, is that they have to be a certain way. I'll even bet there are folks out there who might think that it's 'undommely' to think of Me sitting here, in the middle of the afternoon, laughing Myself silly at a message board. Pfffftttt. In their head, they might have some preconceived notion that Dommes are serious, with some kind of stern face that wouldn't know a sense of humor if it hit them in the head. Now, which kind of Dom do you really want to be?

Jeffff -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:30:31 PM)
I wanted to be the serious kind! It didn't work out.

Icarys -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:31:28 PM)
Submitting and obeying your dominant partner is a submissive "act"...That kinda squashes the whole "there aint no" arguement for me. What do I know...I'll never write a book or probably have the extensive experience some of you uber doms have :>

marie2 -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:32:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 Jefff wears a tiara that matches his mandals, and he doesn't care who thinks he's a princess! I wonder how long a tiara would stay on while he's being pegged from behind? Couldn't resist. Lets say , for the sake of argument, such a thing happend. I would get a chin strap for the tiara! Who are you kidding? You would just use your Hello Kitty clip-on bows for the occasion.

divi -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:33:55 PM)
Puts a line through Jeff's name ..

LadyPact -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:38:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys Submitting and obeying your dominant partner is a submissive "act"...That kinda squashes the whole "there aint no" arguement for me. What do I know...I'll never write a book or probably have the extensive experience some of you uber doms have :> I still don't think the act itself is important. Don't get Me wrong. The obedience sure is. Somehow, I just got a kick out of the fact that you really said "uber". Have you ever seen that parody using World of Warcraft toons? There's one that talks entirely in computer speak. He's uber, uber L33T. http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&cd=11&ved=0CD8QtwIwCg&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DiEWgs6YQR9A&rct=j&q=wow+uber+uber&ei=2-cbTPz4O9L-nAeq3bGZDg&usg=AFQjCNFmeIhSmheBLG023053RASMJ5i3cw

marie2 -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:38:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys Submitting and obeying your dominant partner is a submissive "act"...That kinda squashes the whole "there aint no" arguement for me. I can see it from this angle as well. And it was actually Ironbear's remark "Act like a dominant" that really struck a chord, as we are all sitting here saying that no acts are dominant. So how does one act like dominant? To me, it's really a bit of a grayish area, and while I can see that an act, in and of itself, cannot be classified as dominant or submissive, there are certainly behaviors and demeanors that, in general , mark these personality traits the we call dominance and submission. We may not want to admit to that, but then why is it that we can sense our counterparts in these things...It must be SOMETHING that they are doing, or saying that make them feel submissive or dominant to us.

barelynangel -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:39:38 PM)
There are people who mesh with the serious kind, there are people who mesh with the goofy balls, there are people who mesh with the inbetweens. To me you don't ask yourself what type of DOM do you want to be, you ask yourself what kind of person are you and then you build on the dominant concept from there. To me, trying to change who you are to hit a persona of a dom because you decided you want to be that kind of dom, doesn't work well for most and simply ends up with a lot of unhappy people. In order to be a Dom in my opinon one has to know themselves very well and as the old saying goes -- know thyself and the Dom will come -- if that is what is natural for you. angel

leadership527 -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:43:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I still don't think the act itself is important. Don't get Me wrong. The obedience sure is. Really? Gosh. I've obeyed lots of people lots of times in my life and somehow I never saw myself as submitting. At least in my own little corner of the world, it comes down to an internal mindset. Either you see yourself as in control or you don't. As a specific example. I'll use the classic "I just got pulled over by the highway patrol for speeding" scenario. In that situation, I do not have the authority and I am going to obey. But I don't see myself as submitting. I see myself as having acted dishonorably to start with by speeding and now choosing to act responsibly and 'pay my dues'. At no point would in any way whatsoever that I was not in control of the myself and the surroundings. To me, it's all a state of mind.

domiguy -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:46:41 PM)
You people are really incapable of having a meaningful discussion. The community really sucks.

Icarys -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:50:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys Submitting and obeying your dominant partner is a submissive "act"...That kinda squashes the whole "there aint no" arguement for me. I can see it from this angle as well. And it was actually Ironbear's remark "Act like a dominant" that really struck a chord, as we are all sitting here saying that no acts are dominant. So how does one act like dominant? To me, it's really a bit of a grayish area, and while I can see that an act, in and of itself, cannot be classified as dominant or submissive, there are certainly behaviors and demeanors that, in general , mark these personality traits the we call dominance and submission. We may not want to admit to that, but then why is it that we can sense our counterparts in these things...It must be SOMETHING that they are doing, or saying that make them feel submissive or dominant to us. Bingo..and the bottom line is it's true whether we admit it or not....so why pretend it's different? edited cause for clarity :>

LadyPact -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:52:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy You people are really incapable of having a meaningful discussion. The community really sucks. You're just jealous that I'm cyber banging Jefffff.

domiguy -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:53:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: barelynangel In order to be a Dom in my opinon one has to know themselves very well and as the old saying goes -- know thyself and the Dom will come -- if that is what is natural for you. angel So in other words, if you are not natural Dom than knowing yourself does absolutely nothing. Exactly what type of a person has ever uttered "the old saying"...It makes no sense. Once again, barely, you have missed the mark.

divi -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:53:10 PM)
Was he any good LP ??

domiguy -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:54:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy You people are really incapable of having a meaningful discussion. The community really sucks. You're just jealous that I'm cyber banging Jefffff. Cyber banging? Please, I have taken the man in the middle of Clark St. The cheering crowd was the only thing that allowed me to go for fourths.

NewDomCouple87 -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:56:12 PM)
I enjoyed our discussion as well LP. It will take a lot more than that to get under my skin. In fact, since this is all digital, between us at least, I doubt anything willl get under my skin.

Jeffff -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:56:43 PM)
Come now.... tell her how fucking DOMINANT I was while you were doing it though!

LadyNTrainer -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:57:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I am not entirely sure about that. If I am on my hands and knees and you are banging the heel out of my ass, calling me a little bitch..... I am gonna have a hard time feeling dominant. It's the way the act is being framed verbally that makes it a dominant act. I know dominants who enjoy anal sex as the receiving partner who see it as being serviced the way they want to be by their submissive partner. And why not, if it feels good? I don't have a prostate so I'm not personally into being serviced that way. As a hetero female with a healthy sexual appetite, I do order up and enjoy regular stud service from my collared boys, and they must stand and deliver. [:D] There's this stereotype that being the receiving partner in penetrative sex = submissive, but it just ain't so. If you're the dominant, you get to order up the kind of sexual service that feels good to you. In some cultures, the vagina is seen not as the object to be conquered, but the predatory mouth that takes and devours what is offered up for its pleasure. Psychologically that image (vagina dentata) is alive and well in our own culture, especially in the dark undertones of some kinds of jokes. Men who feel uneasy at the thought of being vulnerable and submitted during sex are likely to loudly and vigorously reinforce their belief in penetrator as conqueror to avoid having to think about a meme that scares them. Vaginas don't actually have teeth, and a powerful dominant woman who wants to take and "devour" the male offering for her pleasure also wants to give it back again in good condition after thoroughly appreciating how it feeds her. Well, presumably she does, unless she's a lot kinkier than I am. LOL It is men's fear that puts the teeth down there, and that makes them want to believe that they are not offering or feeding, but conquering and taking. Which they can be, if that happens to be your kink. It's all a matter of perspective, and what two or more consenting adults decide is their personal dynamic. You really will be hard pressed to find an act that is intrinsically dominant or submissive, except that it is framed that way in context.

marie2 -> RE: Dominant submisive acts? (6/18/2010 2:57:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Come now.... tell her how fucking DOMINANT I was while you were doing it though! I heard you were on your knees with your ass in the air. Doesn't sound too dominant to me.

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