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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4
Most of America has been corrupted by seeing Alice on the Brady Bunch.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
it is not what he would be doing that is an issue, but rather that ol Aunt Katie shared her kink with a thirteen yr old. Sorry...unacceptable.

The amount of disclosure that Aunt Katie has with the thirteen year old is rather up in the air.  Nowhere in the original does it say that it's being presented as a kink.  Merely that Aunt Katie brings these folks along and they do the chores. 

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As per the Op

She says that her parents who are in their late 80's (she and I are in our early 60's), her brother, her sister, and their families will be there.  The youngest child is now 13 and their ages go up from there.

One of my hard limits has always been involving children, for reasons that I have always thought were obvious.  But, just what does "involve" mean?

She says that she has been bringing slaves with her to the cottage for years and that everyone loves it.

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ALSO- there is a difference between a child "knowing" about a kink and a child "being exposed" to a kink. I think some of us forget that at times.

a 13 yr old knows and is exposed to whatever dynamic they display, and his submissive nature to Aunt Katie is displaying the dynamic.

The fact that this woman made a thirteen yr old aware of a BDSM dynamic is beyond my comprehension.

Would you sit around and discuss bondage, making a CHILD "aware" as opposed to "exposed"? If it were my kid, the person who did so would remove my stiletto from their ass right before they hit the curb.

It is the knowledge the child has that freaks me out. Otherwise, i would be telling the OP to go, have fun, and behave.

Holly if that were true, every child in the 50's in the typical household then would have been abused. Every child born into a marriage with one parent having more responsiblities and the balance of power is abused. This isn't unique to us. Unequal power balances exist all over the world and kids are raised to those relationships without issue.

I do agree the mother strung up in the bedroom next to a child's where they can hear or observe is wrong. I'm not getting the impression this is anything other than someone doing chore type service. It happens every day.

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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ALSO- there is a difference between a child "knowing" about a kink and a child "being exposed" to a kink. I think some of us forget that at times.

a 13 yr old knows and is exposed to whatever dynamic they display, and his submissive nature to Aunt Katie is displaying the dynamic.

The fact that this woman made a thirteen yr old aware of a BDSM dynamic is beyond my comprehension.

Would you sit around and discuss bondage, making a CHILD "aware" as opposed to "exposed"? If it were my kid, the person who did so would remove my stiletto from their ass right before they hit the curb.

It is the knowledge the child has that freaks me out. Otherwise, i would be telling the OP to go, have fun, and behave.

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The child is a teenager. They may be able to tell you a thing or two. But nevertheless, there is nothing inappropriate about telling a child of any age, this is my partner (insert- friend, sub, servant or any other descriptor) and he serves me. That does not expose a child to kink. It exposes a child to the fact that there are servants in this world.

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Hmmm what if they had a House Keeper? Is that sharing a Kink with a child?
What if they had a Butler? Is that?

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I don't see the younger person as being exposed to BDSM. 

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You can't automatically transfer the terminology that Aunt Katie has when discussing the situation with the OP to it being the same terminology Aunt Katie has with the other family member.

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Very much the same as you, in the coming years, may never use the word "submissive" in the presence of the Loud One, but submissive to Jim, nonetheless.

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

Well good for you holly, your moral high horse has been noted, obviouly there are people who disagree with your views. Can we move on now?

QSM

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The child is a teenager. They may be able to tell you a thing or two. But nevertheless, there is nothing inappropriate about telling a child of any age, this is my partner (insert- friend, sub, servant or any other descriptor) and he serves me. That does not expose a child to kink. It exposes a child to the fact that there are servants in this world.

As i said...if you, acting as Aunt Katie, exposed my 13 yr old to BDSM, you would have my boot pretty far up your ass. and "exposed" is toting a servant to the family gathering.

the fact that you see nothing inappropriate in "telling a child of any age" is very frightening to me.

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They don't have to be polite to a guest

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

Nope just wondering how long you plan on acting like church lady and judging everyone else by your moral code.

I mean I've see you do it so many times I just wonder if there is something you don't view in a holier-than-thou way.

Seriously doesn't it hurt looking down your nose at so many other people?

QSM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

We're going to have to agree to disagree on this one, Holly.  I understand your position, though I'm not entirely sure if you're seeing Mine.

My best to you and yours.

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The child is a teenager. They may be able to tell you a thing or two. But nevertheless, there is nothing inappropriate about telling a child of any age, this is my partner (insert- friend, sub, servant or any other descriptor) and he serves me. That does not expose a child to kink. It exposes a child to the fact that there are servants in this world.

As i said...if you, acting as Aunt Katie, exposed my 13 yr old to BDSM, you would have my boot pretty far up your ass. and "exposed" is toting a servant to the family gathering.

the fact that you see nothing inappropriate in "telling a child of any age" is very frightening to me.

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The fact is her family knows and they invite her to the family gathering every year. It is obviously not an issue to them.

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If you believe that having a domestic servant is kink, that is fine. I don't see cooking and cleaning a house as kink.  Furthermore we all know vanilla relationships where one person serves the other or one person controls the other.

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For reference, check a conservative christian marriage where the wife believes she should SUBMIT (theres a familiar and kinky word) to her husband. Or the head of every man is the woman. Many wives in these marriages serve their husbands in much the same way a sub serves a dom. I have seen churches where all the women feel they should submit to all of the men. So why is it ok to "expose" children to that kind of "kink"?  For me, this is the same thing.

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To add- my nephews were playing with the Oring on my collar before they could talk, guess I exposed them to my kink and am a bad person!