JstAnotherSub -> RE: When does helping, turn into enabling? (6/26/2010 5:17:36 PM)
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It is such a hard thing to figure out, because in most cases it is the children who suffer and they are the only ones who are helpless. That said, it does create an entitlement mentality that can follow them through life. I see parents who are really trying to get on their feet, and they use things like free lunch at school to help them make it through a rough patch. I also see parents who drive brand new SUV's and dress to the nines and have enough jewelry to feed a small nation for a week lying and getting free lunches for their kids. I wish we had the resources to check on each and every case to see if they are in fact in need, or if they are just milking the system, but then ya get into more dollars needed. One thing that contributes to it, IMHO, is the changes of values we have as a society. The more we become a "I will not be ashamed" society it seems, the more things people do with no shame, if that makes sense. 40 years ago, get pregnant out of wedlock and you would more than likely be sent to "visit family" in another state until the baby was born, then the baby would be put up for adoption and get a family who could and wanted to take care of them. Nowadays, ya go get Medicaid and WIC and Food Stamps and ya do not worry cause Uncle Sugah will take care of it, and the next one, and the next one, and on and on..... What was the question again? Now I need to go have a bit of herbal therapy cause I am all confused.
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