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Andalusite -> RE: owned but not collared.....wth? (6/27/2010 5:18:36 PM)
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I was a Domme for 5 years, a submissive for 3 years, and a slave for one year. I didn't use a collar or other physical symbol of the relationship, though I did wear one in both of the s-type relationships while we were spending time together in private, and most of the time during play. Until fairly recently, I'd thought of them as mostly an Internet thing, like S/slashy s/Speak. [;)]
I don't consider asking questions to be misbehaving, and I was only punished twice in the three year relationship, and not at all in my most recent one. I tried to always do what was asked of me, and trusted them to be reasonable and patient with me if I had difficulties. It was an opportunity to brainstorm and figure out how to give them what they wanted. I've never been into the online or long-distance thing, but we couldn't see each other every day, since the logistics just didn't work out that way.
I agree it's important to talk with him, find out what his expectations are, figure out why you aren't meeting them and what both of you can do to fix that. You should also ask him about the collar, since there are such a wide range of views on them. It's entirely possible that he doesn't realise how important it is to you, or how confused and uncertain you are.
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