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LadyPact -> RE: You may not be right... That doesn't make you wrong. (7/3/2010 4:41:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan
LP,
You and I have talked and you and I have different beliefs, we adamantly stand behind those different beliefs, we are not budging on those different beliefs, but never once have you and I ever resorted to the highschool like bullshit that gets thrown on these threads. My Point on this post is to addredd the fact that things seem much more controvercial in an On-Line forum than would ever be found in face to face communication. Almost as if some people hold onto the SecondLife Idea that any belief system that challanges their will tear their house of cards down.
What I am trying to discuss in part is the difference between how you and I interact around a pool and have very different beliefs and you never once think that I am Arrogant, uncaring, dangerous, egotistical, abusive, violent, Fake, uneducatied, immature, or wat have you we discuss and talk and respect each view as being that of the other persons. You saw how I treat my girl and you saw how happy she is and how in love we really are and in the end you don't make up crazy ass beliefs and lable me as being akin to a sociopath because you don't like how I phrased something.
Just because what I say is wrong for you, does not mean to me that what you do is wrong, it just isn't right for me.
QSM
I apologize for not responding in a more timely fashion. I wanted to have a clear head in order to respond.
The difference is exactly what you pointed out. Getting to see people away from the screen can make all of the difference in the world. This actually goes back to the Image thread, rather than the Aftercare thread. You don't get the opportunity to see everybody behind the screen name as a flesh and blood person and that can throw perceptions off a bit. You (generic you) don't have the opportunity to see them interact with others or how they discuss these things face to face. In a sense, this can actually be a hindrance because during such debates on the forums, we see that one dimensional screen, even though we know there is a person behind it. Sometimes, when we lack that real time connection, we momentarily forget that well rounded person that is on the other side.
To sum this up easily, when you see what works for a person with your own eyes, it's much more realistic. There's a huge advantage in that. This is why I continually say that I love meeting folks off of the site in person. It gives Me a more well rounded view.
Of course, that opportunity isn't always available to Me depending on where folks are around the world. Still, I think this would help a great deal when it comes to discussing our differences.
Speaking of differences, I did read the following pages of the thread and I wanted to say a word or two about disclaimers. (This is more of a general comment.) I've opened many responses with the statement that My opinion isn't going to be popular. I actually don't see this as combative. It comes from My experience of being on these forums and knowing that I'm in the minority on certain issues. When someone comes along who is brand new to the lifestyle, never owned a slave, and he's a Master just because he's signed up to the website, but I say he's not, I already know there are a number of folks who aren't going to like that. I know I'm figuratively painting a target on Myself should I talk about a concept like earned leather or something along those lines. For Me, it's easier to recognize that from the start. Then (hopefully) we can get past the slings and arrows of those telling Me that I'm attempting to come from the stand point of The One True Way, and actually discuss the topic.
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