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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 7:06:06 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Like it or not, that is the topic.  As soon as you said you want to do this in secret, you made it the topic.

Not everybody here is going to say that just because it's kinky, it's any different than a vanilla person looking to lie and cheat on his wife.  It really doesn't work like that.


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 9:55:39 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Why should a woman trust you as a "dom" when you can't even be trusted as a husband?

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 10:30:23 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		What about rewriting your profile to be more upfront and honest?

Something along the lines of:

"married guy looking to cheat on unsuspecting spouse with woman of similarly low morals. You must be able to sneak away at a moments notice for furtive and sordid grapplings in a variety of motels and carparks. You must also be aware that you can only trust me as far as you throw me as I have no problem at all in lying to people I profess to love."

That ought to do it.

BTW OP - it's really tacky asking complete strangers to help you cheat on your wife.

ETA - the sleazy, creepy c-mail you just sent me pretty much confirmed what I thought of you...

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 11:45:13 AM   
BonesFromAsh


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No.. you're right, I wouldn't trust them completely either... Other than "cheating".. I'm usually very trustworthy.. if that makes any sense at all.


Is this like saying "Other than eating chicken and the occassional all-beef hot dog...I'm usually vegetarian"? 

Does that make sense? 




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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 11:49:56 AM   
BDSMPleasures


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Status: offline 		Yes.. makes sense.. except imagine if you knew circumstances.. you'd see that she "violated" the contract first in another way... which means once contract is broken I wasn't bound it any longer... is twisted logioc.. but I used to justify my actions

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 11:52:45 AM   
LadyPact


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Yes.. makes sense.. except imagine if you knew circumstances.. you'd see that she "violated" the contract first in another way... which means once contract is broken I wasn't bound it any longer... is twisted logioc.. but I used to justify my actions

Oh, so since she "violated" it, you're no longer married?  You should let people know how that works.  No more divorce through legal channels.  It would put a lot of lawyers out of practice.


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 11:59:50 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Does she know you're not bound by the rules any more? What'd she do, have an online boyfriend or something? Or talk to an ex? And then as soon as you "caught" her, you have justification for what you were going to do anyway...

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:03:51 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		You are not going to find very many people here in favor of  a cheating man.

You'd have better luck as far as interest and acception to the fact you're cheating on your spouse,  going to websites *like ashelymadison.com, or however it's spelled, or other websites for cheating people seeking other cheaters, and advertising kink there.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:05:55 PM   
Lockit


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Yes.. makes sense.. except imagine if you knew circumstances.. you'd see that she "violated" the contract first in another way... which means once contract is broken I wasn't bound it any longer... is twisted logioc.. but I used to justify my actions


So not only are you asking someone to get involved in a secret way, you are adding some marital discord to the situation... she broke the deal first, but I want to keep the deal in some ways... and adding another two people if you get a married woman? Not only that, you are including any children that may be involved.

You haven't shown that you are the brightest bulb in the room and you think you are going to pull this off and no foul? lol You are delusional.


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:07:55 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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Yes.. makes sense.. except imagine if you knew circumstances.. you'd see that she "violated" the contract first in another way... which means once contract is broken I wasn't bound it any longer... is twisted logioc.. but I used to justify my actions


Ahhhh, tit for tat.  I've heard that type of "logic" from more than a few married guys who've wanted to go outside of their marriage vows.  
She may have chosen to "violate" the marriage contract for whatever reason, but you make the choice to follow her lead or not.

We all make choices and get to enjoy the consequences of those choices. 


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:09:08 PM   
BDSMPleasures


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Status: offline 		Hey.. it might end up with a happy ending if I can bring her into this lifestyle..

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:13:15 PM   
BDSMPleasures


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Status: offline 		Not sure how this developed into discussion of married or not.. that is not the issue..maybe a better question is how to introduce an "old fashioned" woman who thinks anything other than missionary is "dirty and perverted" and get her into the kink I am now into..

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:13:29 PM   
SirsJewel


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Status: offline 		Well the point of this thread has become another married saying "i know,don't say anything,but yes i am married and the spouse doesn't
know". Sorta like "hey we are all kinky, you know how it is,so i can trust all of you,as i run round behind the spouses back". Not cool,and um if ya say the spouse knows,then how bout We all get on the phone and say hello to one another,that's cool too right? ~ jewels

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:14:48 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Yup, delusional.

Every wife faced with a cheating husband is going to naturally be brought right into bdsm to save her marriage. OR... take up with a lawyer. You're thinking with the wrong head.


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:17:34 PM   
Lockit


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Not sure how this developed into discussion of married or not.. that is not the issue..maybe a better question is how to introduce an "old fashioned" woman who thinks anything other than missionary is "dirty and perverted" and get her into the kink I am now into..


It seems, we value your marriage more than you do. Lucky woman you have there! lol And this proves you are talking out your ass after thinking with the wrong head. You are going to bring an old fashioned woman who thinks anything other than missionary is dirty, into bdsm? lol Dude... you can't even face off with us, how are you going to with that old fashioned wife you have there? Give it up, you are not smart enough to get away with cheating!

< Message edited by Lockit -- 7/13/2010 12:18:51 PM >

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 12:22:09 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		There are times when I REALLY wish I could be a next door neighbour of some of the posters here. I would so love to see how this all plays out over time.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/13/2010 11:59:12 PM   
thornhappy


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Status: offline 		You knew that she was "old fashioned" when you married her, did you not?

She broke the vows (somehow) and you figure you're no longer bound, so get divorced and make it official.
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Not sure how this developed into discussion of married or not.. that is not the issue..maybe a better question is how to introduce an "old fashioned" woman who thinks anything other than missionary is "dirty and perverted" and get her into the kink I am now into..

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 4:27:15 AM   
DarkSteven


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Hey.. it might end up with a happy ending if I can bring her into this lifestyle..


Agreed.  But cheating on her is not a step toward that.  It is an admission of defeat, that you do not expect to bring her into it.

OP, I do feel for you.  I was in a similar situation to you, where my wife gave up on our marriage.  I tried to work with her for a few years and ended up divorcing.  It was hard as hell.

quote:

ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures

Not sure how this developed into discussion of married or not.. that is not the issue..maybe a better question is how to introduce an "old fashioned" woman who thinks anything other than missionary is "dirty and perverted" and get her into the kink I am now into..


There's a book called "When Someone You Love is Kinky" that you may want to read.  There's a big problem here in that a woman will (usually) be willing to try new things only with someone she trusts and figures is in for the long haul.  Right now, she can sense that you're no longer there, in the marriage.  Before changing her, you'll have to convince her that you're interested in her again and that you're committed to the marriage.

Valuing the marriage more than kink itself is a good starting point.

Good luck.


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 4:39:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well put DarkSteven.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 6:13:11 AM   
BentUnit


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Status: offline 		Hhahahahah...oh you silly, SILLY Lad!

Oh yes..of course some who knows you and <sic> knows this site encouraged you to make a thread here.

Lad, you have been set up.

Anyone who is apart of this place for 10 mins knows what sort of reception your sort of request is going to get here.

Here you are a slimy low life who is the very antithesis of what the women on this site want or desire.

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