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Jasmineinbloom -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/14/2010 3:07:15 PM)

It makes my stomach go squeegie thinking of punishing an adult man physically or emotionally. I like fun and games punishment scenarios. Keeping it light. If I have to constantly correct a grown man, he's not the one for me.



Kana -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/14/2010 10:39:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

I would imagine taking away something she values whilst making it clear she in turn has prevented you from having something you value....is more effective than "you have disaappointed me".....as not only has she disappointed you but it's made clear to her she has ruined your evening.....

Such as....

If you like eating at restaurants......you take her.....she is told in no uncertain terms not to eat or talk.....she has a privilege taken away....and as she knows you really appreciate wine/food/conversation with her.....then it is obvious she has ruined your evening.

I don't go in for the 'punishment means the relationship has gone awry' school of thought.......there will always be something that is unsatisfactory....the issue is: are you a strict disciplinarian or not?


I beg to differ, for a few reasons.
1-I am careful with my words. If I say something like you've disappointed me, and use THAT tone, no more need be said.
2-I don't have to drive the point home any more than that and If I do, I am probably with the wrong person. I can make her understand exactly how upset I am without just rubbing her face in it...grins...unless that strikes my fancy, but generally I try to avoid truly cruel emotional things. They leave scars that sometimes don't heal and can damage trust.
3-And maybe most importantly, I ain't gonna let a misbehaving slut ruin my night no way, no how. What I will do is leave, let her stay in her puddle of tears and go out and have a good time while she's stuck alone and miserable. I control my emotions, I control how I respond to things, no way am I giving her power over me or how I react. She can suffer while I laugh...and yes, her travails will increase my enjoyment. I will stand idly by cackling while her internal Rome burns and revel in her misery.



NuevaVida -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/14/2010 11:20:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Glasgow

I had a sudden curiosity as to the worst punishments endured and given out by all you tops and bottoms out there*.



I don't like to talk about them.  They are horrible memories, to this day.  And for most of them, I honestly couldn't tell you, after all this time, what they were for.  I remember two hard ones - being beaten black and blue, front and back, for telling a girl he was looking to enslave that he beat me once.  And another of getting a belt stroke for every minute I was late - 42, as I recall. 

But I don't talk about the others, sorry.  That was all with my ex.

Like Aileen, I am learning not to take correction as criticism.  Just last weekend I accidentally left a window open in 90-something degree weather with the AC on. It was at the back of the house and I forgot about it.  Mr. Man told me not to do that again.  That was it.  Just "That's wasting energy and letting heat in the house, so don't do that again."  I felt gutted.  Old wounds run deep, for sure.



LadyPact -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/14/2010 11:38:06 PM)

The telling of the disappointment that I have in him is an automatic in connection with any punishment.  I find that to be the preamble that makes the punishment itself more effective.  The one that he hated the most was writing an essay on how the various aspects of his life would be affected if I removed My collar from his neck.



mastertizzi -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/14/2010 11:49:48 PM)

i personally would prefer an obedient slave,
though i do very much (and would practice this) like the idea of giving vague commands, with the intention that the slave would mess them up.

anyways i think the worst one i've come up with is what i call the "interrogation chair" (its current name for lack of a better one) (for now anyways until i come up with something worse)
it consists of a seat with screws drilled through the bottom on the part that is to be sat upon. obviously they go through, and no there is no even weight distribution like you see in the bed of nails magic acts. to enhance this they get strapped down tightly. i may choose to add some form of humiliation to it as well, hey why not. (feel free to use your imagination there) if it exists i've probably thought of it.

i don't think of the punishment as something so much to be as something to make them not do things. im not sure how to put it, maybe what i want to say is that, even though there may be the humiliating, degrading, and painful aspect of it, its not to be taken personal, its not meant to actually harm the slave. just a more extreme form of play i guess.

if they decided to do something that was out of line completely, like stealing from me, or doing something that is not in some form of role play, or whatever, then the intention of the punishment changes all together.
in that case i have a rule, if i decide to completely give up on a slave, then i'll take them out into the middle of nowhere strip them naked, and leave them. im not looking back. (granted it would take alot to get me to this point, but once im there, then its bye bye)

non pain would have to be (other than abandonment) isolation and having privileges stripped from them. to a slave pretty much everything is a privilege, so being put in a dark room completely naked without food or water or bathroom privileges for a day or so, thats pretty harsh. add some sort of pain factor to it...

wow...am i too cruel?
once i write it out i sound a bit maniacal...



WyldHrt -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:00:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi
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Zevar -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:18:03 AM)

In regards to punishment I have never considered the act of physically correcting an adult woman to be something that would constitute effective improvement of a certain area that is in need of adjustments.

Instead over the years of coming to terms with the serious obligation that is included when choosing to allow a woman to be under my rule, it has become ever so clear that the most effective method of punishment is to take no notice of her as had been allowed in the past. Clearly this method of correction tends to be effective in the event that there is an emotional bond that is mutually shared between M/s.

To alter the continuity of constancy when mastering is a form of emotional punishment that has served to foster a change in attitude, thus allowed for an avenue or receptivity to alter that which when left unattended lends itself to eventually sever the daily attention between M/s relationship.

Psychological shifts in interactions that are usually permitted and then severed due to conduct that is in question too serves to ultimately transform an otherwise unruly attitude that when allowed brings forth mere destruction. Firmness in all instances is quite effective, that is if there is a mutual investment for the longevity between M/s.

Granted if there is no genuine investment for the advancement for the M/s bond to deepen then indeed any form of punishment serves no purpose at all. In those instances it is most wise to simply cut any perceived losses. In reality there is no loss when the advancement of a M/s bond to increase becomes prioritized in a secondary manner.

Undoubtedly there must be a clear understanding IMO of the roles prior to any form of relating else all methods of punishment tend to become a disadvantage for all involved . Naturally with all forms of leadership comes a personal investment for self improvement else it is fruitless to attempt to correct another when you cannot live what you expect from another. Without integrity how does any form of punishment become effective?



LadyPact -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:25:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi
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I don't think I have the strength.



Ishtarr -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:29:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi



Wow dude, I wonder how come you've never had a slave before...
You sound like every girl's dream *cough* master...





Kana -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:33:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi
[sm=popcorn.gif]

I don't think I have the strength.



Oh c'mon. The fruit hangs so low, and it's so tempting, juicy and ripe.
And you are getting thirsssssssssssssssssttttttttttttttttttttttttttttyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy...



LadySweetOrSour -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:33:36 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi



I rarely post, but just wow.



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:36:03 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi

i personally would prefer an obedient slave,
though i do very much (and would practice this) like the idea of giving vague commands, with the intention that the slave would mess them up.

anyways i think the worst one i've come up with is what i call the "interrogation chair" (its current name for lack of a better one) (for now anyways until i come up with something worse)
it consists of a seat with screws drilled through the bottom on the part that is to be sat upon. obviously they go through, and no there is no even weight distribution like you see in the bed of nails magic acts. to enhance this they get strapped down tightly. i may choose to add some form of humiliation to it as well, hey why not. (feel free to use your imagination there) if it exists i've probably thought of it.

i don't think of the punishment as something so much to be as something to make them not do things. im not sure how to put it, maybe what i want to say is that, even though there may be the humiliating, degrading, and painful aspect of it, its not to be taken personal, its not meant to actually harm the slave. just a more extreme form of play i guess.

if they decided to do something that was out of line completely, like stealing from me, or doing something that is not in some form of role play, or whatever, then the intention of the punishment changes all together.
in that case i have a rule, if i decide to completely give up on a slave, then i'll take them out into the middle of nowhere strip them naked, and leave them. im not looking back. (granted it would take alot to get me to this point, but once im there, then its bye bye)

non pain would have to be (other than abandonment) isolation and having privileges stripped from them. to a slave pretty much everything is a privilege, so being put in a dark room completely naked without food or water or bathroom privileges for a day or so, thats pretty harsh. add some sort of pain factor to it...

wow...am i too cruel?
once i write it out i sound a bit maniacal...



And the Answer is "What is how to Lose slaves and Alienate others in the lifestyle"

<correct for $200>

I'll take "Other amazingly Ignorant things to say on a BDSM Board for $400 Alex.

QSM



WyldHrt -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:40:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Kana
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I don't think I have the strength.

Oh c'mon. The fruit hangs so low, and it's so tempting, juicy and ripe.
And you are getting thirsssssssssssssssssttttttttttttttttttttttttttttyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy...

[:D][:D][:D] to LP

Oh, and Kana, no fair tempting my inner sadist. I'm supposed to be all sweet and subly... or something [;)]



Kana -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:45:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

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ORIGINAL: Kana
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I don't think I have the strength.

Oh c'mon. The fruit hangs so low, and it's so tempting, juicy and ripe.
And you are getting thirsssssssssssssssssttttttttttttttttttttttttttttyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy...

[:D][:D][:D]
Oh, and Kana, not fair tempting my inner sadist. I'm supposed to be all sweet and subly... or something [;)]



Laughs
I'm a sadist-who said anything about being nice and kind?





SpiritedRadiance -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:48:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mastertizzi




I could tell you how everything most everything youve mentioned, in your profile as well as your post makes you sound like you read watch and involve yourself in too much bdsm torture porno.

I could tell you how you should try going to a munch and realize your fantasies most likely will never com to frutation and come back down from what ever fantasy world youve seem to created.

I could go into a rant about how half of what you posted in your profile and post here makes you look like a serial killer or serial killer in training.

But instead i WILL say hey if a girls stupid enough to engage in it, be sure shes serious and "real" and "twue" as to not end up in jail......

and I cant wait for September...



lally2 -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 12:51:23 AM)

there are people who enjoy a punishment dynamic - sub does something fairly trivial for a spanking and gets given a spanking - thats funishment.

some of the punishments listed here are horrific, but they were done to correct and prevent unwanted behaviour occuring again (ever again)  - and thats punishment.

theres a big difference between funishment and punishment.

ive been physically punished only once, it was horrific and i did everything to avoid being punished again. 

you say youre due another 'punishment' clearly therefore physical punishment is not working for you as a deterrant and i would therefore suggest that what youre doing is funishment - its worth knowing the difference



WyldHrt -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 1:02:57 AM)

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I'm a sadist-who said anything about being nice and kind?

Fairly sure I didn't. [:D]



SaintAllie -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 1:28:56 AM)

I'm not much for punishment.. a big conversation usually suffices between me and the bloke.

My most memorable punishment, was to a good friends malesub..
I was invited to a femdomme pampering evening..( footrubs/ handfed/manicures/ footspas etc)

The Hostess' sub was very cheeky when I arrived and I asked his Domme for one request.. as he'd been rude imo.

She agreed.

My request was.. that the malesub could not turn his back on any domme for the duration of the evening.

The main room ( private house) was about 7m by 5m, and had 14 dommes in it, he was also assigned delivery of canapes.

He delivered them all night, on his back, across the carpet, with no top on and the canapes balanced on his chest.

After the carpet burns and the laughter from the dommes present.

I've never had an issue with him since.

Allie







Whenready -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 1:59:00 AM)

1) "No."
2) "You have disappointed me."
3) You should not have done that. As a result, I will do nothing



PeanutTigerinBox -> RE: Worst punisment you've given/received (7/15/2010 2:22:41 AM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

The worst punishment is just as he stated...telling me how disappointed he is and turning his back.

That kills me.

I'd rather he beat me till I couldn't move than hear those words.



Dito.

Words from a person I am close to are enormous powerful. My ex still makes me shiver and feeling awful at times even when we aren't together anymore....whilst I don't think he considers himself to be a Dom he certainly is one in day to day life (though not in very private moments). In 2006 I wasn't allowed to contact him for 3 months, have no real memory about why that actually was but I do know it was way over the top...whatever had ridden him on that occassion...oh I hated him for that and when I contacted him via IM he tolerated it when I had a question but then soon came his comment "you are supposed to leave me alone until march, remember?" So having my way (which is what I was used to most of my life) didn't quite work with him...he was damn serious about it despite tolerating the one or other lil contact at times, also the look in his eyes feel like a knife in the stomach at times, when I screwed up something again despite him telling me before already that my idea won't work...and now with Mr. A his words are almost as powerful (almost as Mr A and I have not spend enough time together in person yet to have that affect on me) but when we met last time he made my knees shiver when he was damn direct with a rather quiet voice when I was about to flare up at him...



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