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CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/14/2010 9:21:37 PM)

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Because I want to.


Icarys,

spoken as a strong Dominant. thanks for the lucid clarity.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/14/2010 9:24:29 PM)

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Yeah, I am thinking about the time I am thirty. I might be ready for a relationship.

It is asexual city, population single. Until I get that starfish gene I can't reproduce by dismemberment yet.

Darn.


P gotta wait till 30 Huh?

CP




peppermint -> RE: Why are you here? (7/14/2010 10:09:54 PM)

About 10 years ago I was playing trivia games in a CompuServe adult chat room.  When the game was over many went to a chat room called the Lifestyle Inn.  I went, and watched, and observed what was happening.  I was intrigued.  I spent the next 8 months reading everything I could about BDSM, M/s, D/s, and everything in between.  After my research I realized that this was what I was missing in my life.  However, circumstances dictated that my wants be put aside and tucked into a dark corner. 

Fast forward 4 years.  Circumstances changed.  I was free to discover the real time community I knew existed and did.  I went to my very first munch.  I attended my very first kinky event and I loved it all!!!! 

Now to the present and to answering CP's question.  I walk this path because it makes me happy.  I have never been so happy or had so much fun in my whole life.  Every day is eagerly greeted.  My duties for him include being best friend, companion, lover, housekeeper, cook, as well as adoring submissive.  He is the center of my universe and that is just the way we like it. 




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 4:29:36 AM)

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People have been kinky since the dawn of time... seriously, no one owns kink. This site always was a kinky dating site for the largest part, although you will find other sorts of people here.

Most people involved with Bondage, Discipline, and Sado/Masochism have done so largely in their bedroom. Hell, my boyfriend was tying me up when I was 18, and lightly spanking me. Just because I didn't belong to some group of people that "lived" this way all the time did not change who I was or who I later became.

I like dominants that are high functioning professionals who have "mastered" life, and that engenders respect from me, and those sorts are the ones that see my submissiveness....

Why do I walk the "path"? What path? I am kinky and I like men that I want to follow out of my deep profound respect... My soul path isn't about the BDSM community, and my ideal relationship is based on far more than kink or D/s


julia

"what path" how about being kinky! oooooorr perhaps you can only fing your type of male on the path.
Thanks for your thoughts.

CP




laurell3 -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 4:31:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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I guess that means no cookies?


laurell3,

That would be affirmative.

CP



Ok I'm here because one day out of boredom I logged on to see what CM was up to and Jeff wouldn't let me leave!




domiguy -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 5:13:44 AM)

How did you get here? What path? What is kink to you? What draws you to bondage? Why does the lifestyle ring your bell better? Why do you take a shit? where? how? Do you wipe or let it itch?

Now that is candor!!!

I came here so I could be questioned.




DesFIP -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 6:55:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince


DesFIP

Was there an answer to all that?

While I did not say so in the original post as to teens coming into CM, I will go on the record as saying in the vast majority of instances such young people simply do not have sufficient life experiences under their belt to to walk the path without causing problems for themselves, others and the reflection of the path itself. Just my opinion.

CP


And again I go on the record comparing self knowledge of being submissive or dominant to self knowledge of being homosexual. You don't have to have sexual experience to know who you are attracted to. I was heterosexual before I started dating boys, it was that knowledge that had me date boys and not girls. I didn't experiment dating girls to know I wasn't into them sexually.

Now do you need life experience to be good at relationships? Hell yes. But that's a totally different topic.

And I'm on CMe for the forums.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 7:14:25 AM)

Not to be contentious or anything, but I don't think that CM is turning into a kinky dating site. I kinda thought it started out as a kinky dating site. I doubt when the creators of CollarMe went to the trouble of creating the search options and profile layout options, that they did it as an afterthought, because their main focus was having a Message Board for hardcore edgie BDSM enthusiasts.





juliaoceania -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 7:19:43 AM)

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julia

"what path" how about being kinky! oooooorr perhaps you can only fing your type of male on the path.
Thanks for your thoughts.

CP


I don't think you "get it"

I don't define my life by kink sex, and I don't define my relationships as "BDSM" relationships. I came here because my last dom gave me the link and suggested I sign up. We split up and I still enjoy coming to the forums, and when I do date men off this site I am looking for people I have fun with, that stimulate my mind, and that if we ended up getting involved they would be a high achieving, smart, respectable, dominant "sort" of guy....

Anyone claiming decades "experience" being a dominant would be automatically scratched off the list




juliaoceania -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 7:22:07 AM)


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ORIGINAL: domiguy



I came here so I could be questioned.



Into interrogation? It is kinda hot




OohAahMrs -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:28:42 AM)

The problem is that if you are born with it you arestuck with it, so the best thing to do is get on with it and try to enjoy yourself.




jujubeeMB -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:33:40 AM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
People have been kinky since the dawn of time... seriously, no one owns kink. This site always was a kinky dating site for the largest part, although you will find other sorts of people here.

Most people involved with Bondage, Discipline, and Sado/Masochism have done so largely in their bedroom. Hell, my boyfriend was tying me up when I was 18, and lightly spanking me. Just because I didn't belong to some group of people that "lived" this way all the time did not change who I was or who I later became.

I like dominants that are high functioning professionals who have "mastered" life, and that engenders respect from me, and those sorts are the ones that see my submissiveness....

Why do I walk the "path"? What path? I am kinky and I like men that I want to follow out of my deep profound respect... My soul path isn't about the BDSM community, and my ideal relationship is based on far more than kink or D/s


This, totally.




Missokyst -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:51:10 AM)

Because BDSM is hot. Because sexual torture is sexy and it makes me wet. Because my personality seeks out dominant males. Because having a profile here brings other local community members out to my munches and
This:
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Why am I here? I am on Collarme because:

a: I have been into BDSM since age 16
b: I have fun on the message boards
c: I like to meet like minded people
d: I like to hear differing opinions and often learn something new, and I think I have things to offer through my experiences
e. I don't feel like this is a "path"; it is just another facet of me, as a complete, complex and interesting human being.





Missokyst -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:59:47 AM)

It has been my observation over the years that whether you choose a nilla path as a teen, or if you go kinky as I did, it makes no difference to how many problems you may encounter. Young Nilla's break up. So do young kinksters. Young nillas get broken hearts. So do young kinksters. Young nillas are just as unlikely to have discovered the perfect way to live as do young kinksters. People have problems. People also make problems. Whether they did this nilla or kinky is irrelevant.


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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince


While I did not say so in the original post as to teens coming into CM, I will go on the record as saying in the vast majority of instances such young people simply do not have sufficient life experiences under their belt to to walk the path without causing problems for themselves, others and the reflection of the path itself. Just my opinion.

CP





Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 11:03:20 AM)

I suppose it'd be all very main stream to others, but floggings, and spankings, and small levels of domination, and as a switch,  being and doing the domination, or topping and bottoming would be more accurate.

Darker things, like rape play fantasies,  though I have never had a chance to play one out, and don't know if I ever really would care to,  consensual sexual violence turns me on, to some degree, sometimes though it can turn me off, if I am not in the right place.

consensual pain to some levels is hot. I am a bit of a budding masochist.

Mind fucks, if in the right situation and mind frame are very very hot.

To some degree, Power dynamics are hot.

Now,  3 somes and orgies and gang bangs and stuff like that are probably all very common to those who're refered to as "Vanilla" But they interest me to some degree.

3 somes have kind of had the been there done that, got the t shirt and don't need another, air about them, since they're very very old hat for me, orgies, not so much, and that's probably the interest in them for me, they're a new and shiny concept. Same with Gang bangs.

The mind boggles at all the possibilities out there hehehe.




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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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Because I am kinky and kink and bdsm sexually fulfill me, and makes me happy.

I find conventional relationships extremely boring, dull and quite lacking.



Topping,

Well that is straightforward enough but that mbegs the question ......what is "kink" to you?

CP




leadership527 -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 11:17:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
Why do you walk the path?

For me, this question is straight-forward. I am "here" because I ran into the concept of M/s in Secondlife and that concept seemed to "stick" for Carol and I. As I continue to explore it, it seems to work more and more. As long as that remains true, then I will remain "here". The moment it's not true, then I suppose I'll be "somewhere else".

Insofar as where "here" is, well... For me it has nothing to do with kink. Carol and I are all about love and D/s. So I find some commonality with other people on collarme and in other areas I find vast gulfs. But I find enough commonality in this community that I find occasional nuggets of really useful wisdom. That's enough reason for me to spend my time here. Whether it's enough reason for someone else to read my posts is, of course, up to them.

Does it need to really be any more complicated than that?




heartcream -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 11:37:24 AM)


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: domiguy



I came here so I could be questioned.



Into interrogation? It is kinda hot


One can be open to be questioned which is nice, exciting even, but it certainly doesnt guarantee there will be answers forthcoming eh?




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 12:17:57 PM)

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path?

im here because:
(yes a list)
1. my luck with traditional relationships has been, poor. the main reason is i hate to compromise on my end, yet on the other end i expect my partner to compromise.
for some reason it seems that everything just works out perfectly in a bdsm lifestyle for me, as most of what i seek most subs/slaves already have that as an interest. way i see it is never having to go through all that awkwardness of i need you to... (fill in the blanks) is a huge bonus. here its more of an ask and you shall receive.

2. what got me interested in exploring the (real life aspect) is when i started learning that there are submissive people like i have fantasized about. even to the point that i could have never imagined.
actually it started out as a casual chat in irc, where i happened to be at the right place at the right time, and got to act out a highly intense series of kinky dom/sub roleplay. (i was there and right in the room the whole thing starts to unfold as sort of a kinky group text rp.) so i just kept exploring and digging deeper and what i found is that basically i can have my cake and eat it too.

3. (sort of continued for 2.) all my life (and i always though that i was creepy because of it) i had various master/slave fantasies. oddly even before i was old enough to understand sexual things, i was having fantasies where i would have control of another to torment in whatever way i pleased. i just figured a fantasy is just that, so just keep it tucked away or whatever. but the idea of actually owning a slave or even multiple slaves, its perfect. (honestly im still going through the sort of "are you serious shock" that this even exists)

4. romance is for some people, but i think maybe someday i might find someone that i can have a traditional relationship with, but really im not worried about it so much (or really at all) anymore. i say that once i own a slave for a couple years or whatever, just see how it works out.

i hope that doesn't make me sound too creepy. (i don't think im that bad) [/quot

mastertizzi

1st Welcome to CM and especially the boards.

2nd Thanks for a clear and complete view of why you have come into the world of D/s. The reasons are probably true for many here. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 12:20:33 PM)

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In an acknowledged D/s relationship who I am is not apt to be abused. Therefore, this is probably a safer place for me to be than in a vanilla relationship with someone who doesn't understand how D/s works. Yes, I can still submit in a non-D/s relationship but if the person has any narcisstic tendancies, I'll end up abused. BTDT more than once. I need someone who can make decisions after considering the implications and probable outcomes of that decision so that *I* am not harmed. Used properly I can keep going for a long time quite happily. I am apt to obey even if it ends up hurting me because I am that much of a pleaser. This is very dangerous, so I'm more careful now. Does this answer the questions?


sublizzie,

Well kinda but it will work for me. Thanks for the effort.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 12:22:35 PM)

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It is how I express love. I spent most of my life pretending that all of this wasn't in my brain. But it was.
I remember control fantasies when I was young. Searching the classifieds in the Village Voice in high school, yet never having the nerve to follow through.
Trying to get any kind of kink in my marriage more than once a year.
Then I realized that I had every right to try and be happy and I knew that the only way I could was to pursue a bdsm power exchange relationship.
And here is where I find myself...

_____________________________


Aileen

Claps, Well said and may it continue throughout your life.

CP




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