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LadyPact -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 1:12:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
First let me clarify that by "here" I refer to the path of D/s and bdsm!
I have been on the path for more decades than I care to comment on and certainly longer than many newcomers have been on this earth. While I have taken Emeritus status I still come on daily to keep an eye on the path as a whole, and thus the point of this post.
Over the last 10 years the composition of path walkers has changed so dramatically, that when compared to yesteryear places like CollarMe have become little more than kinky dating sites; albiet with things like posting abilities. The number of teens coming onto CM is astounding to me. All claiming to be submissive etc. So my question or query is this if you have the intestinal fortitude to address it...............Why do you walk the path?
CP
Not submissive, but I'm going to answer anyway. (I think this would have been a great question for anybody.)
I'm not especially sure that what I do is something that I would refer to as a path. If anything, I travel both paths. Both of which make Me happy in different ways. Thankfully, I'm in a position of being able to enjoy both and both bring something significant to Me in My life.
Truthfully, when My pet first introduced Me to this site (please don't confuse the boys, as I'm not referring to clip), I laughed at the very idea. I very specifically laughed at the name of the place. It made Me think very much of what you allude to in your original. That it would be filled with a bunch of people who were more fantasy than reality, where folks were converging because BDSM was somehow now hip and cool. While it's true that there is that element here, those who have never really been involved in any of this away from the screen, there were people who were doing it in their real lives, too. That's probably why I stayed "here". I've been lucky enough to meet quite a few of them over the years.
Like you, CP, I've been doing this for a long time and the truth is, things aren't the way they used to be. It's terribly rare these days for someone to come to their first munch when they haven't been on the internet first. In a sense, that means all that goes with it. With a mixture of ideas that come from both good and bad sources. It's not like they get their first exposure only from people really living this life. They bring with them the nonsense that they've heard, too. When there are fewer people with the physical world part of this, the fantasy of it all overtakes the place.
A few years back, I was at a private event with a number of lifestyle folks who came from several states. I was sitting with a group of people, one of which I very much admired. A much senior leatherman than Me, who, due to not revealing his identity, I'll just call him Sir M. During the afternoon, while we were sitting around eating BBQ, the topic of CM came up. He asked Me why I waste My time here. That it was full of wanna-bes and nothing but a lost cause.
Later that evening, I was given a very humbling honor. I was asked to present a vest. It had belonged to a man who had passed away who had been very active in the community before I had moved there. I had only heard stories about him, but his widow had wanted Me to do this. I said no at first, but she insisted.
After the ceremony was over, Sir M quietly walked up to Me. There were tears in his eyes and his voice was choked up. He looked Me dead in the eye and told Me that maybe he had been wrong. He called Me the next generation of leather that day, and I never forgot it.
I don't tell that story very often, CP, but that's why I'm here.
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