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CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:35:04 PM)

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I don't think you "get it"


julia,

I guess I don't! But one thing I do get is that the tenor of your posts have changed significantly since your standing by a phone in a small mall.

Shruggs

CP




laurell3 -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:36:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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Ok I'm here because one day out of boredom I logged on to see what CM was up to and Jeff wouldn't let me leave!


laurell3

Tis a free board in a free site and in a free country so I guess you can put anything you wish in a thread. In my mview however one might spend their time as well as others in a thread to lend a serious contemplation to the thread.

CP


*laughs*

Why would you think I need your assistance to seriously contemplate my reasons for coming to CM? The answer I gave really is the reason why I am here at this present time.




juliaoceania -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:56:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

quote:

I don't think you "get it"


julia,

I guess I don't! But one thing I do get is that the tenor of your posts have changed significantly since your standing by a phone in a small mall.

Shruggs

CP


I find your questions condescending, your attitude towards young people condescending, your position towards how other people choose to dominate condescending...

In essence, I find you condescending.... guess what, no one gives a fuck how long you claim you have been a dominant... in fact, I would wonder, if someone has to try soooo very hard to bolster their credibility at other people's expense, how fucking dominant could they be?


Your post above answers that question




juliaoceania -> RE: Why are you here? (7/15/2010 8:58:33 PM)

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Why would you think I need your assistance to seriously contemplate my reasons for coming to CM?


Because silly girl, you're "justa" submissive, silly thing. You need a dominant man to even tell you what views you should even have... does that answer your question?




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 7:40:25 AM)

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The problem is that if you are born with it you arestuck with it, so the best thing to do is get on with it and try to enjoy yourself.


OoHAah,

Care to define what "it" is?

CP




sexyred1 -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 7:43:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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I'm still no closer to a definition for vanilla and btw..missionary sex?? Imo I can't think of any position that could possibly be more dominant...a man on top of a woman, bearing all his weight down on her, pushing into her, holding her down, body pinned down. If that's not dominant then I really have no idea what is.


True... I have been in "missionary" that was anything but vanilla... when someone's full weight is on you and it feels like your ribs might burst... can't breath... that is definitely NOT vanilla to me[;)].. it is yummy though


Mmmmmm....that is the ONE time I don't mind not breathing for some reason. [;)]




VirginPotty -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 9:01:12 AM)

I was told to go down this path. Now I've reached a fork in the road. Which way should I go?




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 9:03:36 AM)


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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

I was told to go down this path. Now I've reached a fork in the road. Which way should I go?


Always take the road less traveled!




VirginPotty -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 9:13:06 AM)

[:D]Thanks Win![:D]




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 9:20:41 AM)


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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty

[:D]Thanks Win![:D]


Don't thank me, thank Frost [:D]




KurtAllen -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 9:42:06 AM)

I never question the why of what I do…only the how and the quality of the dominant. At times the how needs improvement but more often the dominant fails miserably.




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 12:10:01 PM)

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It has been my observation over the years that whether you choose a nilla path as a teen, or if you go kinky as I did, it makes no difference to how many problems you may encounter. Young Nilla's break up. So do young kinksters. Young nillas get broken hearts. So do young kinksters. Young nillas are just as unlikely to have discovered the perfect way to live as do young kinksters. People have problems. People also make problems. Whether they did this nilla or kinky is irrelevant.


Miss,

I certainly do not argue with logic as it is presented from another viewpoint; as I said it is my opinion and I swill keep it thus until I see something thaty changes my mind.

Thanks for your courtesy in expresing your thoughts.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 12:13:07 PM)

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I suppose it'd be all very main stream to others, but floggings, and spankings, and small levels of domination, and as a switch, being and doing the domination, or topping and bottoming would be more accurate.

Darker things, like rape play fantasies, though I have never had a chance to play one out, and don't know if I ever really would care to, consensual sexual violence turns me on, to some degree, sometimes though it can turn me off, if I am not in the right place.

consensual pain to some levels is hot. I am a bit of a budding masochist.

Mind fucks, if in the right situation and mind frame are very very hot.

To some degree, Power dynamics are hot.

Now, 3 somes and orgies and gang bangs and stuff like that are probably all very common to those who're refered to as "Vanilla" But they interest me to some degree.

3 somes have kind of had the been there done that, got the t shirt and don't need another, air about them, since they're very very old hat for me, orgies, not so much, and that's probably the interest in them for me, they're a new and shiny concept. Same with Gang bangs.

The mind boggles at all the possibilities out there hehehe.


Topping,

Indeed you have a fertile mind on "kink!

Thanks for your thoughts.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 12:16:36 PM)

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For me, this question is straight-forward. I am "here" because I ran into the concept of M/s in Secondlife and that concept seemed to "stick" for Carol and I. As I continue to explore it, it seems to work more and more. As long as that remains true, then I will remain "here". The moment it's not true, then I suppose I'll be "somewhere else".

Insofar as where "here" is, well... For me it has nothing to do with kink. Carol and I are all about love and D/s. So I find some commonality with other people on collarme and in other areas I find vast gulfs. But I find enough commonality in this community that I find occasional nuggets of really useful wisdom. That's enough reason for me to spend my time here. Whether it's enough reason for someone else to read my posts is, of course, up to them.

Does it need to really be any more complicated than that?


leadership,

A well presented anwser to a straight forward question. As normal for you.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 12:21:36 PM)

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Why am I here?

It's cheaper than the monkey cages.


Kana,

Scratchs head and looks for a connection!

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 12:26:35 PM)

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Not submissive, but I'm going to answer anyway. (I think this would have been a great question for anybody.)

I'm not especially sure that what I do is something that I would refer to as a path. If anything, I travel both paths. Both of which make Me happy in different ways. Thankfully, I'm in a position of being able to enjoy both and both bring something significant to Me in My life.

Truthfully, when My pet first introduced Me to this site (please don't confuse the boys, as I'm not referring to clip), I laughed at the very idea. I very specifically laughed at the name of the place. It made Me think very much of what you allude to in your original. That it would be filled with a bunch of people who were more fantasy than reality, where folks were converging because BDSM was somehow now hip and cool. While it's true that there is that element here, those who have never really been involved in any of this away from the screen, there were people who were doing it in their real lives, too. That's probably why I stayed "here". I've been lucky enough to meet quite a few of them over the years.

Like you, CP, I've been doing this for a long time and the truth is, things aren't the way they used to be. It's terribly rare these days for someone to come to their first munch when they haven't been on the internet first. In a sense, that means all that goes with it. With a mixture of ideas that come from both good and bad sources. It's not like they get their first exposure only from people really living this life. They bring with them the nonsense that they've heard, too. When there are fewer people with the physical world part of this, the fantasy of it all overtakes the place.

A few years back, I was at a private event with a number of lifestyle folks who came from several states. I was sitting with a group of people, one of which I very much admired. A much senior leatherman than Me, who, due to not revealing his identity, I'll just call him Sir M. During the afternoon, while we were sitting around eating BBQ, the topic of CM came up. He asked Me why I waste My time here. That it was full of wanna-bes and nothing but a lost cause.

Later that evening, I was given a very humbling honor. I was asked to present a vest. It had belonged to a man who had passed away who had been very active in the community before I had moved there. I had only heard stories about him, but his widow had wanted Me to do this. I said no at first, but she insisted.

After the ceremony was over, Sir M quietly walked up to Me. There were tears in his eyes and his voice was choked up. He looked Me dead in the eye and told Me that maybe he had been wrong. He called Me the next generation of leather that day, and I never forgot it.

I don't tell that story very often, CP, but that's why I'm here.


_____________________________

Proud owner of LPslittleclip.


The big, bad, sadistic Dominant of Oz. (Pay no attention to the woman behind the curtain.)


LadyPact,

Many thanks for sharing that story as I agree that it is reflective of changing times. I do hope that anyone visting this thread takes the time to read it,

Again..... Thanks

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 7:50:00 PM)

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don't know about "intestinal fortitude" but I will give you as honest an answer as I can at this time.

When I started to explore "this" it had less to do with bdsm and more with D/s...the power/control dynamics within the relationship felt right for me. Most of the time, I would take the s-type position within a relationship. Sometimes that would change, depending on my partner and the energy. I didn't realize that some of the activities I enjoyed prior to exploring the kinkier aspect of these relationships fell under the bdsm umbrella. They were just things that turned me on.

I didn't know what a dom/me or top was not to mention what a sub/bottom was. I just knew that insofar as the activities went, I enjoyed being the reciever and later, the giver...depending on the partner.

I don't follow any "bdsm or D/s path"...I do what feels right for me. For now, that means not being in a relationship...D/s or otherwise. I don't need bdsm or D/s to be part of a relationship dynamic for me...I like it but I don't need it. If and when I decide I'm in the right mindset for a relationship, I'm sure kink and, to some degree, D/s will be part of the dynamic but it won't be because I'm needing to make some grand step on the path of bdsm glory. It will be because it pleases me.

I'm selfish like that.


Bones,

A very cogent reply to a fairly put question, thanks for your input and welcome to the boards and CM.

CP




CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 7:53:53 PM)

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*laughs*

Why would you think I need your assistance to seriously contemplate my reasons for coming to CM? The answer I gave really is the reason why I am here at this present time.


laurel,

Did I offer assistance?

CP




Firebirdseeking -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 9:39:47 PM)

Scratches her head and thinks how rude she is. 

I am wondering why people cannot disagree or express an opinion without going for the jugular.




porcelaine -> RE: Why are you here? (7/16/2010 11:01:09 PM)

Slavery is my vehicle for self-actualization through evolution and service to my partner and larger community as a whole. Assisting others is my vocation.

~porcelaine




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