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wittynamehere -> RE: Why are you here? (7/25/2010 12:03:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince First let me clarify that by "here" I refer to the path of D/s and bdsm! Yeah, it's not a path for me, either. I visit this site because it has a fairly high concentration of people who are like me in some ways, or are who I might be interested in, compared to the general population. But I'm not on a path, I'm not in a lifestyle, and I certainly don't feel "kinky". It's like asking someone who likes chocolate why they're walking that path, and why they're there.

CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/25/2010 6:29:13 AM)
quote: One of my lovers early in life was a kinky bisexual swinger with a leather fetish. I was 15. There hasnt been a place for me the vanilla world since. That's why I'm here. _____________________________ RS, 15!!! now that is impressive. CP

lovelyk -> RE: Why are you here? (7/25/2010 9:34:13 AM)
For most of my life, I have been a strong, outgoing, resourceful leader. I submitted control to no one, I saw it as a weakness. Then, I was introduced to the lifestyle. I discovered that the only person I could truly be with was someone who I trusted and cared for enough to submit all control to, in addition to the fact that I enjoy a lot of kink in bed. Even in the comparatively short time Ive been exploring d/s and bdsm, Ive found a way that I can keep my relationships, and myself, from continuing to crash and burn. So, I have chosen this path because its the missing piece in becoming the person I wish to be, strong even when I am powerless, outgoing but respectful, resourceful yet accepting of input, and a leader who is submissive to the One for me. And yes, I figured this out when I was 18, a 'young age.' But who said self realization at a young age was bad? Perhaps it displays the personal strength of the next generation.

puella -> RE: Why are you here? (7/25/2010 3:39:55 PM)
Firstly, it doesn't really matter. But, to your question... Because it is one facet of who I most honestly am. Jen

CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/25/2010 4:09:06 PM)
quote: Firstly, it doesn't really matter. But, to your question... Because it is one facet of who I most honestly am. jen Well it may not matter to you but one of the purposes of the boards is to educate, reveal, reinforce etc. Thus what you have to say may help others. Welcome to the boards and CM. CP

puella -> RE: Why are you here? (7/25/2010 4:10:16 PM)
umm humm

CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/26/2010 7:23:30 AM)
quote: umm humm laughs, well somehow you jumped from 2 posts to over 2400. I don't know how that happens but I therefore retract my "welcome to the boards" comment. CP

CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/27/2010 3:49:18 AM)
quote: Yeah, it's not a path for me, either. I visit this site because it has a fairly high concentration of people who are like me in some ways, or are who I might be interested in, compared to the general population. But I'm not on a path, I'm not in a lifestyle, and I certainly don't feel "kinky". It's like asking someone who likes chocolate why they're walking that path, and why they're there. witty, well I have to admit, I am confused but any further question might get me deeper into my current state. Thanks for your input. CP

Maculate -> RE: Why are you here? (7/27/2010 10:24:11 AM)
I am not sure if I have a direct answer, but I think I wish to convey my feelings. Since I was young I have always played a nurturing role in my family and with my friends. I always took much joy from the praise I would receive when doing things for others, serving them in different ways. Even if it was not verbal praise or a pat on the head, seeing that these people truly enjoyed it and it made their lives better made me so very happy! These feelings have flourished even further in life with my choice of career and other life decisions. Being submissive also plays into this, though I sometimes think it is a bit selfish. [:)] But the kind of selfishness that does not hurt others but rather benefit them! I have been very sexual for a very long time, maybe not active with others, but very interested in a wide variety of things. So it was very interesting to find a dynamic of such servitude that could, if I wanted, incorporate sexual servitude. It makes the serving deeper and even more fulfilling. My feelings are a bit askew in the way I can express them, but I really enjoy knowing how good I make my partners feel. I love knowing I am the reason they are coming, that I am doing such a great job that I will be remembered, I am the item of their pleasure. I like making these impressions and memories.

snowpuppy -> RE: Why are you here? (7/27/2010 12:04:46 PM)
Because I've known I was submissive for a long time =p although compared to my relationships I think id rather have a sub because some doms are not real doms, just mean ;o

CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/27/2010 1:04:51 PM)
quote: I am not sure if I have a direct answer, but I think I wish to convey my feelings. Since I was young I have always played a nurturing role in my family and with my friends. I always took much joy from the praise I would receive when doing things for others, serving them in different ways. Even if it was not verbal praise or a pat on the head, seeing that these people truly enjoyed it and it made their lives better made me so very happy! These feelings have flourished even further in life with my choice of career and other life decisions. Being submissive also plays into this, though I sometimes think it is a bit selfish. But the kind of selfishness that does not hurt others but rather benefit them! I have been very sexual for a very long time, maybe not active with others, but very interested in a wide variety of things. So it was very interesting to find a dynamic of such servitude that could, if I wanted, incorporate sexual servitude. It makes the serving deeper and even more fulfilling. My feelings are a bit askew in the way I can express them, but I really enjoy knowing how good I make my partners feel. I love knowing I am the reason they are coming, that I am doing such a great job that I will be remembered, I am the item of their pleasure. I like making these impressions and memories. Maculate, Bravo for a nicely defined explaination and thanks for your input. also welcome to CM and the boards. CP

SirsJewel -> RE: Why are you here? (7/27/2010 1:21:13 PM)
i am here because it is where lifes path lead me. i always knew sexually i was submissive. i also knew i was strong willed,hard headed at times but a good person overall. When i found my first strong lover i felt somewhat content,later years when i spoke to my first dominant i was so intrigued by his words it opened a floodgate knowing i wasn't alone thinking myself odd. When i first became owned i understood what giving to someone fully felt like,that if respect was put in place,good knowledge taught to me,my needs were met lovingly i could fly and be joyful knowing my place in life. So overall, i cannot look back,always wanting that Master that teaches me to be a good slave,be an asset to Him,and most ofall to be happy in lifes treasures. Even now through rough times i will gravitate towards the servatude of pleasing,and the rest just follows suit. BDSM is not a path to me personally it is overall my life now,everything else is shadowed by that. i did not know a community existed of like minds and i defiantely need that commonality. It's an ongoing travel on ones path,but it sure feels good when someone holds your hand along for the journey ~ jewels

Maculate -> RE: Why are you here? (7/27/2010 5:57:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince quote: I am not sure if I have a direct answer, but I think I wish to convey my feelings. Since I was young I have always played a nurturing role in my family and with my friends. I always took much joy from the praise I would receive when doing things for others, serving them in different ways. Even if it was not verbal praise or a pat on the head, seeing that these people truly enjoyed it and it made their lives better made me so very happy! These feelings have flourished even further in life with my choice of career and other life decisions. Being submissive also plays into this, though I sometimes think it is a bit selfish. But the kind of selfishness that does not hurt others but rather benefit them! I have been very sexual for a very long time, maybe not active with others, but very interested in a wide variety of things. So it was very interesting to find a dynamic of such servitude that could, if I wanted, incorporate sexual servitude. It makes the serving deeper and even more fulfilling. My feelings are a bit askew in the way I can express them, but I really enjoy knowing how good I make my partners feel. I love knowing I am the reason they are coming, that I am doing such a great job that I will be remembered, I am the item of their pleasure. I like making these impressions and memories. Maculate, Bravo for a nicely defined explaination and thanks for your input. also welcome to CM and the boards. CP I am glad that it was understood. I sometimes struggle to find the words I wish to use, which keeps me from speaking time to time. I would rather be silent than misconstrued. Thank you for the welcome. [:)]

kiwisub12 -> RE: Why are you here? (7/27/2010 6:27:34 PM)
I was married for 13 years to a dominating man, who took advantage of my nature, and yelled any time he wanted to "win". I knew this isn't the way i wanted to live. fast forward to 10 years after the divorce and i discovered my submissive nature, and ended up with a dominant in a totally fufilling relationship, that only ended because he died. We had a relationship that enabled us to walk side by side, rather than battling it out for the leadership position. By abrogating my authority to him, i gained a partner who put me first, as i did him- both of us convinced that we were getting more out of the relationship than the other. What a fabulous way to live! and the pain and play was the icing on the cake - not essential, but like salt , added to the savor. now i'm here to play on the message boards, and attempt to find another to be in the same sort of relationship. I have NEVER been as happy as i have been in the last five years, or as sexually fufilled, or any other sort of 'filled, and i don't plan on going backwards.

roland23 -> RE: Why are you here? (7/28/2010 4:53:10 AM)
Interesting question. I am here to meet a sub. Quite simple. Probably millions are in the same boat.

mstrjx -> RE: Why are you here? (7/28/2010 12:22:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: roland23 Interesting question. I am here to meet a sub. Quite simple. Probably millions are in the same boat. <Starts humming Thomas Dolby, over and over> Jeff

CelticPrince -> RE: Why are you here? (7/28/2010 10:27:12 PM)
quote: For most of my life, I have been a strong, outgoing, resourceful leader. I submitted control to no one, I saw it as a weakness. Then, I was introduced to the lifestyle. I discovered that the only person I could truly be with was someone who I trusted and cared for enough to submit all control to, in addition to the fact that I enjoy a lot of kink in bed. Even in the comparatively short time Ive been exploring d/s and bdsm, Ive found a way that I can keep my relationships, and myself, from continuing to crash and burn. So, I have chosen this path because its the missing piece in becoming the person I wish to be, strong even when I am powerless, outgoing but respectful, resourceful yet accepting of input, and a leader who is submissive to the One for me. And yes, I figured this out when I was 18, a 'young age.' But who said self realization at a young age was bad? Perhaps it displays the personal strength of the next generation. [/quote lovelyk Well it seems you have beat the odds for coming into D/s at such a young age. CP

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