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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 9/26/2004 5:30:47 PM   
curiouskitten


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let me ask you this...is anybody out there a parent? are your children any less your children when they are not with you?

is anybody out there a nurse? are you not a nurse if you don't have a patient with you?

anybody out there a human being? 24/7....

we are all who we are, ALL the time, it doesn't matter what we are doing, we are ourselves 24/7....

next question?

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 10/4/2004 10:22:23 AM   
MasterWndwalker


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Status: offline 		I enjoyed reading your post on being submissive to your Master. I too am 24/7, even though at present I do not own anyone I know I soon will again. But whether you have subs/slaves or not does not preclude your being 24/7 lifestyle. Everyone I associate with in my free time is lifestyle. I am always willing (almost) eager to share my experiences and teachings with anyone who will listen. In my head I live and walk in the bdsm lifestyle all the time. Even when dealing with vanillas I know its my confidence as a Master that helps me deal with any and all situations that arise. So yes, I agree with you, being 24/7 is a way of life and one I truly love

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 10/4/2004 10:45:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		In researching Domestic Discipline I got the impression that some do but that it is more subtle. I know when I find my lady I sure don't want her calling me Sir in front of her kids, if she has them ( try to explain THAT to a 9 yr old ) LOL There are some good groups on yahoo about doing it 24/7 It also seems to be less sexual and more of a way to live. I especially like their concept of controlling the sub in public by holding every door scooting in every chair...putting their seat belt on them. That seat belt thing almost seems like bondage in public places lol..........Blissed Be...Mike

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 10/4/2004 11:17:10 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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Status: offline 		BDSM 24/7? No. D/s yes. I say TPE 24/7 live-in. But I stress D/s. W/we all have to have our vanilla lives. It is necessary in day to day life. I have heard of some who live in the country and are independantly wealthy and wish for no other way. If they can do that and it makes them happy, I think that is great. I have males who wish to come to Me and never see the ouside world again. I call that "running away/trying to take the easy way out". When I own a slave, it is with contract and collar. If the collar is apporpriate to be worn 24/7 (most males will not be questioned if they wear a gold chain) it is a constant reminder of bondage to Me as their Owner. A household collar can be worn after work. Certain rituals: bring your collar to Me, kneel, greet Me, kiss it and give it to Me to place around your neck. Let Me check your chastity device. And try sleeping in one, boys. you will be reminded all night long that you belong to Me. But it is a mindset. I am Dominant and what I say goes. he is submissive or slave and has to do what I say. D/s 24/7? Yes. Doing the housework is vanilla. Who does the housework and why is D/s.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 1/19/2005 1:45:10 PM   
garylee


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Status: offline 		''i'' am doing it..........for real.
i am here in Ma'am's home,....with the honor and privilege of Her collar on my neck.
i am Her domestics service slave.
i am,.. a 24/7--365 real life slave for my Mistress.
hope this is a good answer for you.
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goddessdustygold - 1/19/2005 1:48:25 PM   
garylee


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Status: offline 		i have-to agree-------it IS the d/s 24/7.......
but for the record?........no contract other than oral.
a paper contract is not worth the paper it is written on in a court of law...
if my word is not enough.......She doesn't deserve me.

but this is just me.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 1/25/2005 7:15:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I live 24:7 REAL TIME and 24/7 with a live in sub ( my collared).

It was best understood in a thread reply I read a while back, and it stuck with me in my mind as what it's deffinition was.

24/7 = YOU ARE ACCOUNTABLE AT ALL TIMES FOR YOUR WORDS, ACTIONS, AND ROLE.

that is the easiers way I could ever think of it.

24/7 does not mean it is just one big giant "scene". We actualy look very "vanilla" to the outside world, but the mindframe and track of logical thought has a BDSM theme undercurrent to it at all times.

Being a D/s couple, and not appearing as such is an artform all of its own.

HTH.

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RE: goddessdustygold - 1/25/2005 11:03:28 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: garylee
a paper contract is not worth the paper it is written on in a court of law...
if my word is not enough.......She doesn't deserve me.



i agree; however, Master and i spent quite a while working on our contract, and we read it during our collaring ceremony. i view it much like writing your own wedding vows. I doubt (and hope) that two us will ever end up in court, anyway. ("Your honor, the contract clearly states she is to clean the house, and as you can see from these photos, there is laundry on the floor!")

shannon

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 1/25/2005 12:37:35 PM   
Cyis75


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Status: offline 		I think Darthbetta summed up my situation with my lovely submissive. We live together so we're around each other all the time, but it isn't like one big giant scene. For one that'd take so much energy from both her and I to sustain it constantly and more than likely would burn one or both of us out.

But we are 24/7... No matter what is going on the D/s roles are always there and take only a word, glance or snap and goes into a fully obedient response from her. We have our vanilla life but there are always the aspects that those that are more acutely aware of might pick up but on casual observation are overlooked. She takes care of me as much as I take care of her by the way we serve to meet each others needs.

As Darth said it's an artform of it's own and for each couple it will be unique as we are each unique. Each couple need to look at what they need for the structure as well as being flexible over time to adjust to changes that happen with life. In the end yes it is possible to live a BDSM lifestyle 24/7 but it isn't nearly close to the Gor and other erotic novels would make you believe it to be. Real life is just much different than fantasy.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 1/28/2005 6:27:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		What on earth is this concept that 24/7 means isolation? It simply means living the lifestyle 24 hours a day 7 days a week. And as others have pointed out, that does not mean naked in play all the time, it simply means that the dynamic is TPE, and that the sub/slave is expected to obey all commands and be available on demand. The OP should reconsider her definition of 24/7, because her question is about something entirely different. Perhaps she has it confused with some silly Gorean ideal of total slavery.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/9/2005 6:19:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GrandpaLash

What on earth is this concept that 24/7 means isolation? It simply means living the lifestyle 24 hours a day 7 days a week. And as others have pointed out, that does not mean naked in play all the time, it simply means that the dynamic is TPE, and that the sub/slave is expected to obey all commands and be available on demand. The OP should reconsider her definition of 24/7, because her question is about something entirely different. Perhaps she has it confused with some silly Gorean ideal of total slavery.

Grandpa Lash


Perfect...and welcome. It's nice to see you here. :)

i'm thinking (watch out!! lol) that there are so many different ways of interpreting 24/7 that you really do need to explain your meaning for anyone to understand. i consider myself '24/7' (yes, newly found by 'Master' and it's going very well) because i belong to him 24/7. It isn't just in the bedroom or during a scene - it's always. It's a life thing, not a role for me or him.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/9/2005 6:56:59 AM   
cailinTC


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Yes, there are some that live 24/7 in an M/s relationship. Yes, Both Master and His girl do work out of the home, but the submission does not stop walking out of the door. This girl, if she is lucky enough, does sleep with Master, then she wakes up and makes sure that everything is prepared for Him when He does wake up, i.e. jammies, coffee, etc. This girl is allowed to hop online when He is sleeping to take care of some things, but once He wakes up, it's back on the floor for this slut. 24/7 it is all about Him and what pleases Him, even if she is at work. In this real life that Mmost of Uus have to live in, it takes two incomes to pay the bills, in most cases. Wwe live in that case. So, just because that she has to work, she does not believe that she is not living a 24/7 M/s relationship. cailin is a slave, not just part time, and Master Trav, aka, Master Tolerable Cruelty, is definitely a Master 24/7, although at times it seems that He is a Sadist 26/8. That is just Master. *snickers* But, cailin does have to say that it is possible to live a 24/7 in this day in age in a Gorean M/s relationship while Bboth Ppeople still work. Master and cailin don't live in a book or a movie, otherwise she is sure that it would probably work that way, but every once in a while, Ssomeone has to peek at reality a bit. It is what makes things interesting.



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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/9/2005 7:28:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: knees2you

Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7
do they?? I have been reading alot of Profiles that people seem to think that all of us live the lifestyle 24/7.

Lots of people don't - 24/7 is not easy, and people who are not driven to that shouldn't bother with it.

For those of us who are driven toward that, it's sometimes worth the effort that it takes.

24/7 does not mean bondage or S/M play, of course. It's a d/s dynamic. I like being The Boss (tm) all of the time, others like having someone who is The Boss in their life.

It is comprable to being in love. If you're in love with someone, that's there for the whole day, even when you're at work, sleeping, or watching a movie - not just when you're lovemaking. Living 24/7, the d/s dynamic is always there, even if it's not being exercised or focused upon while you're cooking dinner.

I assume that you're Christian, and that you're Christian 24/7. This does not mean that you're constantly praying and prosteltyzing, does it? Nobody could do that.
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Sincerely, eyesofAslave~


Interesting signature for someone who is not 24/7 - the 'slave' part may explain why some are confused about you being 24/7.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/25/2005 8:38:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: knees2you

Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7
do they?? I have been reading alot of Profiles that people seem to think that all of us live the lifestyle 24/7.
I have even gotten messeges thinking that I do. I do not?
Why is it people think we live Bdsm 24/7 when it is not so?????

Sincerely, eyesofAslave~



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Status: offline Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7
do they?? I have been reading alot of Profiles that people seem to think that all of us live the lifestyle 24/7.
I have even gotten messeges thinking that I do. I do not?
Why is it people think we live Bdsm 24/7 when it is not so?????

Sincerely, eyesofAslave~



In your profile, you state " "Can a Domme be single, with no Attachments.
PLEASE No Attacments with You~ looking for 24-7 Marriage minded Thank You~~"

You are looking for the very thing you asking if it exists.
Why are you looking for something you don't believe exists? Or perhaps I am misunderstanding what I'm reading.

I live 24/7. For me, this means I live with my Master every day, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, for the past 15 yrs.
I'm not on all fours, naked, in collar and cuffs. That's for playtime. And play time is not the basis of our relationship. For some it may be closer. Cool for them. Thogh playtime is definately awesome!!! *grins*

There's alot of doms I read about on here that could never handled, by their own admition, that level / dynamic of a relationship. I don't think this is for everyone. But it's not a fantasy either.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/25/2005 11:10:51 PM   
ravenna


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Status: offline 		"Hi, is this the Bureau of the Census, Alternative Lifestyle Enumeration Division? Ravenna here. Got a pen? I'd like to register yet one more very happy full-time 24/7/365 slavegirl, along with two slaveowners, four and a half houses, six horses, no dogs, no cats, no kids, i forget how many cars, and hang on, let me go count the whips and floggers... Hello? You still there? Hello?"

Apparently nothing riles up the slaves like telling them they're not really slaves, they're really secretly free and just fooling themselves. Right on! Count me 24/7 on the side of the full-time-slaves-for-life. Just because you're not riding your horse at the moment and the horse happens to be trotting "at liberty" around her meadow thinking horsey thoughts, that doesn't mean you don't own your horse; when it's time to saddle up the horse and ride her hard, it's the master in the saddle, not the horse. And if the horse gets put to work and has to pull a cart for a living or dance in the circus, she may have her career to think about now, but she's still your horse. Well, i'm lucky to be that prized and treasured and owned horse 24/7 and that's all i ever want to be...

Gotta trot now, my riders are waiting to start their trick horsemanship exhibition, and i'm their prize dancing filly. Hi-ho Silver, away!

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/26/2005 11:39:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GoddessJules

Shoshin,

I totally agree with you. There is TOTAL equivocation on the term "24/7". . .so to lessen the ambiguity, I usually say live-in or TPE.

~Jules~



Your website seems to be down... "not found error" when I click your link...

Very few poeple can afford to live as 24/7 slaves or prisoners - they maybe able to over vacation periods or on weekends... but most poeple have the drudgery of employment, family obligations, and a real life...

To most poeple's suprise, there isnt a large class of the 'idle rich'. most wealthy poeple work thier butts off to get wealthy, and even harder to stay wealthy.

Does anyone else have a captivity or prisoner fetish? where someone is kept locked away in a cell or room (perhaps wearing a darby set) for an extended period of time. (days) ? or is it just me? --consentually naturally--

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/26/2005 2:05:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		In the same way that, for 27 years, i was married 24/7, a D/s relationship (imho) is also possible 24/7. It's not so much the activities, but the mindset and the heart set.

cheers
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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/26/2005 7:45:53 PM   
knees2you


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But it makes sense after a few reads~

How about some profiles with just a pic, then You guess what they want??

Yes I am looking for like minded Ltr with possible Marriage~
It is one of the Hardest things to find here~
Just one of them~

Sincerely, ant

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/26/2005 8:14:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		AS mentioned yes it's depending on the definition, but yes many of us do live the lifestyle 24/7. I am half of a Dom/me couple in a poly household, Mistress stays home as do the subs and I work (yes I am a supervisor, so no I don't go out of character) and take care of all the financial obligations. No everyone doesn't wear lifestyle clothing all the time nor are they naked and chained, no they are not played with constantly, that is ludicrous...do vanilla people never get naked, do they never do anything a bit kinky..gezz, you are missing the point, it's not are you playing 24/7, it is are you (&/or your "others") living and practicing the lifestyle all the time? WE ARE 24/7, no the subs do not work but if I did require that, wouldn't they be following my directive? I have to believe as some others have said it is the mentality 24/7, but I also believe that if the Dominant (or Dominants in our case) are in control 24/7 then yes it is very possible. I am quite certain if you were to ask our subs if they live the lifestyle 24/7 they would certainly agree they do. After all, the roof over their head, the food in their belly and the clothes on their back (or butt..lol) is provided for them by those who have taken on that responsibility, those that have assumed control. We have to be 24/7, it's our job. I understand that many cannot do this..I do not condemn them or accuse them of not being sincere, I understand that everyone's situation is different, but by the same token, those of us with the resources, ability and schedule who can achieve this, should not be put under the label of "can't be done", it can be.

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RE: Nobody really lives the Bdsm lifestyle 24/7 do they?? - 2/26/2005 8:40:43 PM   
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To me this is a matter of personal definition. When a couple is married, no one says they are married24/7, they are just considered married. It is their state of being.

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