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ORIGINAL: Zevar

I do not believe I have an approach as much as I know when to approach. I have never been the type of man that searches for whatever it may be that I need. Instead what I need tends to find a way to connect paths with myself on my journey and this includes relationships also. There is a distinct difference in finding someone to be interesting as opposed to knowing that my interest will not fade. When I know to approach I do so in a clear, direct yet uncompromisingly way that is offered with a one time effort. If my one time effort lacks receptivity I become quietly content to remain undisturbed. Life goes forth without fail knowing that if it is meant to be that I will one day connect paths with that special lady that gains my unwavering gentlemanly attention and unrelenting trustworthiness. Patience leads the way in all I set forth to accomplish. I have always been willing to wait for that which is of great worth and value to myself. The same personal value remains uncompromised.

Take care!

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

Yeah..thats just not right..I see the great avatar view...and being me,I'm interested in seeing more(I mean dayum what a great view you offer)...and lo and behold..."profile not found".
Thats just not right.

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ORIGINAL: slvemike4u

That smile emoticon just isn't cutting it Winsome...I want freaken pictures....lol.

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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Planting a seed for what?

It is usually showing interest just out of admiration for their words or point of view or how they express themselves.

It is also ok to be friends or acquaintances. I mean, there is someone on the board for example who is totally involved with someone. It does not stop me from telling him that I like his posts, etc.

But it doesn't mean anything beyond that.

As humans, whenever there is interaction, be it typed or verbal, there are potentially up to three 'conversations'.

What you said. What I heard. And the truth.

Our brains process information subjectively based on a myriad of things. Some of these may be fellacious such that we misunderstand or misinterpret.

All I'm saying is that is it not possible that you, as a single person, paying a compliment to another single person could be 'loaded'? And not in a bad way. Is it impossible that instead of being direct and sending an email saying 'Hey! You're cute. Wanna chat some time?' which would be too forward for you, you send an email saying 'Hey! Nice post there.' (with or without the obligatory pat on the butt like football players) and not have it mean the same thing? It's just opening a door that the other person chooses or not to accept without taking the personal risk of putting your feelings on the line.

Jeff

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

It is usually showing interest just out of admiration for their words or point of view or how they express themselves...

...But it doesn't mean anything beyond that.

So you mean you *don't* actually want to jump into bed with me?



(I'm only kidding, Gorgeous :P)

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ORIGINAL:juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL:Zevar

I do not believe I have an approach as much as I know when to approach. I have never been the type of man that searches for whatever it may be that I need. Instead what I need tends to find a way to connect paths with myself on my journey and this includes relationships also. There is a distinct difference in finding someone to be interesting as opposed to knowing that my interest will not fade. When I know to approach I do so in a clear, direct yet uncompromisingly way that is offered with a one time effort. If my one time effort lacks receptivity I become quietly content to remain undisturbed. Life goes forth without fail knowing that if it is meant to be that I will one day connect paths with that special lady that gains my unwavering gentlemanly attention and unrelenting trustworthiness. Patience leads the way in all I set forth to accomplish. I have always been willing to wait for that which is of great worth and value to myself. The same personal value remains uncompromised.
Take care!

It helps to have an active profile to facilitate a connection... if that is your desire anyways

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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

As humans, whenever there is interaction, be it typed or verbal, there are potentially up to three 'conversations'.

What you said. What I heard. And the truth.

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All I'm saying is that is it not possible that you, as a single person, paying a compliment to another single person could be 'loaded'? And not in a bad way.

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Once upon a time I was reluctant to express my interest, but now I'll admit it if it's there. Being on the receiving end of someone talking around things made me realize how frustrating it can be for the other person.

In the past I've followed the man's lead and I won't do that again. Not in the manner I did before. I like the cadence and mutual contribution in the conversation I'm having at present. We both initiate and there's an organic flow I appreciate. It's unlikely that our paths would have ever crossed without his gesture, but I didn't rest on my laurels once he did. Engagement is a two-way street in my opinion.

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ORIGINAL: RedStapler

I think this is a very refreshing attitude, one that I hope others will respect and adopt.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

If it is working for you, so be it, although I cannot possibly know how it would... I guess I have a limited imagination. Personally, if I get an email from a man and I cannot view his profile, I wonder why and I do not respond.

This is just me, and I am sure there are women who respond to people who do not have active profiles... *shrugs*

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

If it is working for you, so be it, although I cannot possibly know how it would... I guess I have a limited imagination. Personally, if I get an email from a man and I cannot view his profile, I wonder why and I do not respond.

This is just me, and I am sure there are women who respond to people who do not have active profiles... *shrugs*

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

When I had an active profile on the other side I never contacted a profile that I found interesting. I would view them and if they were interested then I assumed they would contact me.
On this side I was a huge flirt, never with the intention of meeting someone. It was just pure fun with no pressure. I used to view a ton of profiles from this side just because I was curious to see a bit more of the person behind the words, especially if they said things that were witty or just plain stupid.
Shore's first post ever with his original profile was a direct response to one of my threads...this is going back to December of 2006. He never wrote me or really made me aware of his presence until he was ready, about a year later.
With him, once I was aware of him on the boards I used to log on and search to see if he had written anything and then finally I broke down and viewed him, not in stealth mode, but fully aware that he would see that I had looked. He wrote me and the rest is history.

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ORIGINAL: Zevar

Greetings juliaoceania:

I disagree with your assumption. Choosing to not create a CM profile will not limit what is meant to be between people. It sounds like you are placing your focus and emphasis on a CM profile as others might also do in order to connect with someone. I respect this if it is true for you or others. I do not though. I am thinking from an unlimited possibilities perspective, it is how the good in my life manifests.

Further if 2 people are to connect then innumerable ways will surface for that connection to happen. If I and a certain special lady are meant to be in one another’s life then I believe what is meant to be will be! I don’t force it. I simply believe it and when the timing is right the material manifestation of the good I desire and know to be the right connection will spring forth just as I believed. I trust this explicitly! It is a part of my Spiritual path that I practice. Thoughts held in mind produce those of their kind.

Take care…