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UniqueRaven -> RE: Request made for wearing high heels (7/30/2010 12:07:35 PM)
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
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Did i have permanent damage? No. But might someone else? Sure, it's possible.
You may have and not know it. Repetitive injury is a cumulative sort of thing. You could have damaged something in there and not know it for a long long time... nerves are a weird thing. This is especially true if this goes on repeatedly over time. I have carpel tunnel syndrome, and it was infuriated by the bad bondage thing I mentioned. I was diagnosed with it long after that mishap, thankfully I do not need surgery for it, YET. Next time he has you walk like that until you can't walk further, well that maybe the time that you have permanent pain you have to live with forever. You want to take that risk, no skin off my nose... but I just wanted to point out, you are taking that risk. There are no safe ways to do dangerous things, but there are common sense things we can do to mitigate those risks... if someone reads this and doesn't think following a doms orders that may leave them permanently damaged (at least asking questions to medical professionals first), well then I am glad I replied to your post.
i understand your point, and truly respect it - i just want to share some thoughts of my own.
Please let me add, i am a Biologist by degree, and have had many years of training via my yoga therapy work - one of my areas of focus is Yin Yoga, which works with the connective tissues of the body, and is founded in medical study.
The interesting thing about a medical professional's opinion - often it is a matter for them of simply "does it hurt?" and "is it bothering you?" - even with xrays, if a bone isn't clearly broken, so much of the body is about pain tolerance, working with our bodies, and our ability to enable the body to heal itself. So much of the physical therapy that is performed is simply enabling the body to heal for pain management. And yes, i have worked with actual physicians and physical therapists in my yoga therapy practice, this is an informed opinion that i have. [;)] Just because someone is a medical professional doesn't necessarily imply he's got the absolute answer - the human body is a complex system, and it just isn't as black or white as that. Pain you live with "forever" isn't always true - i have seen people with chronic injuries that they have had 10+ years - especially back injuries - find pain management and new movement via yoga therapy (i recommend it for both you and your mother, btw). [:)]
And yes, it is taking a risk. But so is getting out of bed in the morning, getting in my car, or jogging along a busy street - there is really nothing we truly control in life. The body is a system, it ages, it changes, and we manage it. i can have carpal tunnel from all my typing! i can gain a back injury from sitting in my desk chair for years. The point is the decisions that we make, and working with the results, whatever they may be, as you very aptly point out. i choose more risk. This is simply what works for me.
Also for those that immediately run to say that this is abusive behavior by a Dom, or a sign that he doesn't care, or that he places his kink higher than my welfare - please don't make things so black and white. There's informed decisions, and if i'm in pain, and unable to perform, then he makes his decisions accordingly. It isn't always just "suck it up" for his kink. There is love, and caring involved, even in this sort of dynamic. The primary difference is - who holds the control to make the decisions.
And a bit more shoe advice: i don't necessarily recommend platforms, as walking on a 3" platform prevents you from "feeling" the ground, and also creates a higher risk of ankle injuries if you do fall. i've fallen worse in platforms than any other shoe - just my experience. i recommend start with shorter heels, with good support and cushioning, and an ankle strap - and work your way up.
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