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LadyConstanze -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/4/2010 2:21:23 AM)
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ORIGINAL: dbloomer
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
What are you doing with people who are pros but come here to find lifestyle players just for fun? I know quite a few of them.
Then they can either create a second profile NOT flagged "pro-dom" for their non-professional use, which seems like the logical thing to do anyways, or the system can impliment ANOTHER flag, pro-dom/lifestyle flag which identifies accounts as both, and men will be able to toggle on and off the "ignore pro-dom" search option at their leisure.
Oh can we also have one button for every profession? You know accountants, managers, etc. If they charge for their professional services, why not? Or please one for the unemployed people who want dominant partners to take care of them and pay for their expenses, happens fairly often too.... Or is it just because for the odd guy it is too much trouble to read a profile and skip pros?
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I also made the experience that a lot of guys are sending very detailed requests and expect dommes (somehow I don't think I am the rare exception and they are only doing this to me because I'm so very special) to jump through hoops, buy stuff, expect us to have a playroom in our house or rent one, all for the pleasure of their company and to fulfill their wish list, the "I'm not really interested" doesn't seem to register AT ALL, they just keep on writing, but oh beware if you tell them that they want somebody who's only there to fulfill their fantasies, they should see a professional domme because I AM REALLY NOT INTERESTED, they get quite aggressive. You know if I made a post each time one of those "charmers" contacts me, I'd be spamming the boards daily. Now add to this the guys who want a bit of "cyber fun" (of course I would be allowed to watch their cam for my pleasure alone - yawn) or the ones who are married and are looking for a bit of fun without the wife knowing (yeah, how can somebody resist them), or the ones who think they can give you a grilling to the nth degree because you happen to be on this site, so as a female you must be fair game... I am sure I left some out, just a few of the most usual CMs you get, then I don't really think that complaining that a woman might not answer a mail or that some of them may be pros really cuts it.
Plus as a woman, a guy who can't be bothered to read my profile because it is too much effort - why on earth should I be interested in him in the 1st place?
I am not unsympathetic to the problems you experience. I don't know how they relate to the usefulness of a pro-dom flag on this site.
Oh funny, since those problems bother women they are not important, we can ignore them, but please please lets not force poor guys to actually READ profiles, too much work and we can't really force that on them. It relates very simple, how many of the post do you see where guys complain and complain because they want it easy.
Of course if guys not tell you that they are married, we don't need a button... Hell no, as women we can deal with that but beware that a guy has to put in any effort, I see how that is far too much to ask.
Plus the usefulness of those buttons are more than debatable, you don't really think that spammers would use them?
A couple of people have problems with pros here, I see the word hookers tossed around, funny that because most of the pro dommes I know won't have sexual intercourse with their clients, quite a lot of the guys on this site want to f*** no matter if they are sub or dom, and as many women as possible, never heard a bad word about them. That to me is a double standard.
Don't get me wrong, I have every issue with spammers and people who are trying to exploit others, but if somebody says they offer a service and they are pro, that is honest and you just have to go through the "massive trouble" of reading their profiles, if you can't be bothered with reading a profile, well, why should a woman be even interested in you if you are showing so little interest? And as several people have pointed out, the ones who want to scam, they won't tell you.
But of course since a problem might bother MEN it's a HUGE problem, we got to bend over backwards to make it easier for them, let's blissfully ignore everything women have to deal with, because apparently they are grown up enough to deal with it and don't expect to have everything delivered on a silver plate.
I've been on this site for years, I've met some great people who turned into fantastic friends, I've met some people I enjoyed playing with, I met some downright disturbed people, some really unpleasant experiences, but oddly enough I don't complain and complain and want everybody to find a solution so I got it easier. I'm one of the people who sometimes delete messages unread because I find the user name distasteful, I tend to block people a lot easier if they don't understand a "Thank you but no thank you", now if I can do it, pray tell why can't men? Are men really such fragile creatures that they need to be mollycoddled? In that case certainly not the right subs for me, because like most other dommes, I much much prefer a guy who submits from strength than from weakness...
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