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Elisabella -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:31:22 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Ok, I just search fem dom's in Mo. 37-57.

The first 3 seemed genuine to me.

Why do people think this is going to be easy?


Yeah seriously, even if all the pro dommes disappeared tomorrow he'd still have a hell of a time finding a woman who wanted to support a live-in house bitch.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:34:53 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Why do people think this is going to be easy?


Because they want instant gratification, that includes instant relationships. His whole profile is all about what he wants, my idea of a perfect nightmare, a sub who wants romance, is always at home and underfoot and wants "punishment"... A housekeeper and a cleaner are cheaper and cause less hassle!



EbonyWood -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:34:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Ok, I just search fem dom's in Mo. 37-57.

The first 3 seemed genuine to me.

Why do people think this is going to be easy?


Nice 'research.'
 
Enjoy yourself and be home for dinner.
 
 



Jeffff -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:36:34 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: EbonyWood

quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Ok, I just search fem dom's in Mo. 37-57.

The first 3 seemed genuine to me.

Why do people think this is going to be easy?


Nice 'research.'
 
Enjoy yourself and be home for dinner.
 
 



Yes Ma'am.



MissAsylum -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:41:01 AM)

After reading his titilating profile, i think he would benifit from taking some household care classes and maybe working as a maid or something. i'd rather have a live-in maid than a person who is going to whine like that.



Elisabella -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:42:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

After reading his titilating profile, i think he would benifit from taking some household care classes and maybe working as a maid or something. i'd rather have a live-in maid than a person who is going to whine like that.


Yeah but think of all the effort you'd have to put into teaching him how and when to shave his body hair.

Sometimes "you're in control of this" is just a sneaky way of saying "I expect you to put effort into paying attention to this in the way that I like."



MissAsylum -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:47:33 AM)

you make a very good point. come to think of it, maids don't really make snide demands either.



udaboss -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:48:17 AM)

I used to contact women, but I put a lot of effort into it and some of the women didn't even bother to read the e-mail. I go to my "sent items" folder and find a message I spent 20 minutes to wriye was "deleted unread."

I'm sorry people are upset. I really didn't think what I was asking for was a big deal.

Evidently, it's a REAL big deal, and people feel they have to ridicule and insult me for even suggesting it.

Is there a way to delete the original post? I don't want people to be so upset and mad. What was I thinking? What a STUPID idea.

I particularly pissed off "dommes" who do this for a living. Ironic, huh?



SorceressJ -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:51:31 AM)

Yep, they've hit it right on the head with this one. I should know, I had a personal run-in with it when I was on here under the username I had before. Pathetic, but easily laughed off, actually..



Jeffff -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:51:50 AM)

Dude, it's not ridicule. Do you have any idea how many times we have heard this?

Your profile says you have been here for 5 years. You have 31 posts.

Why don't you stay and post here. There are people on this board that I have never met, yet I have an excellent felling for who they are.

That is based solely on their posts.

I myself have spent almost 3 years wearing a lesbian fem dom down.

I am getting close.

Lat WILL be mine!



juliaoceania -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:53:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: udaboss

I used to contact women, but I put a lot of effort into it and some of the women didn't even bother to read the e-mail. I go to my "sent items" folder and find a message I spent 20 minutes to wriye was "deleted unread."

I'm sorry people are upset. I really didn't think what I was asking for was a big deal.

Evidently, it's a REAL big deal, and people feel they have to ridicule and insult me for even suggesting it.

Is there a way to delete the original post? I don't want people to be so upset and mad. What was I thinking? What a STUPID idea.


I hope you can dismiss the snide comments about your profile and what you seek (yeah, that is a little hitting under the belt and not called for)...


There is some good advice on this thread, though. LadyPact gave you excellent advice, for example....

You are a dude looking for a relationship on a site for people who like kinky sex, as well as lifestyle D/s. There are more men here than women, you do not want to compete for the available pussy on this site, you ain't getting any. It is just the way it is. If you think some perfect domme is going to find you, well why should she? Her cup runneth over with offers, she does not have time to find you because she is too busy deleting emails from other subs that do not match HER criteria...




laurell3 -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:53:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: udaboss


quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Or, you could take a small amount of your time and determine whether or not the woman is a pro or not.

If she is, you could then move on.


MistressJeff


No, it takes a LARGE amount of time, sifting through profile after profile. And many are not up front about the money thing. You take time to read their whole profile, take the time to write a write a nice letter of introduction that clearly shows you've read their profile, and THEN they respond that it's going to cost you money.


Yep and while they are at it, they should separate the guys that are just looking for sex, lying about their marital status and that whine incessently about pros and fakes from the others. Grow up. It's not easy for anyone. Your dream date isn't going to fall in your lap like magic, you're going to actually have to assert yourself to find her.

By the way, those of you that endorsed the idea, why would you think the scammers and pros would stick to their category?



Elisabella -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 8:54:40 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: udaboss

I used to contact women, but I put a lot of effort into it and some of the women didn't even bother to read the e-mail. I go to my "sent items" folder and find a message I spent 20 minutes to wriye was "deleted unread."

I'm sorry people are upset. I really didn't think what I was asking for was a big deal.

Evidently, it's a REAL big deal, and people feel they have to ridicule and insult me for even suggesting it.

Is there a way to delete the original post? I don't want people to be so upset and mad. What was I thinking? What a STUPID idea.


Nobody's really upset, we're just snarky.

Internet dating is a tool, not a solution. No matter how much effort you put into impressing a woman, she is under absolutely no obligation to pay attention or be impressed.

I obviously have my own snide views about the likelihood of you finding what you're looking for, but that's between you and the women you date. You're looking for something very specific and not very common - you'll have better luck than the people looking to be a 24/7 puppy or pony but probably less luck than someone who is looking to submit to the will of a woman he loves rather than looking for a woman to fill a niche situation that he desires.

In other words, skipping through pro domme ads is probably the least of your troubles. Since your profile is so specific about what you're looking for, you're going to have to skip most of the non pro domme profiles too until you find a woman who is looking for the same thing.



VaguelyCurious -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 9:05:26 AM)

Udaboss: it's not that people are touchy, it's that some idiot comes along and makes exactly the same post you just did every week. That means people (myself included) automatically think 'man whining about categories/prodommes/fakes/scammers= no good idiot=fair game for insults'.

They (we? probably we) are being rude because you're demonstrating a lack of original thought and a lack of realism (do you *really* think that cam-girls who don't state in their profile that they are cam-girls would tick the pro box? let alone scammers....) that makes it hard to take you seriously.

Everyone else: I'm sorry, but you all seem to have missed the most important part of this thread.

quote:

ORIGINAL: EbonyWood
 
And they call you Sir.
 
Even if you're just an anteater.


EW's a *closet anteater*?!?!

Was that common knowledge already and I just missed it, or have you ALL GONE BLIND? Why did nobody pick up on this confession? Do I have to make *all* the obvious jokes on stupid threads around here?



MissAsylum -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 9:06:20 AM)

i apologise if my comments were snarky. but in a realistic manner- how much luck do you expect to have with a profile that comes off in the manner in which yours does? look at it this way: if you were on a regular vanilla dating site, and you were to demand certain things from a woman? not qualities a person must have, but "you must do this, you must do that, yada, yada, its all about me", how successful do you think you would be?



LadyConstanze -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 9:08:43 AM)

FR:

As Elisabella already said, your profile is just a bit too much, you want something very specific and if possible a marriage, you might have more luck with a dating agency and carefully rephrasing your profile a bit, for example saying that you try to find a wife and you would like to be the husband who does all the housework. The ones who reply, you can drop hints that you are into being controlled and see how they react, there might be one who has those fantasies but never realized that it might be BDSM, now if they call it something else it shouldn't matter because you are after the relationship and not the label.

This forum is not different from meeting women anywhere else, you might get dressed up (here you write a mail) and approach them, but there is no guarantee that they will be interested.

As a woman, do you know how many mails you get on a daily basis from guys who are just looking for kinky sex? Even if your profile says it is not on, it's a free site, there is a reason why I sometimes take a rather long break, because a lot of people sign up and just spam anybody who comes up in their search, they think the more mails they send the more chance of success they have...



SorceressJ -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 9:08:57 AM)

I noticed that too, VC.. [8|] ::oh noes::



Jeffff -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 9:11:31 AM)

E.W. and I are a Femdom/ FemDom couple.


Don't you people understand anything?



VaguelyCurious -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 9:13:48 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SorceressJ

I noticed that too, VC.. [8|] ::oh noes::
Don't say 'oh noes'-we have to be supportive! The last thing EW will want after coming out like that is people expressing dismay-how do think that will make him feel? You'll make him feel afraid to be himself. There is nothing wrong with being an anteater, you hear?

[;)]





EbonyWood -> RE: Couldn't CM Have a Category for Dommes Who Aren't After Money? (8/3/2010 9:14:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: udaboss

I used to contact women, but I put a lot of effort into it and some of the women didn't even bother to read the e-mail. I go to my "sent items" folder and find a message I spent 20 minutes to wriye was "deleted unread."

I'm sorry people are upset. I really didn't think what I was asking for was a big deal.

Evidently, it's a REAL big deal, and people feel they have to ridicule and insult me for even suggesting it.

Is there a way to delete the original post? I don't want people to be so upset and mad. What was I thinking? What a STUPID idea.

I particularly pissed off "dommes" who do this for a living. Ironic, huh?


People get snarky exactly because of this passive/aggressive posting shit.
 
You got good enough advice considering it's free.
 
Basically along the lines of suck it up, don't be lazy and stop whining.
 
Reward doesn't always equal effort, but it usually comes pretty close.
 
Go to a munch. Any dommes there are more likely to be nonpro than pro.
 
If the net is your main source of getting your thrills you'll be wading through crap for life.
 
 
 
 
 
 
Note: I have never at any time been a member of the Anteater Party (raises right paw)



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