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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 3:50:18 PM

Lockit

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Wow, so you use jealousy to get a response. Not a real mature thing to do in an adult relationship or what should be an adult relationship. It was manipulative, cruel and passive aggressive as well.

Dude... it may be time to grow up. Leave the nineteen year old alone so she doesn't come out of this really scared and hesitant to trust any man.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 3:58:13 PM

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Well I guess she still cared. Mind you I haven't heard from her in a week. I asked her when I could stop by and said it had to be before 9 cause I was going out with Brittany. Another girl in the picture and she freaks. I guess it was already over. Just wondering if I did the right thing. IDK I guess she still cared but not enough to show it.

Which one of you is nineteen? Good grief - - actually, I know nineteen year olds who are more mature than what you've displayed in this thread.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 4:04:59 PM

EasyE

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Wow, so you use jealousy to get a response. Not a real mature thing to do in an adult relationship or what should be an adult relationship. It was manipulative, cruel and passive aggressive as well.

Dude... it may be time to grow up. Leave the nineteen year old alone so she doesn't come out of this really scared and hesitant to trust any man.

I didn't use it intentionally. Thats what happened. She's stripping at a club this weekend. Not cool so its over anyway.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 4:51:32 PM

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See how far that helpless dom act gets you...

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 5:06:46 PM

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Oh, for crying out loud. I think the OP has some growing up to do......not just Leah. Most of the shit that's been tossed around in this thread are "young people in relationships" stuff, with or withOUT bdsm involved. IMO, she's better off w/o Him anyway. Sounds manipulative & passive aggressive, like Lockit said.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 5:23:32 PM

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I didn't use it intentionally. Thats what happened. She's stripping at a club this weekend. Not cool so its over anyway.

Do you prefer brie or camembert to compliment your whine?

In case it has escaped your domly gaze, intentions are meaningless. You chose each and every action you took, each and every word you spoke. The consequence comes from the action, not the motivation.

You chose your actions, you own your consequences. If you can get your brain around that you might someday be able to command a woman.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 5:24:37 PM

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This thread is so vanilla its making me sick. Little kid, call the radio show "Loveline" next time and let Dr. Drew sort your shit out. This is a bunch of parenting going on here. S-t-u-p-i-d.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 5:27:58 PM

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This is a bunch of parenting going on here.

Yeah, that's exactly what it is.

What else could there be? A fair number of the respondents in this thread are over 40--and probably are parents.

(As Mark Twain once remarked, "when I was fourteen I was embarrassed by how little my dad knew about life, but when I was eighteen I was impressed by just how much he had learned.")

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/13/2010 5:33:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

Well I guess she still cared. Mind you I haven't heard from her in a week. I asked her when I could stop by and said it had to be before 9 cause I was going out with Brittany. Another girl in the picture and she freaks. I guess it was already over. Just wondering if I did the right thing. IDK I guess she still cared but not enough to show it.

Please leave your official Dom card and whip on the table as you exit the room.

Stop acting like a character and instead be a man of character. Trust me, that's what women want.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/14/2010 7:59:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

Well I guess she still cared. Mind you I haven't heard from her in a week. I asked her when I could stop by and said it had to be before 9 cause I was going out with Brittany. Another girl in the picture and she freaks. I guess it was already over. Just wondering if I did the right thing. IDK I guess she still cared but not enough to show it.

Just out of curiosity did you actually break up with her or is "I'm going out with Brittany" supposed to be code for "I have no clue how to end a relationship like a mature adult"?

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/14/2010 8:01:24 AM

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PS considering you two broke up you should probably take that naked pic of her off your profile.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/14/2010 9:10:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

Considering I loaned her my radar detector she can bring it by. I was doing her a favor.

quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

I asked her when I could stop by and said it had to be before 9 cause I was going out with Brittany.

Good luck finding another submissive who will stay with you OP. from everything you have posted here including the gems above I see nothing at all that indicates that you are a dominant at all.

some of the things you do show though are: emotional immaturity, incredibly poor communication skills, trying to dominate by force rather than having her submit because she wants to, lack of insight into what would be polite and respectful behaviour on your part eg. the comment you had in your profile about looking for someone to replace her..... I could go on but I think you get the picture.

I hope you take some time out to look inwards and work on your own issues before bringing another person into your life.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/14/2010 4:08:14 PM

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Actually, I think this whole "problem" the OP and Leah are having comes down to "communication issues" and "relationship issues," whether or not bdsm is involved.....just like the vast majority of problems brought up on the boards. Everyone has those problems, and sometimes very young people have more than their share because they're still trying to work those things out. Throw bdsm into the mix and it's just a little more complicated.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/15/2010 1:51:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE
I didn't use it intentionally. Thats what happened. She's stripping at a club this weekend. Not cool so its over anyway.

She's hot, she's 19, she's submissive and she's a stripper?

Oh My God.

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And all she wants to do is show up whenever she wants so you can dominate her?

And all you have to do is not be needy and responsive to her needs?

Well, I get your view that you need more commitment and compliance, but we already tried to help you with what you can do differently.

You let her go, don't worry, alot of guys would be satisfied if they got remotely as much out of a 19 year old.

Again: Oh My God.

Do you realize most strippers actually end up hating casual sex and men who want them to do dirty things, because that is all they have to do all day?

And she shows up from time to time so you can top her.

Oh My God.

Well, I guess this goes to show, not all 22-year-old-men are after easily accessible sex with a stripper. With Bdsm in it. Atleast, you're honest in what you want. There is someone for every personality type. I really wish you luck since you seem to be really emotionally involved.

But for the rest of us: Oh My God.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/24/2010 7:52:34 AM

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OK I know I came late to this thread, but life happens and I don't get to CM daily.........

quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

I have collared my slave leah for some time now. Recently she hasn't been giving me much time. Her parents were gone all weekend and she barely made time to serve me. Now they're back and she wants to spend time with them. She doesn't seem to understand her duties to serve and only seems to when she wants to. I'm getting sick of it and thinking of cutting her loose. I think I am much more in love than she is. I understand its an age thing too. What should I say to her? If I bother her too much she thinks I'm getting clingy. I just want to be served on a regular basis and she wanted total submission.

TY in advance

Answers from new eyes and reading......
Does she understand your expectations of what service you want and desire of her?
If she only serves when she wants to, maybe you are expecting too much of her and she cannot verbalize it.
There are different types of service: sexual service and domestic service and then just (what I call lazy ass service ~ the dominant sits around and wont do a thing for himself but wipe his own ass) silly service cause the man is lazy.
Have you given expectations of both? If you are a typical young man your small head wants a lot of "service" and maybe at her young age she is not interested in always being attached to your little brain.

Did you not consider her age, maturity level and ability level before you collared the filly? If not so, then where is your skills?

You could probably lead her to your OP and then sit and communicate with her.

There is a difference between bothering someone and badgering someone. If I were being badgered, I'd maybe ask, what the heck is your problem. Just like there is a difference in whining vs begging...doms/men have there own way of being clingy. Maybe you are, esp if you want her attached to a maid outfit or your little brain.

What is a regular basis, make the rules, set the expectations and then you are leading, not following and writing the OP.

On the other hand maybe she didn't realize what she signed up for, being immature, and is not cut out for the ride you want her to take..

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/24/2010 5:09:44 PM

masterlink65

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getting clingy?!!?? what the fuck. are you the owner of the collar? then you are the owner of the slave! slave is saying owner is too clingy? sounds like slave needs reality checked, or maybe dominance is not been established thoroughly

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/25/2010 12:49:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: masterlink65

getting clingy?!!?? what the fuck. are you the owner of the collar? then you are the owner of the slave! slave is saying owner is too clingy? sounds like slave needs reality checked, or maybe dominance is not been established thoroughly

Personally, I think she wasn't a "slave" or anywhere near it; they might have been using the wrong label for fantasy purposes. (But that's only my opinion.)

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/25/2010 6:57:19 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EasyE

I have collared my slave leah for some time now. Recently she hasn't been giving me much time. Her parents were gone all weekend and she barely made time to serve me. Now they're back and she wants to spend time with them. She doesn't seem to understand her duties to serve and only seems to when she wants to. I'm getting sick of it and thinking of cutting her loose. I think I am much more in love than she is. I understand its an age thing too. What should I say to her? If I bother her too much she thinks I'm getting clingy. I just want to be served on a regular basis and she wanted total submission.

TY in advance

You obviously put a collar on this chick WAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYY too early. Collar's aren't meant to be given out to the first bitch that drops to her knees and sucks your dick when you want it, they're like a kinky wedding ring, that has a lot more possibilities coming along with it :-)

So if this bitch is treating you like shit now, than cut it off with her and take your time to find someone who actually cares.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/25/2010 7:37:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: SomoneReal

You obviously put a collar on this chick WAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYY too early. Collar's aren't meant to be given out to the first bitch that drops to her knees and sucks your dick when you want it, they're like a kinky wedding ring, that has a lot more possibilities coming along with it :-)

So if this bitch is treating you like shit now, than cut it off with her and take your time to find someone who actually cares.

You made a very, good point about collaring someone, and it is likely a good explaination for part of the reason why the wheels came off the wagon.

We see that kind of thing here a lot: instant collar; just add sub(missive person).

However, I take exception to your characterizing the other party as a "bitch" even though you were responding to his post and thus to his perspective.

At the time of his posting this, he had already put an ad up in his profile looking for a replacement. From his actions, perhaps he was not worthy of her respect... ?

Two sides, even though we often only see one.

I did think it was a very good initial point and one too often missed here.
Thanks for sharing it.

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RE: Dealing with a flaky 19yo slave - 8/25/2010 7:54:36 AM

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Sounds like both of the folks involved need to do a bit of growing up.

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