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MistressLorelei -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 12:13:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slimsub25 I cant stop laughing at how far u people will go before u finally admit it to urselves. U DO IT BECAUSE U CAN GET SOMETHING FOR FREE!!! HAVEN'T U NOTICED THAT THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO PRETEND ANYTHING ELSE ARE ALL ON THE SAME GAME??????? NINA WILL NOW DEMAND A RAZOR. OR MEBBE A BLOWTORCH I don't require tribute, but people like you annoy Me. FREE, huh?? Perhaps your time is worthless.... but I consider My time valuable, as do many other Mistresses here. Many are sick and tired of spending countless hours in hopes of finding someone genuine... to end up with someone who is simply a 'weenie whacker' (I like that term too, lol). Fact is, Dominant Females are extremely outnumbered by the submissive males seeking them... and therefore we get a lot of time wasters who have become quite good at their game.. going from Domme to Domme and seeking their thrill. No one HAS to tribute... you don't like it, move on... it's that simple. They all end up coming to those of us who don't require tribute and hounding us for a freebie discreet session of their fantasy kink. Now who is looking for the freebie?

OnyxGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 12:26:07 PM)
"No one HAS to tribute... you don't like it, move on... it's that simple. They all end up coming to those of us who don't require tribute and hounding us for a freebie discreet session of their fantasy kink. Now who is looking for the freebie? " So true MistressLorelei....whether it's sex, worship, power trip, subspace, a new toy whatever whatever....all relationships exist because the parties both are mutually satisfied in some form or fashion. Nobody was with someone or something because it didn't do anything for them (if you get my meaning) In other words...Quid pro Quo- something for something. Why should anyone in cyberland be bothered if a Domme is GIVEN a toy, a service, or money in exchange for GIVING someone else what it is they desire? Why should a sub/slave get what they want while the Domme giving of her time gets nothing? I'm with others...I'm not going to give someone my time and they don't give me something. I have other things i could be doing that would give me satisfaction of some sort.

MsMacComb -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 1:05:23 PM)
Everyone "pays" for it one way or the other. You can be in a relationship and will pay for it with time, energy, emotions, guilt, demands, grief and far to often your soul. Some men choose not to go that route so they pay prostitutes for regular sex and dommes for kinky sex. Many women captialized on this business opportunity and now expect/demand a gift/compensation/tribute or whatever term someone prefers. For some its just easier to part with money rather than the hassles of a relationship.

friskiesub -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 1:08:54 PM)
Hello all. I am so glad I came across this post!!! Here's my dilemma. About two months ago I began seeing a ProDomme (Mistress). In addition to the tribute ($$$) I always present her with a gift (wine, flowers, candles, etc). While she has a partner, she has indicated she would like for me to be her submissive. Their schedule is rather busy with many sessions. While I'm in her company, I am treated very tenderly, and am gaining quite a bit from our sessions. I am quite pleased with the amount of patience she displays. In between the sessions I rarely have any contact with her. This does not appear to be normal. Not that this matters, but I just want to present you with a clear picture (we are GF). But on the day of the session, we spend a good amount of time together both prior to and after the session. I'm not very clear on my role in this situation. I have expressed my desire to have more communication, but have yet to see any change. As I mentioned earlier, I have always been aware of her relationship with her partner. What is the difference between me and the other appointments she has for sessions? Am I just being too needy, or are my feelings of being somewhat alone normal (whatever that is :) I apologize for taking so long, just wanted to attempt to be clear. While we are in one another's company, it could not be any better. I would certainly appreciate any suggestions or insight. Thank you, friskie

WeeIttyBitty -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 1:49:22 PM)
People are sometimes just busy, perhaps you're reading too much into the phone stuff. If she already has a partner + sessions + a life (perhaps a job) she maybe pretty bus

slimsub25 -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 3:36:20 PM)
quote: I don't require tribute, but people like you annoy Me. FREE, huh?? Perhaps your time is worthless.... but I consider My time valuable, as do many other Mistresses here. if u dont tribute WHY DO U CARE?? move on already read someone elses posts! quote: Many are sick and tired of spending countless hours in hopes of finding someone genuine... to end up with someone who is simply a 'weenie whacker' (I like that term too, lol). u WOULD find someone genuine if u were genuine urself. i never found a genuine boyfriend by asking him to 'tribute' me. if he wanted to do that, he would do it. u dont ASK or TELL someone to do it and then complain u cant find someone genuine! quote: Fact is, Dominant Females are extremely outnumbered by the submissive males seeking them... and therefore we get a lot of time wasters who have become quite good at their game.. going from Domme to Domme and seeking their thrill. exactly. so most of u think 'hey, this many guys all wanting a piece, i might as well see what i can get out of them'. im not sayin thats wrong im just saying stop pretending its some other reason when the whole world knows its not. quote: No one HAS to tribute... you don't like it, move on... it's that simple. They all end up coming to those of us who don't require tribute and hounding us for a freebie discreet session of their fantasy kink. Now who is looking for the freebie? no one HAS to read my thoughts on the subject either. u dont like it, dont read it. its that simple.

TedEbear -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 4:51:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji Ebony, Your profile says semi-pro. How did you not choose the business then? Were you forced into it? Yours, benji Love it Benji. I guess I needn't re-post what you said. [:D]

michaelGA2 -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 4:59:55 PM)
let's all charge and get it over with...

DiannaVesta -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:08:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: michaelGA2 let's all charge and get it over with... Lets have an auction. 1 dollar, two dollar... me love you longgggggg time! lol

EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:09:05 PM)
how about a lottery?

MichMasochist -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:15:25 PM)
[:D] Get my facts straight? Well my dear your bussiness add say you're pro, even even says pro lifestyle.

MichMasochist -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:19:16 PM)
After reading your add I would be greatly surprised if anyone is able to or willing to meet your stated expectations. Therefore they would appearantly need to tribute you to serve you. But alas it is your right to dream of the slave you wush would serve you.

MichMasochist -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:39:17 PM)
And the world is full of crazy people too. Damn those voices in my head. [;)] For being very busy you seem to have a more than a few minutes to spend posting and checking your e-mail. Here and on other sites. How would I woo a dominant woman? If she calls herself pro I tip big in addition to the tribute. If she doesn't call herself pro, I treat her like I would any woman who god has made as a gift to man. I know I've dated a dominant woman with no toys and little attitude. She lived the *life* in *style,* lifestyle.

MichMasochist -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:47:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet Ok, I just can't help myself. As I'm sitting here reading this thread, I'm being stood up by a submissive who was supposed to be here to perform some physical labor for me. Although I recently became a Pro Domme, I am occassionally approached by a submissve who claims he is dying to serve me, but cannot afford it. I am ALWAYS willing to offer the option of work for sessions. I have yard work that needs tending (I pay someone for this) and right now I am in the middle of stripping some wallpaper and painting. This means that literally ANYONE out there can afford me if they're just willing to put in a little time. Who stands me up every single time? Not the submissives who give tribute. It's the ones I offer to session with in exchange for physical labor - EVERY TIME. There goes your theory that only the ones with bottomless wallets get the Domme. Mistress Scarlet Frankly Ms Scarlet, I must say you are the first that I've ever read to make this style of offer. If we didn't live so far appart, and you weren't the same age as my mother I would hafta ask you to dinner just to get to know you and find out just what your arrangement is.

EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:48:50 PM)
guess you didn't read MY response to him. YES i'm semi pro and damn proud of the 4 males i've had tributed sessions with in germany. and i now OWN 3 of them. where on my profile did i hide it? just like the other full time and semi pro lifestylers i know. i don't mince words.. but with that being said i'm ONLY here to find lifestyle european SLAVES. even my profile says if you aren't willing to commit to my scrutiny then go pay a pro domme that will indulge them for a few kinky hours on their time. the males that do approach me on a tributed basis KNOW they can't submit to the level of micromanagement i demand.. with that being said.... i do not demand tribute from any male that approaches me, interacts with me.. or that serves me personally. read up dear.

EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:51:39 PM)
quote: After reading your add I would be greatly surprised if anyone is able to or willing to meet your stated expectations. Therefore they would appearantly need to tribute you to serve you. But alas it is your right to dream of the slave you wush would serve you. trust me.. i'm VERY well served.. not begging or desperate at all. ..lol look at my pics.. i have about 4 or 5 of my slaves in various pics.. one pic has 3 of them all at once.. one in a rubber body bag.. one in a rubber straight jacket.. and another in a red/white hood. OBVIOUSLY i have males very willing to submit to what i demand. perhaps you can't yes they are rare.. but my stable is nice and full.. i personally am not at a want for slaves- but opinions and views are like assholes.. we all have one.. and typically they stink. although mine smells like roses. quote: And the world is full of crazy people too. Damn those voices in my head. For being very busy you seem to have a more than a few minutes to spend posting and checking your e-mail. Here and on other sites. How would I woo a dominant woman? If she calls herself pro I tip big in addition to the tribute. If she doesn't call herself pro, I treat her like I would any woman who god has made as a gift to man. I know I've dated a dominant woman with no toys and little attitude. She lived the *life* in *style,* lifestyle. hmm.. voices in your head.. so that explains it.. sounds like a personal problem to me. also, if you were with someone without toys.. BRAVO.. shit, lol want a cookie?.. sorry, i have a very expensive fetish-rubber. and rubber is SUPER expensive we also love heavy rubber and gummi klinik. i don't see why i should pay for our toys, rubber and dungeon space to play in. YES i can domme in my kitchen, but at the end of the day. i want suspension, i want cages, i want vacbeds and heavy rubber, i want gyno chairs and electrosex toys.. that ALL costs money.. and LOTS of money. sorry, not gonna pay for something that i wont be in.. or that i won't stick up my own ass.. once again.. read what i've said instead of glossing over it.. i don't have to spring shit on people like VOILA.. nawww, they know what i expect and have NO problem doing it. i expect help with the things that get us off if you're happy with a domme in a mu mu and a hairbrush.- have AT it...but for me.. the cheapest rubber outfit i have on in any of my profile pics (the rubber cop pics).. cost about $600 worth of rubber.. any of the full rubber pics i have up is no less than about $1200 worth of rubber.. the nun was a $2000 outfit. and the slave that bought the pieces for it had NO problem getting it.. he knew he was getting a heavy rubber scene and ownership from a black rubber domme.. that's about as rare as black pearl (yes, pun intended). sorry you have lesser expecations than me. if you would read what has been written rather than making unvalidated assertions you'd see how i do NOT demand tribute from my slaves... but of course people would love to just post randomly.. hmm perchance the voices in your head are fogging your thoughts. as far as having ample time to post. i'm a mortage banker.. loan consultant to be specific.. so i work from home.. so yes, i have more than ample* time to post.. unless you're paying for my cable connection..lol don't worry about my posts. but keep it coming.. i love feeding the bears. sit ubu sit.. good dog.

MichMasochist -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 5:53:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darq I'm not a Domme ... However, I am opinionated. :) Frankly, if a submissive expects to get certain things done to them, I don't think its unreasonable to expect that submissive to provide their own toys. I wouldn't want a Dom to use vibs, floggers, etc on me that he'd used on other girls ... I'll bring my own, thank you very much. With that in mind, however, I'm not going to go out and buy one for him as a tribute ... He may never use it on me ... How does that benefit me? It doesnt ... It doesnt make sense, frankly. If I wanted to do something to show my Dom how I feel about them, that I think he's awesome and worthy of a tribute, I'm going to be a bit more creative than to buy him a toy or hand him some cash. I'll use my wee lil subbie brain and pay attention to the things he gets pleasure out of (besides me, of course) and put effort into actually SHOWING him how I feel. Thats what a tribute means to me ... The submissive putting forth the effort to show the dominant how wonderful they (the dominant) are ... Kewl, I like your thought darq. Peace.

sweetsub66 -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 6:04:16 PM)
I have to ask whether or not you are now a personal sub of this Mistress' or do you continue to session in exchange for tribute? If your role has switched to being a personal submissive then really daily contact should be made. She now carries the responsibility of you beyond the hour(s) she has sessioned with you. Your emotional well being is just as important as the physical if not more than. I have been a ProDomme for a bit over 4 years now and all my personal boys get daily attention from me. I expect them to be there for me when beckoned or agreed upon but I do not demand that they open thier wallets. These subs were not clients, they were boys I sought out for personal house use over the past few years. They get trained properly and I get my needs (non-sexual) met as well. Good luck. Remember you hold the power to leave the relationship if it is not what you seek or if you deem it unhealthy. D~

MichMasochist -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 6:13:45 PM)
Wow woman, I really love to read what you have to say and your thoughts on the subjects to which you post. Your right, the comunity is polluted and most likely fatally so in so many ways. Now I'm trying to be serious here. Unfortunately not all change is progress. If you have more information on this and other related subjects please email me. There has to be someplace where the waters aren't so muddy. Mich

EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 6:19:38 PM)
quote: Hello all. I am so glad I came across this post!!! Here's my dilemma. About two months ago I began seeing a ProDomme (Mistress). In addition to the tribute ($$$) I always present her with a gift (wine, flowers, candles, etc). While she has a partner, she has indicated she would like for me to be her submissive. Their schedule is rather busy with many sessions. While I'm in her company, I am treated very tenderly, and am gaining quite a bit from our sessions. I am quite pleased with the amount of patience she displays. In between the sessions I rarely have any contact with her. This does not appear to be normal. Not that this matters, but I just want to present you with a clear picture (we are GF). But on the day of the session, we spend a good amount of time together both prior to and after the session. I'm not very clear on my role in this situation. I have expressed my desire to have more communication, but have yet to see any change. As I mentioned earlier, I have always been aware of her relationship with her partner. What is the difference between me and the other appointments she has for sessions? Am I just being too needy, or are my feelings of being somewhat alone normal (whatever that is :) I apologize for taking so long, just wanted to attempt to be clear. While we are in one another's company, it could not be any better. I would certainly appreciate any suggestions or insight. Thank you, friskie hey friskie.. when she said she wanted you to be her slave.. did she make any other stipulations? i know with the 4 tributed sessions i've had.. we still had contact when i wasn't in germany. like Wee said, she may be busy.. also..how close do you live to her? has she officially taken you under her personal care? i guess i would need more background before i was able to adequately respond. for me, it would be not normal for me to not keep in constant contact with my slaves.. the 4 i've had pro sessions with or otherwise. even while he's in germany and i'm here.. i had several sessions with the males i saw before i decided to collar them. anyone that can handle my demands deserve to serve me personally. the only thing that sorta perturbed me is that she said she wants you to be a personal slave.. YET your only contact is right before/during a session. any of the 3 i collared from our tributed sessions still contact me between. only one still sees me between sessions and we always keep in contact until his situation can change and he can serve me lifestyle (ailing mother so he can't really leave germany. i only see him when i'm there.. i'll see him 1 jun.. can't wait!) i will say one of 2 things.. and please don't feel discouraged by the second thing. 1. if she expressed owning you but did not take personal ownership of you after expressing that.. hmm.. i'd be a little trepid were i a slave 2. do you feel she says this to all of her pro clients just to keep you guys? when you answer this.. i'll be able to give you more insight based upon your responses.. but preliminarily.. i do find something about her wishing to collar you.. yet you only see her on a pro basis.. and maybe i'm wrong, but has she continued the tributed sessions even AFTER her expressing desires to own you personally? if so take heed. i collared the 3 immediately and the tributing ceased. so give me more background.. i have experience taking tirbuted sessions personal.

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