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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 6:37:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist

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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet

Ok, I just can't help myself.  As I'm sitting here reading this thread, I'm being stood up by a submissive who was supposed to be here to perform some physical labor for me.  Although I recently became a Pro Domme, I am occassionally  approached by a submissve who claims he is dying to serve me, but cannot afford it.  I am ALWAYS willing to offer the option of work for sessions.  I have yard work that needs tending (I pay someone for this) and right now I am in the middle of stripping some wallpaper and painting.  This means that literally ANYONE out there can afford me if they're just willing to put in a little time.  Who stands me up every single time?  Not the submissives who give tribute.  It's the ones I offer to session with in exchange for physical labor - EVERY TIME.  There goes your theory that only the ones with bottomless wallets get the Domme.
Mistress Scarlet 


Frankly Ms Scarlet, I must say you are the first that I've ever read to make this style of offer.  If we didn't live so far appart, and you weren't the same age as my mother I would hafta ask you to dinner just to get to know you and find out just what your arrangement is.


Guess what, Mich?  I have the same ongoing offer!  I do like to get to know the boy, and also combine a good taste of submission, not just the play in exchange for some chores.  This would equate to a somewhat flexible live-out position. 
Guess what else, Mich?  No takers!
Next!



MistressLorelei -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 7:13:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slimsub25

"U DO IT BECAUSE U CAN GET SOMETHING FOR FREE!!! ...

HAVEN'T U NOTICED THAT THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO PRETEND ANYTHING ELSE ARE ALL ON THE SAME GAME??????? "

no one HAS to read my thoughts on the subject either.  u dont like it, dont read it.  its that simple.


With the size of that font, who could help but to read your critical post... that was My point.    And, like I said....  tribute or don't.   A submissive who puts forth the most effort (in whatever capacity) to show sincere interest is more likely  to win the prize. 



MichMasochist -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 7:56:52 PM)

WoW 

GoddessDustyGold, this is the story of my life.  Just guessing but Arizona is something like 2,000 Miles away.

Is there no hope?   :)




EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 8:13:17 PM)

say yes dear to her Chav rants.. sorry. i pay no attentions to chavs.. she's an obvious chaver female.

do like Jasmyn in her response.

yes dear



OnyxGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 8:18:32 PM)

cant we all just fuck or suck and get along?  (or whatever else the hell gets u hard and makes you cum!)



EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 9:02:38 PM)

for some odd reason.. i guess i feel the need to like show people a different way of life.. and viewing things. we've said what we want.. they choose to ignore it and NOT respond to our validated posts.

i tried to ignore the posts.. and just like.. hm.. i dunno.. i guess  like i want to show them that the views they have are one sided.. we all DONT make them tribute.. we just like help to our toys. and HOW is that wrong?

but yeah.. it's not ALL like they view it.. they skip over the pertinent shit.

but you're right.. fuck it.. i'll read.. and yea.. odds are i'll respnd but stilll .. they dont get it.. like Tiger said.. well i can't quote what she said.. but she still *felt me*.

what annoys me MOST.. is that many of the people that primarily disagree with us.. TYPICALLY agree with us. but SOME of them STILL said.. ok i respect women that don't demand tribute.. HOW IS THAT ANY DIFFERENT THAN MOST OF THE WOMEN HERE HAVE SAID?? are they all that dim? we like gifts.. but fuckin A .. we dont' DEMAND them!.. men give gifts because they want to contribute to our toys!!

fuck all.. they just didnt read our words.. OR they feel we're being like.  hiding of our words. like we spring shit on slaves..LOL. why do i have to?.. im the shit and then some.. i get MORE than enough males approaching me.. i dont have to hide what i want.. hell if i did.. my profile wouldn't say i'm seeking lifestyles ONLY! or that i am semi pro (meaning i HAVE  taken tributed slaves.. hey.. you want a steller rubber scene. you want med play. you want XYZ and CANNOT submit to what i require form a lifestyle slave? .. damn RIGHT you gonna pay?.. dont like it? fuck off mate)

no need to spring shit on males... sorry. they come to me willy nilly.

that's what annoys me.

fuck all.. we say.. some of us. yeah.. we take gifts.. but if someone WANTS to give gifts on their own.. welll yes i wont say no. dont mena i demand it.. but yet they read what they want to read.. see what they want to see.

these sub Chavs.. or these random dim ones.. or anyone else.. they just dont bloody get it.

so i say.. have at it.. i will enjoy reading their posts.... but still......my *do gooder* side can't respond to that anymore..  to *explain* myself.

those that get it.. DO.. those that dont.. well sorry for you..

i'm well served.. i'm  just chillin.

if they dont feel me.. well good luck and godspeed

end of the day. they want to relate to the random shit they CHOOSE to read.. they dont read everything so they can get a DIFFERENT view of shit. how many people read EVERYTHING from what they respond to? i can see that right now based on the people that have responded to what i say!

they ignore what we say that *may* show a different view. naah. they  read the topic and i think they respond.. not reading anything.. a forum is here to show different ideas.. why else are we here?

end of day..

fuck the gold wearing chaver one. fuck the dim ones.. and fuck the other chavers. and she knows who she is.. have ZERO respect for fake gold wearing chavs women..

hey.. if a woman can judge me based on being whatever i am.. i can call out the chavs.

i have my boys.. i'm a happy black bitch.. and have at it. my pics substantiate how well i'm served.. honestly.. i'm not gonna *prove* myself.. my reputation in the heavy SM./Rubber SM community speaks for me.

end of story

end of day.

chavs are worse than pro dommes.

http://www.chavscum.co.uk/

that would be the one skinny one..

that's nasty to me..  i hate chavs.. she's an OBVIOUS chav. (slim whatever sub xyz)

i have no respect for chavers.... so we're on the same page.. she has no respect for males that give me gifts that i dont ask for. and i think chavs are the scum of britain. i beat a chav's ass the last time i went to london.. wouldn't hesittate to do it again.

chavs can kiss my ass.

let a gold wearing chaver appraoch me.. .

bring it

she can tell me fuck all about being a domme.

britain hates chavs more than bdsm hate pro dommes..





unpantsed -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 9:39:21 PM)

I don't blame you for feeling uncomfortable about it, I would too. In fact, it would just be a red flag for me that would make me drop it like a hot potato.

There's nothing wrong with a fee for a session with a professional domme. I've had more than a few of those in my life and enjoyed them. But I haven't done that for a long time, and it's not what I'm seeking anymore.

In fact, I'm not sure why somebody would come to this site to seek out a pro domme, since there are a million sites on the web where you can find them and you can simply call them up and make an appointment. It's easy as pie.

A fee is a perfectly appropriate mechanism for buying something. But if you're looking to share something, a fee has no place, imho. Any more than you'd pay your friend a fee to join you for a movie or a ball game or anything else where you're with each other to enjoy each other. If a person requires a fee to see you, that means they don't enjoy you, or at least that there are a lot of other things they'd enjoy more. I'd personally feel a lot better letting them enjoy those other things and concentrate instead on those who enjoy me.



MistressLorelei -> RE: Tributes... (4/27/2006 11:03:57 PM)

Ebony.... Hey... wait a minute, what happened to 'yes dear'?  

Finding this lifestyle just under a year ago, I find it kind of sad to learn that many in a community of people who are already considered to be deviants of mainstream society (meaning all of us) are putting labels on what the right and wrong kind of bdsm is. 

The deadhorse is completely pulverized by now...  and stilll ignorance lives...    



EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 6:59:18 AM)

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Ebony.... Hey... wait a minute, what happened to 'yes dear'?


yes dear.

hehe..

but seriously.. i get annoyed when people call me out as being a *pro*.. when my profile says precisely what i seek. i KNOW i demand a lot.. i get a lot of men wishing they could live up to it.. MOST can't

but it doesn't mean i'm at a want for slaves. that annoys me. i hate people trying to stuff me into a little box.

i don't fit into boxes.. my ass is too big

but you're right..

you're going to be proud of me. all responses other than legitimate questions (like friskie's question).. will be a *yes dear*.





openmindedslave -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 7:19:30 AM)

The time may have come to retire this question....Giving tribute, so what? Not got a problem with it fine...don't pay or take it.
If you do , great. Like so many have said before ...the money goes to making the dom  more confortable or for more toys and equipement or even training  for other fetishes..

The fact the matter is many prodoms here that have been doing this for so long , are going to have more to offer  becaue they have invested in the lifestyle. They know, usually...., more about the human body and the the way the mind works than most newer doms do...That does not mean they will give you what you want.It just means they probably have more experiences and can make more of your fantasys into reality. In fact , with out meaning to insult any other professioanl or lifestyle Mistresses here, but there are celebs even in the prodom community.Those who have their own web sites, who travel the world to share their talents with others . Would we not expect that if a Mistress , who has been  in professioanlly produced videos or who has an actual dugeon to play in, should expect  something in return for  a sub to experience their charms?
I do understand that most prodoms do not reach this level of fame, but unless you seek a dom who buys all her toys from home depot and Spencer gifts, you really should expect some  assistance in paying for lates straight jackets and all those special outfits that they wear? If not then don't support them . Seek those doms who are not in need of props and equpment to fullfill your needs . There are many out here that do not offer all the extras, but they do offer the most importain feature..the ability  to be true to you and your needs..And really isin't that what we all keep saying ??



EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 7:43:06 AM)

i entirely agree.

and you're right.. i know whenever i give a tributed session it's been with men i would accept personally anyway. the only difference with my tributed sessions is that they are allowed safe words that i adhere to.

my personal slaves don't get safewords. that's really about it. even the full time pro dommes i know that use it as a fulltime job still dont *cater* to subs- they accept males that have compatible fetishes to their own.

www.mistressgemini.com

is one that comes to mind.. she's a good friend of mine and she is a STELLAR mistress. she is a full time pro domme and she also owns lifestyle slaves that don't tribute her.

i understand that some people expect less as a dominant, i know some slaves  don't need all the gear and rubber to have a good time. personally heavy gear and rubber is a fetish of mine. rubber is also a fetish that is even less popular among women. like Wee said, it's supply and demand. if a man happens across a rubber domme, he'll jump through hoops of fire to keep her. he's all too happy to gift me with rubber because they know a rubber fetish woman is extremely  rare indeed. they enjoy buying things to be used on them and my other slaves. they like buying outfits that i use in my photo shoots or accompanying me to fetish events where i give demos. no one is forcing them.

you touch upon good points.






openmindedslave -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 8:01:00 AM)

Mistress Gemni would be one of those high end prodoms ( like yourself EbonyftshGoddess) that have been in the lifestyle for more years than most. These are examples of doms who have taken on this lifestyle and made it part of their lives ...They are not going through a phase in life and later on will have memorys of what they did...They are the ones that people fly out to serve. They may even let you share some time with you at OwK in europe.

Yet there are really so many unspoken Doms out here ..that live this life on a smaller scale. And they are  with in reach of so many if only they can be deemed  worth the time. The great aspect of a place like collarme is that if you just watch and learn , your horizons will most definetly be expanded



EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 9:29:49 AM)

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Mistress Gemni would be one of those high end prodoms ( like yourself EbonyftshGoddess) that have been in the lifestyle for more years than most. These are examples of doms who have taken on this lifestyle and made it part of their lives ...They are not going through a phase in life and later on will have memorys of what they did...They are the ones that people fly out to serve. They may even let you share some time with you at OwK in europe.

Yet there are really so many unspoken Doms out here ..that live this life on a smaller scale. And they are with in reach of so many if only they can be deemed worth the time. The great aspect of a place like collarme is that if you just watch and learn , your horizons will most definetly be expanded


actually gem was the one that started me into offering tributed sessions. before that.. like i never really thought about it. then she was like.. why do you have these guys flying to you from europe and you don't pro domme? i  thought like a lot of people here, that it would "cheapen" our experiences. honestly, i haven't found that to be true in the least.

i've attended some of her workshops on shibari. she is the rope QUEEN and she has taught me florentine flogging with two floggers at once, she has taught me suspension, and she taught me a woman can make money doing what she loves and still remain true to herself and other dommes- whether she's a lifestyle domme that gives occasional pro sessions (like myself).. or if she's a full time pro domme with personal slaves like gemini.

i really value our friendship.

as far as the OWK.. this year i'm petitioning to be a Sublime Lady of the OWK.

we'll see how it goes. i'll be the 2nd only Lady of Colour in the OWK sublime lady class.




goddessdevi -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 10:23:42 AM)

I prefer the term "financial appreciation".  Yes slim? What? Huh? oh..... that's right, I don't care.
I live in a college town, if a sub wants free sex he can get it pretty much anywhere. I can get a burger cheap but if I want a perfect steak I gotta put out a little extra.They both come from a cow but it's in the quality. I like to think of myself as the perfect steak. Moooooooo



EbonyFtshGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 10:57:13 AM)

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I like to think of myself as the perfect steak. Moooooooo


hehe.. cows rock!

they're cute and taste good.. what could be better?

and i view it the same way you do. i know my worth, as such i'm not willing to compromise on men that aren't compatible to me or my fetishes.

the old adage "you get what you pay for" comes to mind.

if someone is content with a hairbrush anda mumu wearing domme- let them have at it.

some dommes are jaguars... some are bugs

i'm a Jag



darq -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 5:54:16 PM)

I'd rather drive a bug, knowing that I'm confident enough in myself that I don't need a penis envy car like a jag to prove something to the rest of the world. But thats just me ... Also, I'd never compare myself to a car ... I'm so much more than the phsyical.



OnyxGoddess -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 5:57:30 PM)

mmmmm....steak.-lol.  sorry had to inject at least ONE smart ass comment in here for the day >:)



ladylexington -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 6:01:29 PM)

Yes! Yes! Yes! I've never understood why some people in the lifestyle have to marginalize others, when can all be marginalized together!



slimsub25 -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 7:16:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: goddessdevi

I prefer the term "financial appreciation". 
if a sub wants free sex he can get it pretty much anywhere. I can get a burger cheap but if I want a perfect steak I gotta put out a little extra.



'financial appreciation'
'tribute'

what i cant understand is why u r so afraid to use the word 'prostitute'.  im not sayin that as a bad thing, just curious as to why all of u without exception will use any words u can think up, but not that one.

if i had sex for money id say i was a prostitute and shout it from the mountains.

dont u just know they will write back with some catty remarks or other words to describe what they do rather than just say 'i have sex for money so yes.  i am a prostitute' 



BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Tributes... (4/28/2006 7:28:57 PM)

You know in some cultures women who sleep with men to whom they aren't married are called cheap whores (which I hope you aren't), and that is considered much much worse than getting $300/hour to let him jerk off on your shoes, morally speaking.[;)]

Welcome to the boards, especially the "ask a mistress" forums Slimsub25.   M



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