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Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 4:57:02 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Today i was thinking what would be a deal breaker for different peiople , so i thought i wouls throw this out there. If you found out yur Master was married and his wife did not know what would be the bigger deal breaker the cheating or the lie? Just an example i would like to know what your deal breakers are. I Know some will be the same some very different.

My deal breakers are lies. If he lies to me then hoe can i ever trust him agan. Not that i have to worry about that my Master would never lie to me. Some people might see smoking as a hard limit my Master smokes but it is just a part of him and i love him so i accept it. I wish he would quit for his health but that has to be his decision to do so.

Don't mind me i go off on tangents. What is your deal breakers?

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:12:46 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		I'd have to say lying about being married, it's one thing if I willingly, and I never would, but lets say I would, got into a relationship with a married man, knowing he was married, but to deceive me about his marriage status? Oh hell no, he'd be out the door so fast he wouldn't know what happened.



He's hurt two very innocent people with his lies  and if he can lie and cheat to the one he made vows to  in front of friends family an the church, then how honest is he capable of being to me, and how likely is he to get another woman on the side when I stop being satisfying to him.

I have other deal breakers, but the deal breaker typer threads have already been done an I don't really feel like plopping my deal breakers on the table at this time lol.
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ORIGINAL: littleone35

Today i was thinking what would be a deal breaker for different peiople , so i thought i wouls throw this out there. If you found out yur Master was married and his wife did not know what would be the bigger deal breaker the cheating or the lie?
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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:20:07 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		That's a tough one.  I have experienced lying that was pretty subjective, and was misrepresentation as opposed to outright lying.

Not showing me proper respect would be one.  I once had a young lady disagree with me disciplining her, in a chat with another Dom.  Out she went.

Considering her needs to trump mine would be another dealbreaker.


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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:23:57 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Deal breakers...

-lying
-inability to communicate
-refusal to communicate
- did I say lying?
-not being single
- being a moron
-being an asshole
-not following up or through
-anger issues
-no relationship with family or friends
-poly
-wanting to share me
-no sense of humor
-mean and not in a good way

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:35:28 PM   
jujubeeMB


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1
Deal breakers...

-lying
-inability to communicate
-refusal to communicate
- did I say lying?
-not being completely single
- being a moron
-being an asshole
-not following up or through
-anger issues
-no relationship with family or friends
-poly
-wanting to share me
-no sense of humor
-mean and not in a good way


All of the above, but especially the bold.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:38:41 PM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		I have to be true to myself.  When something sits really awfully inside, I know that continuing would be compromising myself again, and I won't do that. 

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:47:36 PM   
mstrjx


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Deal breakers...
- being a moron

Shit I thought I was fine up until THAT point....

Jeff

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:49:09 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Nah, clearly you don't qualify as a moron.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 5:53:23 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		Yeah, it's the family and friends thing that bites me.

On topic <ahem>

Smoking is a deal breaker.
Not having girly parts would be a deal breaker.
One other thing I don't talk about in polite company.

I'm fairly good with most anything else. See, I'm not picky on paper .....

Jeff

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 6:10:56 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		I don't have a lot of deal breakers but my short list consists of:

Lying
Monogamy
Religious zealotry (including atheism)
Abusiveness (emotional or physical)
Addiction (I can handle cigarettes but that's all.)
Conservative political views

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 7:11:02 PM   
littlewonder


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lying
cheating
addictions
inability to communicate
inability to show and feel affection
laziness to the point they can't handle their own lives
tempers
atheism
stupidity

just to name a few off the top of my head

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 7:26:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		2 years after joining a poly as a slave, saying that they want to go vanilla and get married to you.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 7:48:21 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		Addiction to drugs or alcohol
Illegal activities
Uncontrolled, undisciplined anger
Inability to connect
Swinging
Unnecessarily mean or cruel
humorless

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 7:57:28 PM   
ShoreBound149


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Status: offline 		A penis
Soup slurper
Hairy pits
Allergic to beer
Non swallower
Mets fan
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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 7:59:01 PM   
Shadow-tiger


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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance

Uncontrolled, undisciplined anger

Just wanted to highlight this one. As someone who's dealt with strong emotions all his life, including anger, I think this is the key. And it brings me to a deal breaker I have, besides some of the biggies others have mentioned.

Severe lack of self discipline
No sense of responsibility


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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 8:29:10 PM   
mstrjx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance
humorless

Less humor, more snark.

Oh, wait a minute, that falls under unnecessarily mean.

C'est la vie!

Jeff

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 10:24:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		My deal breaker is not respecting my lines, I have very few limits of what I do not want to try period and when those are crossed then I know my domme does not have my best interests in mind. Frankly because those lines involve very dangerous activity that border on insane for me, but people have tried and at that point I simply backed away from everything.

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/27/2010 10:40:48 PM   
MistressTonya2u


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Status: offline 		Dishonesty
Cheating
Illegal activity
Drugs
Toliet Slavery including diapers ~you have every right to your kink, but scat in any form is a dealbreaker for Me~
Inability to control your temper

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/28/2010 12:14:58 AM   
phoenixmoonn13


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emotionally and physically abusive

and loosing trust. if i cant trust then its a no no

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RE: Deal Breakers - 8/28/2010 1:42:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

2 years after joining a poly as a slave, saying that they want to go vanilla and get married to you.


OMG! You poor, poor Dear! That is awful. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

*scurries away to send condolence wreath*

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