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jujubeeMB -> RE: Monogamy Agonistes (8/29/2010 6:33:54 AM)
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OP -
Fact: Multiple men and women (Dom/mes and subs/slaves) disagree with your stance on monogamy, in this thread alone. Does that tell you anything about making a generalization and applying it to all submissive women?
Fact: The people who can see your point as a concept (the whole idea of a slave submitting to whatever her D-type wants) all agree that the slave needs to be comfortable with said concept, and not just doing it because he or she "should."
Fact: You can only speak for yourself, just as the rest of us can only speak for ourselves.
Fact: None of us are having as difficult a time as you finding someone (or multiple someones) compatible with what we want, so you can stop worrying about how our monogamous ways are "making it more difficult for us." We are all happily living our submissive/dominant lives without any need for assistance from you.
Fact: You keep mentioning that a tied up and gagged slave has no ability to enforce limits due to the fact that an untrustworthy Master could do whatever he wanted to her, up to and including killing her. I have a question for you. Do you sleep at some point? Do you have knives in your house? Because you know, a slave could go get a knife and stab you while you're sleeping, and you wouldn't be able to do anything about it.
Sound kind of dramatic? It is. So is the concept that Doms are going around violently breaking subs' limits just because said sub is tied up and gagged. If someone ties me up, gags me and proceeds to do things that he knows are hard limits of mine, you'd better believe that when I get free I am either walking out the door, calling the police or both. We subs/slaves are not helpless creatures, OP, and just because we trust someone and put our safety in their hands doesn't mean we can't take action to protect ourselves. It's almost like you're trying to argue that men will do whatever they want to do, and we should re-structure our reactions to that so that we can handle it better and be happier about it. How incredibly co-dependent of you.
Fact: As twoshoes pointed out, people would be kinder to you if you wanted to discuss the idea instead of condescendingly attempting to insist that your way is the "one twue way." You may not care about people being kinder to you, but you really ought to, because potential subs and slaves looking at your profile will check out your forum posts, and an inability to see other points of view or accept that you may not know everything does not make for a very trustworthy Dom. I completely get that you feel strongly about being a good, moral, trustworthy Dom, so you might consider a sliver of humility - there is no growth without it.
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