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sexyred1 -> RE: Big Beautiful Women. As well as Large Handsome Men. (9/6/2010 9:06:32 AM)
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
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ORIGINAL: Focus50
And don't get me started on how often I see young ones getting about with rolls of skin bulging out between impossibly tight short skirts and half tops now.
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ORIGINAL: sexyred
And it never occurs to you that these young ones possess body confidence and self worth?
If that is the case...how long will the confidence and self worth last?
Does an overweight young girl want to wear the same clothing that her thin friends wear? Of course she does. But...does she want to hear the snickers, name calling, and see the pointed fingers when her "muffin top" midriff is exposed or her choice of clothing puts emphasis on the fact that she is obese? Maybe she does...but I doubt it, since extra weight is not insulation from emotional pain, and the laughter and negative comments hurt. There may be other styles of clothing that she would be more comfortable wearing, but one way or another the child wants to fit in, and that desire may cost her self esteem.
Imho it all starts with the young ones. Self acceptance breeds confidence, and a confident child will mature to a confident adult, and that adult will not need a term such as BBW to assist her with self worth.
I am not getting your point. You seem to disagree with my statement and then you end up agreeing that self acceptance and confidence are what matters since you cannot change the world's view, only your own reaction to it.
I disagree with your comment that BBW is a term that is needed to assist women with their self worth.
Of course young women want to wear the same stylish clothes their friends wear, how is that even a question? Newsflash: they can. They wear what looks good on them. It is up to a young woman's parent's to guide her into what looks good.
My point however, is that I know many younger women who are beautiful and not thin and they all look fantastic, no one looks disgusting. And I have news for you: young people are cruel to everyone. My gorgeous THIN nieces get called fat at school out of jealousy.
As I have said ad nauseum, BBW was a term coined in the 70's in the fashion industry when we were modeling plus sized clothes. It was taken on as a descriptor only when online dating started as a way to describe oneself to prospective daters.
I am disgusted by those who act like the label police. I love it; saying a woman who calls herself a BBW is doing it to assist her with her self esteem is the same as saying someone who calls themselves a sub, or a slave, or a switch or skinny or small boned, or cute, or any number of descriptors is doing so just to boost their self esteem.
It is thinly disguised bashing.
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