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ORIGINAL: leadership527

I guess I don't interpret it the same way Vran. In fact, I just posted a dom's perspective on experience on a thread asking for sub's perspectives. I didn't feel like I was being rude though. I felt like I was expanding on the question and answer set. I myself generally find multiple viewpoints to things I post terribly interesting and I assume there's at least a chance other people will also. In addition, it is trivial to scan the threads and filter out just the responses you want.

I try not to derail threads... any threads... but I don't personally interpret posting an alternate viewpoint from the sample requested as being rude or disruptive.

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Perhaps thats just me? And yes this is just my opinion. It is not a fact or written in stone lol. Just something I decided to comment on. Oh and everyone is asked to reply. Please feel free.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

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Perhaps thats just me? And yes this is just my opinion. It is not a fact or written in stone lol. Just something I decided to comment on. Oh and everyone is asked to reply. Please feel free.

Could this post have come about because of the recent post in Ask A Master who state she wanted only Masters to answer and she would ignore anything from a submissive?  Did you notice her changing her tune when submissives did write to her and pointed out how ugly her attitude was?  Did you see her apologize for her attitude and begin to interact with the other submissives?   She learned something by not getting what she asked for that she could not have learned by getting her way.  Actually her post could have been answered much better in the Ask A Submissive forum.  If you want to find out how a group of people think, go to the source rather than ask an acquaintance of the source. 

How about the submissive who asked in the Ask A Master forum about how a woman should induce lactation?  As far as I know, not many men have lactated nor have the knowledge to answer that question.  Should the females on the forum have just ignored the question because it was asked of a Master? 

I do not see answering a question as being rude.  It is just answering a question.  Online forums give a person a chance to ask questions and get a variety of answers from a variety of people whose ideas might be very different from the poster.  That is the greatest asset of the forums.  The information, the ideas, the knowledge one can gain in these places is fantastic. 

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: igor2003

I really find it qute amusing...A VERY high percentage of the people that use the forums agree that to practice their particular kink in public is wrong since it forces the public to be unwilling participants.  But it's amazing how many of them don't have any problem what-so-ever with injecting their unsolicited opinion into a thread that specifically requests only the opinion of a certain group. 

I really find it quite amusing that a VERY high percentage of the people that use the forums seem to think that imposing their moral standards on the participants is ok. You and the OP are confusing morality with the reality of where your words are being posted. Again, this is not your site or the OP's.

I also think that when someone comes in and specifically requests the opinion of a certain group, they automatically will get replies from everyone just to annoy them. Again, another facet of the unique nature of a public message board.

I'm not confusing anything...I simply made an observation that you want to argue with.  Can you deny that anything I said is true?  And what you say about people doing things just to annoy them is very true...which is part of what the OP mentioned about people being rude.  Damn...you fit he bill well.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I think it is rude and impolite how you keep injecting lol after every other word; your attempt to be dismissive is incredibly rude. How very domly of you.

I will not debate further with you since are incredibly impolite to answer the replies to your post with such a lack of politeness.

I find it amusing when someone stresses behaving one way and then acts the same as what they are complaining about. I also find it amusing when someone is unable to listen to the reality of honest replies and then takes a holier than thou approach when they DISLIKE the answers they receive.

You are total hypocrite. Deal with it.

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ORIGINAL: WhipsAndGiggles

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

People behave poorly on the internet. ANY internet researcher knows this. Primarily, it is the anonymity and lack of personal consequence. I think I stopped expecting people to behave well in such an environment 2 days after electronic bulletin boards were invented. So I don't think the internet has destroyed it. I think our culture has moved away from politeness as an important concept to a small degree and then here on the internet that gets a lot, lot worse.

And no, it does not lessen me. Only I can lessen me. What other people do can reflect on them.

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ORIGINAL: MastrVran

You cannot get around the idea that by posting against someones wishes becomes polite because your answer was better than the others.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: MastrVran

You cannot get around the idea that by posting against someones wishes becomes polite because your answer was better than the others.

I disagree. As has been said already, the OP is not the owner of the thread. By refraining from posting you are placing their desire for you not to post above the desire of other people who are reading the thread to hear all possible opinions. Why is placing the OP's desire first automatically the 'polite' thing to do? The OP is just another poster, and they may well be outnumbered by people who want the content of your post.

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ORIGINAL: MastrVran

Or is there some secret thread limit I am not aware of and we must keep threads down to some number. (joke)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

There have been many times when someone has demanded that only one group of people respond to a thread. I respected the request. Then there were many times when they came in roaring like some superior being in their own mind, slashing at another group and pushing their cyber weight around. Then I have rolled my eyes and watched, or I have jumped in with something I wished to impart or say because I had a response, right or wrong I don't care, but a response that I desired to give for a reason I felt worthy.

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I feel that if you come to a place where people gather, in person or not and start a ruckus, with most often an agenda of starting a ruckus, people can walk away or join in. How they join in could be seen as right or wrong, reactionary or inflammatory, which could be seen as immature or something awful. Which right overrides the other, what is right and fair? Do we have to be right or fair in all situations? Do all situations matter?

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In person I saw a man who was fighting with another man. Now from where I come from, you typically let the two men duke it out. Yet, when one man has chosen to walk away and the other comes behind him with a tree branch... I guess it is time for me to jump in there and I did. It wasn't my business, but at a certain point I feel it becomes my business.

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There have been times when physical violence wasn't a factor and yet I felt emotional violence was a factor. The unfair bashing of people that might have a reaction to the things said as they were very out of line. In person or on a message board, whether they wanted input or not, I felt protective and being a part of the group allowed (funny word there) to speak, I spoke! I decide what is right and fair in my life and generally live my life so that I am seen as fair and wanting to do the right thing. Yet, there is a time when I feel no one can dictate what is allowed in their free expression by disallowing any reaction to it. Fuck them.

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Because someone has the right to walk into a group of people and dictate what is expected, doesn't negate the rights of others to respond to it. It isn't respectful to start with, to limit what people are allowed to say in self expression.

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Two of my favorite stories in life came about in defending someone a group felt wrong and because they had the right didn't mean I felt they had a right and I took my rights to defend someone who was the underdog and whom the majority felt they could harass day after day. When it happened in front of me, I went off. Because these fuckers were called on what they were doing and because I was so good at physically backing up what I thought right and willing to stand up to a crowd, those two young men became friends and were never harassed again. One was a boy who had polio as an infant and had disabilities and the other was a straight guy and damn fine looking, who they said was gay.

Right or wrong by the standards of whom? I will do what I do and either sleep at night or not and answer for myself. Someone imposing something, including me, will have to face their sleep pattern on their own, but to become anal about right and wrong about such little things as ego and right's of someone's self imposed right to impose something... naw, I am not losing any sleep over it.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Again, why are you placing politeness to the OP above politeness to the Mods and to other users?

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Or is there some secret thread limit I am not aware of and we must keep threads down to some number. (joke)