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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

I get the fantasy of rape I dont understand how or why people get turned on about it.

But what she describes she wants isnt play, It isnt fantasy in fact doing it safely doesnt DO it for her, she wants some strange man to come up and rape her and expect that because the man is raping her its because she was just so awesome she just had to be raped.

Its not how rapists operate. Its not how they work and setting the op straight might just keep her from experiencing this for real.

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ORIGINAL: SorceressJ

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

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ORIGINAL: SorceressJ
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Yes, there is a name for it. Rape. Violence Against Women. You need to be careful, because if you think about it so much that it inspired you to make this thread, you may subconsciously be acting in ways that could, in theory, cause something to happen to you. Google "law of attraction" and you'll see what I mean.

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So are you saying that sometimes, women do ask for it?

No, actually, I'm not saying that at all. If I wanted to say that (and get lynched before I had the chance to shoot myself in the head), then that's what I'd have said, point blank.
I also have no intention of getting caught up in yet another pointless CM shooting match. Please do not assume that which is neither true nor real where I am concerned.

I'm saying that our thoughts, attitudes, and actions help create our realities. That is all, no more, no less.

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

And poise, I'm reading that thread. I've talked to my bf about it. We even tried acting it out. I just didn't get the same feeling. Sure, I got a little excited but nothing more. But I think the 'nothing more' part stems to something deeper. He's never really gotten me to do 'more'.

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

Perhaps 1 of your versions of narcissism applies to me. And I really would like to elicit the feelings of vulnerability, desirability, and fiery lust in a safe environment. I just don't know how. If it's within a safe environment, it's no longer real and I don't feel vulnerable. As far as desirability goes, I like the idea of a guy who's got many women to choose from but still goes for me. It's something about me that does it for him. In a relationship, that's not what happens. He doesn't have his pick. It's just me. And the lust stems from taking a risk doing sexual things to me, his girl of choice. If a boyfriend does it, there's no risk. We are together. If Dom does it, there's definitely no risk. He does what he wants to me. If a stranger did it, biiig risk. But it's worth it to him. I'm worth it to him. I don't now how to maintain these same feelings that require instability in a stable environment (i.e, in a relationship with something you love that loves you back, in a car you know, in a home you live, etc...).

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ORIGINAL: rednicky
I don't mean those fake, arranged encounters where you ask someone ahead of time to do these things to you. I mean for it to really happen. But maybe this happens rarely and the stories about it happening are really not something that happen everyday. Anyways, is there a name for this? Is it a common fantasy? Whether you're into it or not, has anything ever happened to you where some guy has done something completely inappropriate and unexpected after seeing you or working along side you?

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

I surely said the idea of that is hot in a prior post. Someone then brought up the possibility of acting it out. I said the idea of acting it out doesn't do it for me.

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

I might be missing something, but I took her at her word it was a hot fantasy for her.  Fantasy being the key word.

The written word is tricky sometimes. 

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

and Juilia if you read her posts or went back in her history you would know she has a history of starting threads she knows isnt going to be received well so she gets negative attention..

She isnt talking about this as a fantasy nothing of it comes across as i just get hot about this... this is her saying the fantasy of it really happening is something that really gets me hot... and i might want to try in real life ... hence all the repeated saying HEY the fake arrangement part doesnt do it for me.