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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:32:17 PM   
MistWalker


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very troubeling  indeed... well despite being said over and over here.. she need turn and run from this one.. two bloody days. thats not enough time to make an informed descion to  to give out a phone number in my oppinion much less to pack up and move across country... though i cant understand the editing of the profiel either, why did she give him acess to her personle details information so easily. im sorry but two days... Mistress did not have any of my log in infos to anyting till some time after i was under her collar, if she wishes somehtign changed she told me to.. but acess to my information that a password gives.. hell no. 

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:33:14 PM   
Proprietrix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrMister
What I fear more than all else is the fact that the person in question fails to see this very clear thing for herself!


I tend to agree here.
Please don't get me wrong when I say...
I really don't see the need for us all to babysit the fools.

There is an insurmountable difference between a newbie trying to get a grasp on the terminology and concepts of the lifestyle, learning about their inner desires, learning how those things play out with another, dynamics, and health/safety/techniques of the trade
and
a newbie who is so blind to reality that they gleefully and with no regard to danger, waltz into situations that can jeopardize themselves and others.
The first I am willing to assist. The second I have a hard time finding any amount of sympathy for.

Would this woman have walked up to a stranger at the stadium and moved in after the first hello?

Although the "Dom" in question here may be a predator, I really have a difficult time seeing the woman as a victim. Why is she so blase about handing over her life to a complete stranger? Why is she willing to leave her job to shack up with someone she's never met? I have a hard time buying that anyone in this day and age could really be so sheltered from the world that they put total trust in everyone they meet. Especially if they have the internet. No one can be so blind as to know that we don't take candy from strangers. It's a very basic concept that most learned at a very young age.

If she is really that unconcerned about her own wellbeing, why should I care anymore than she does?

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:33:23 PM   
unquenchable


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77

Ok First off I'm posing this query for a slave new to Collarme... I've voiced My opinion on the Matter already but I want her to read it from Y/you. A/all..
She put up a profile here last wednesday & has been conversing w/a "Dom" here 2 days since Friday
He's already taken it upon iimself to rewrite her Profile without her permission, he also wants her to give her Notice to her Present job tomorrow (Monday) & move to him in 2 weeks...
My opinion is this is Much too fast & there's something hinkey going on here...
This is all the data I have at Present PLEASE  Voice your opinions ASAP



First things first...

To the slave.... RUN don't walk to the nearest REALITY check point, once there CHANGE your profile and FAST.

(said in the nicest voice possible hoping not to scare her away.........................)

Are you NUTS?   We all need to keep safe and sane..consentual can come later!!

(I am calming down now...)

Red Flags here!  GREAT BIG Red flags.

(Calm again, I think)

I don't know you and may be speaking a bit loudly, but  I think someone better, so guess for now that will be me.

Please remind yourself over and over that.......

Anything WORTH finding NEVER happens so quickly. 

Any Dom worth serving knows things take time.

This is the internet and there are lots and lots of players and wannabes out there. 

I will not even tell you to slow this down and see what happens with this Guy in the future.  If he is in such a hurry to control you......he is simply NOT who he says he is.

Ok, my rant is done.

Keep safe
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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:34:58 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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This girl needs to be smacked upside the head.... The hell with being nice!



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ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash
Probably right LM, I was just trying to be nice and was really thinking under my breath she should just block the nut..lol.


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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:37:25 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Because, whips and spurs aside, we're basically nice people :)  Come on, admit it!  You want to slap her upside the head as much as the rest of us do, and that means you care. You know you do :)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix
If she is really that unconcerned about her own wellbeing, why should I care anymore than she does?


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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:51:49 PM   
SweetSarijane


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Based on the info given...................THAT'S INSANE!

2 days???? Oh hell no!

I've been emailing back and forth with a dominant since January. We've formed an online friendship so far and are still working towards meeting in person. We haven't gone past long, serious discussions as yet. We're getting to know each other, taking our time to see if we're compatible. There is no D/s dynamic set between us yet and won't be until we spend time together and see how we relate as just 2 people. If we both feel it's right, then and ONLY then will we begin negotiating, discussing parameters, deciding where to go from there.

THINK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is your life. Do you know him well enough to trust him with it?

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:56:24 PM   
Proprietrix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn
Because, whips and spurs aside, we're basically nice people :)  Come on, admit it!  You want to slap her upside the head as much as the rest of us do, and that means you care. You know you do :)


lol.
Your posts always make me smile.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 12:57:45 PM   
Lashra


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She'd be a fool to move that fast. Relationships take time and it sounds like he's a control freak. Red flags everywhere, lets hope she isnt wearing rose colored glasses.

~Lashra

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:10:49 PM   
Wulfchyld


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I posted this in another thread. This looks like a good place to put it... again.

quote:

*True Fear*

*Without trepidation she submitted to his commands. Understanding she is a submissive she gave herself to his will. The private scene, with not another soul aware of, escalated. Yellow she cried and his cruel laughter filled the air as she struggled against her bonds. Red she cried as his sadistic strokes turned to brutality with the paddles edge. She cried for help but none could hear.
“You will go to jail!” She told him.
“None shall know. Like a good little sub you told none of your whereabouts.” He laughed cruelly.
“I will report you, you bastard!”
He drew from his dark robe a vicious knife. He reveled in her pain as he slowly dismembered her. He scatters her across a hundred miles and returning home her lit a cigarette, opened a beer, and logged on looking for the next. * 

I would encourage all to be very specific, Dom and sub alike. It saves time. If you don’t fit on the list, move on. However if your meshing on do’s, don’ts, likes, and dislikes, time to get on the chat then, phone, public meet, you know how it works.

The above scenario depicts more truth than anyone would care to know, unfortunately. I wouldn’t not be so profane as to say it is an occurrence within the lifestyle. However many serial killers hunt, and victims pile up, within more amiable hunting grounds. I will not go into the details; we are obviously on the web so you can do your own research.

Negotiations: WTF is it with people saying “I’m the Dom you do what I say.” Rule 1. The sub will not bring a handgun to kill the Dom! It’s a good rule and I expect the sub to have a similar rule. I don’t know about everyone else but I have about 120 rules that I feel real strongly about. Any sub who says “what ever you want” I plug in my copy of Fatal Attraction and rethink. I guarantee I will whip out my list of laws, do the same.

The submissive: yes it is the sub that makes the lifestyle possible. People by nature exhibit their dominance/submission everyday. In the community we get to live a little more closer to our natural proclivities. No we can’t get out of the car and kick the shit out of the cop for being a dick, but we can enforce, through discipline, the behavior we expect from our subs/slaves. It is our personal lives that we have power over. By Hades have power over it.

The Dominant: Lots of people or giving others grief over being a “True Dom”. Here’s the news; you were a true kindergartner, you were a true 6th grader, yada yada yada… Just like all things in life you are on your journey. No not everyone here has mastered the great Dom handbook (still trying to find a copy of it) but we are trying to implement our desires into our lives. Again this place is a great resource regardless of your level.


Profiles: Be candid in your profile. You don’t have to be nasty. As with HarleyBeauty I get a lot of grief because I am very explicit with my do’, don’ts and such. What boggles my mind is people joining as subs and actually insulting others. There is a whole lot of Dom’s that did not "cane" enough hide off of suby ass, or a whole lot of subs that have no ideas what respect means. Get a free site, geociteis.com, bravenet.com, etc… (there is a bunch of them) they are easy to build and have both visual editors (what you see is what you get) and HTML (Big spooky code stuff, that is actually easy to learn) editors.

Meeting and matching: You can make a lot of good friends on this site, and some bad ones. I am open for friendship from anyone.  My priority is friendship. That alleviates the expectations of something more growing from chat. My profile and website are specific. If it is you… cool! We can talk beyond friendship. Eyes are wide open and we can discuss your do’s and don’ts. I can look through profiles and say to myself: I don’t have a clue what that sub is looking for, wow she was specific and isn’t me, or Hmmm….. intriguing.

The web: with the anonymity of the web let’s look at a few points.
1. You don’t really know who your talking to.
2. They can be male, female, or other.
3. They can be rich, poor, or cross-eyed.
4. They can be sane, insane, or somewhere in between.
5. They can be experienced, inexperienced, or anything between.
6. Just because they didn’t follow your guidebook doesn’t make them anymore or less than you.
7. There is no such thing as a poser, observers yes. You are or you are not. It is the degree that sets you.

Closing: Success in life depends on your ability to use your skills to navigate through this life. Consider this when you post or reply to anything. People look at your posts as a window into your being. Is this person strong or weak, intelligent or simple, in control or out of control? What you say tells a great deal. If you want to be thought a bitch/asshole, post rashly. Remember those tend to remain alone. I have posted my opinion on this issue. I do not claim to represent anyone other than myself in this. Be well all.

Loki


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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:10:54 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: MrMister
What I fear more than all else is the fact that the person in question fails to see this very clear thing for herself!


I tend to agree here.
Please don't get me wrong when I say...
I really don't see the need for us all to babysit the fools.

There is an insurmountable difference between a newbie trying to get a grasp on the terminology and concepts of the lifestyle, learning about their inner desires, learning how those things play out with another, dynamics, and health/safety/techniques of the trade
and
a newbie who is so blind to reality that they gleefully and with no regard to danger, waltz into situations that can jeopardize themselves and others.
The first I am willing to assist. The second I have a hard time finding any amount of sympathy for.

Would this woman have walked up to a stranger at the stadium and moved in after the first hello?

Although the "Dom" in question here may be a predator, I really have a difficult time seeing the woman as a victim. Why is she so blase about handing over her life to a complete stranger? Why is she willing to leave her job to shack up with someone she's never met? I have a hard time buying that anyone in this day and age could really be so sheltered from the world that they put total trust in everyone they meet. Especially if they have the internet. No one can be so blind as to know that we don't take candy from strangers. It's a very basic concept that most learned at a very young age.

If she is really that unconcerned about her own wellbeing, why should I care anymore than she does?
...Sorry, I have to fully agree with Proprietrix here.My feelings are this post will do very little to influence said submissive/slave from her course of action.One can only hope for her well-being.I will just add just in case she actually pays attention IMO.......HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...be well Tempting

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:15:28 PM   
windchymes


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Sometimes the best way to learn is the hard way.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:17:49 PM   
proudsub


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Sounds like "sub frenzy" has taken over her brain and cast safety and reason aside..

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:23:48 PM   
slaveladyj


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I'm hoping the girl is pulling the op's leg. Let's hope she's not seriously considering moving in with this dom on such short acquaintance. wonder if she's aware of just how many women disappear a day in this country with no trace.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:32:07 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub
Sounds like "sub frenzy" has taken over her brain and cast safety and reason aside.

Yeah Im surprised at the emotional responses here- this stuff happens all the time.  98% of the time it's just cyber drama that falls apart in a week.

The other 2% of the time, well they are adults, they will make the choice that they feel is best.

When someone gets into frenzy, it's pretty much impossible for someone else to pull them out. 

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:32:09 PM   
Real0ne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterRenegade77
he also wants her to give her Notice to her Present job tomorrow (Monday) & move to him in 2 weeks...
My opinion is this is Much too fast & there's something hinkey going on here...




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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:33:45 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Hey, hey, back off on the control freaks!  You're gonna hurt My li'l ol' feelinses  <sniffle>  I mean... even control freaks can be nice people!  We're not dangerous, we're just controlling!  :P

This guy we've been talking about sounds more like a psycho, if you ask me!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra
She'd be a fool to move that fast. Relationships take time and it sounds like he's a control freak. ~Lashra


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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:34:01 PM   
Rule


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quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub
Sounds like "sub frenzy" has taken over her brain and cast safety and reason aside..

 
Quite. Or she is pulling the OPs leg.
There is no hurry, sub-frenzied sub. You will meet your destined master most likely not on the internet but somewhere out there in the real world. When you are ready he will cross your path. All you have got to do is to realize your potentials - i.e. get ready - and recognize him when he does cross your path. You may be sure that he will desire you, as subs and slaves are the most desirable of all women.
This internet-dominant that the OP mentions most assuredly is not your destined master.

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:35:49 PM   
kittensmailbox


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i agree with MasterRenegade77 that is WAY to fast... To me that is a huge red flag... Just because a person gets along with someone else on line, doesnt mean it will work in person...  i feel the sub needs to step back and take a breath....

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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 1:36:20 PM   
LadyMorgynn


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Always providing she lives long enough to regret it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes
Sometimes the best way to learn is the hard way.


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RE: Y/your Opinions Needed Now!!! - 4/23/2006 2:07:58 PM   
windchymes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

Always providing she lives long enough to regret it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes
Sometimes the best way to learn is the hard way.



Of course.

The point is, as many here have already said...if she's truly in that much of a frenzy, nothing anyone says is going to stop her, or him.  And realistically, how many of us here actually listened to people giving US advice when we were younger and totally convinced we had found our pot of gold at the end of our rainbow?

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