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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
Showing photos of multiple women ususally indicates either a player, or insecurity.
Or, it means that after a couple of months of getting no responses, I added those photos to see if there was any positive effect.
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ORIGINAL: saltie
Do you read the profiles before writting them?
Yes I read every sentence thoroughly. Sometimes after reading a profile I see that they are looking for something different, or we are just plain incompatible. I avoid writing in that case. I usually always write about something specific to the person I am writing to. For example, expounding on a shared interest.
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ORIGINAL: WolfyMontgomery
after a woman takes a look at you, if she doesn't find you wholly compatible with her for some reason or another (maybe you have a kink she doesn't like, or she likes dark haired men instead of lighter haired men, or whatever) then she may just not reply
I agree. Perhaps I was too specific in my interests. Maybe I wrote too much about myself? It seems the more you write, the greater the chance that a woman will disqualify you since due to the disproportionate number of males, they can afford to be "picky." Of course, in this case they aren't really picky they are just going for the guy who reveals the least about himself, while still saying enough to be interesting. I have removed most of my interests and just left a few important ones.
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ORIGINAL: MistressRosalyn
One other thing, since you are polite and very articulate, you might try hanging around on the message boards here.
Well thanks! I think I will do so.
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ORIGINAL: WolfyMontgomery
If your messages have anything to do with sex, or if a large portion has to do with sex, try tossing all of that out.
I never write about intimate details unless it is requested, especially not in an introductory message.
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ORIGINAL: jbcurious
Why not try just being yourself?
LOL...I am being myself! I am just often misunderstood.
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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ
I think the profile text is good. You express who you are, what you are looking for and what you have to offer. Some women might have issues with the name.
Thank you. It's not the first time someone has mentioned my name. Can that be changed? I'm a Sex and the City fan but it seems to be causing me more trouble that it is solving. How about "GentleGiant?"
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ORIGINAL: lizi
You describe what you would like your partner to be like but what about the structure of your relationship with her....casual, long term, committed, etc. Someone to see sometimes or someone to share your life?...You do talk about your varied interests in your profile text, this is good. Over in the interest list however every single thing there is related to sex and/or kink. You might want to add some other things so it doesn't look like you've got a one track mind.
Good points. Often I see someone's profile and they went through every interest and gave it a grade but I think that the signal to noise ratio for that approach is low. So instead I just focused on aspects of D/s play. However you are right, so I removed most of the kinks and added in some regular interests.
Also you are right about the structure of the relationship. After so many revisions I think it got lost in the shuffle. I will add it back.
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ORIGINAL: jujubeeMB
You don't sound like someone who would allow a submissive to have a career or friends or preferences of any kind, and that can scare off a lot of people.
That must be my fault then. I guess I need to elaborate on that. I was trying to keep the description relatively small. I'm not interested in running every aspect of someone's life. Outside of the kinky aspects I just want a normal relationship. In fact I prefer she have friends and what not this way I don't have to be relied on to constantly entertain (I do work).
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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance
You also list the local community and munches as a hard limit (as well as poly and swinging now?) I would never get involved with someone who wouldnt go to events with me, its a HUGE red flag, usually those that dont go or wont even consider going to an event theres a reason, that reason is they have something to hide.
Or it means I just don't enjoy those things! I'd be willing to try it once though since that's only fair (maybe I would like it?). But I'm not even into going to loud clubs and bars, never was. I love going to bed early, I'm a morning person. Also I'm not into exhibitionism or public displays of kink. So I guess maybe I am trying to hide that?
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ORIGINAL: inkSecret
Your profile doesn't talk about you.
Your pictures don't show who you are.
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Great stuff there inkSecret. The single best response. I will study it carefully.
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