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RE: No responses! - 10/23/2010 2:08:08 AM

YoungBlondeSlave

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ORIGINAL: MstrShmrck

I'm going to suggest being charming, cunning, REAL, honest, and direct. Sometimes subs and slaves are looking for you to show Dominance right away. You can can be polite AND Dominant in one.

Some subs and slaves need to be address less polite than others, like this MtF I'm thinking about considering on here needs me to be less polite and more Domineering and comanding or else she'll lose interest!

misterbigg, i'm going to suggest you ignore that advice. First off, how can you be charming, real, honest and direct. And then be cunning? It seems that being cunning would undermine all of the other qualities. But, maybe i'm wrong.

Also, while it's true that some subs/slaves like to be talked to roughly most of us do not. It would be safest to assume that the girl you're e-mailing doesn't like that either. Unless her profile directly states "treat me like a piece of cheap trash." Then it might be safe to assume you can probably address her "less polite". But, i wouldn't bet on it.

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i actually remember reading your profile misterbigg, and really enjoying it. It was a little long but i enjoy reading and liked learning about you. When i was reading it i just thought "this guy is smoking hot and he has his shit together...he's way out of my league." Most of the time all i attract is old, fat, smelly douchebags who can't form big, complex words like "are" and "you". You seem to be way ahead of the game in so many ways, in regards to your profile it stymies me as to why no one would respond to you.

But really, i'd say the biggest issue is the pics, which is improving because now we don't have to compete with the hotties that you had up there, but the guys you have up there is essentially the same concern, do they know that you have their pictures up on a kink website? If you want to keep the pictures then just blur their faces, or crop them out of it.

In any event, excellent work, keep up the effort. It's appreciated for sure.

Edited to clarify a few things, thanks to DarkSteven's observations and kind CM to point them out to me.

< Message edited by YoungBlondeSlave -- 10/23/2010 2:22:12 AM >

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RE: No responses! - 10/23/2010 4:36:33 AM

wandersalone

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrShmrck

I'm going to suggest being charming, cunning, REAL, honest, and direct. Sometimes subs and slaves are looking for you to show Dominance right away. You can can be polite AND Dominant in one.

Some subs and slaves need to be address less polite than others, like this MtF I'm thinking about considering on here needs me to be less polite and more Domineering and comanding or else she'll lose interest!

Someone who was being cunning would get the big block and delete from me as would anyone else whom I sensed was playing games or being disingenuous in order to try and attract me.

OP, you seem like a cool and decent guy, as others have said be yourself, you have lost the photos of the women, make sure the guys are ok with their faces being on a fet site, have a nickname that isn't overtly sexual (ie. anything with 69) - and yes, I was another that isn't a tv watcher so missed the tv reference with your name.

and join in with some of the conversations on the message boards, let the people here get to know you better and I am sure that you will have more success. :)

edited to correct a typo

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RE: No responses! - 10/23/2010 8:14:59 AM

lizi

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ORIGINAL: MstrShmrck

I'm going to suggest being charming, cunning, REAL, honest, and direct. Sometimes subs and slaves are looking for you to show Dominance right away. You can can be polite AND Dominant in one.

Some subs and slaves need to be address less polite than others, like this MtF I'm thinking about considering on here needs me to be less polite and more Domineering and comanding or else she'll lose interest!

OP, the person who wrote the above passage talks about being honest and direct but seems to act like Dominance is an act to put on when it suits him in getting something. I'm going to chime in with YBS and suggest you do not take his advice of posturing and being less than polite. Please just be yourself. If you come across as genuine as you have in this thread you should do very well.

All you need to do is read the current journal entries (which you can do from the homepage on this site) and you'll see how many women are completely turned off by men writing to them and being rude and clueless. In my opinion, being polite regardless of orientation is always the way to go from the start. We're all human beings after all. In fact if someone rejects you for being mannerly, then perhaps they are really into more of a fantasy type situation. Nothing wrong with that but it seems as though your ultimate goal is something more.

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