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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 5:54:11 PM

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By the way, please notice that I've said legal adults. I'd really appreciate it if no one gets the thread pulled by mentioning anyone who is not a legal adult.

Please note the above. I have already had to remove some posts, and really do not want to have to pull this thread.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:04:46 PM

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I hate to have to put it this way ... but I am attracted, at times, to younger Women ...

say the 35 to 40 year old range.

Actually, i am particularly attracted to Ladies who have accomplished something in life.

That said, I believe there is an age in life, where even a 25 year old is too young ... because there really isn't any way to relate to each other.

So yes, to your thought ... there is an age, and have not reached that, yet!

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:08:17 PM

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I don't consider it inappropriate to have sexual desires for young legal adults. However, personally I have always been attracted to those my own age. When I was 18, a 60 year old man I did not seem sexy at all. Now that I am near 60, an 18 year old is just not appealing. I do not consider these persons as being off limits. I just don't find them attractive in a sexual way. I'm sure there are some people who are sexually attracted to young adults just because they are young. It's just not me.

I guess it all comes down to having things in common. For me that makes someone attractive. Sexual attraction is more than looks. You could put me in a room with what is supposed to be the handsomest man in the world. However, if I find him arrogant, if I find him boring to talk with, if I find him prejudiced, or if he is just plain dumb, I will not feel any sexual attraction whatsoever.

Give me a guy in his 60s, pot belly, gray hair, balding. If he has a great sense of humor then he starts to be attractive. Add some intelligence and a flair for having good times and he becomes very interesting. If we enjoy the same music, well, that's a huge plus. If we can be together for years and have still not run out of things to talk about, well, he's a keeper, both in my bed and in my life.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:09:06 PM

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They're nice to look at...hot young legal hard bodies...full of energy and vigor and not a care in the world...but I never had a desire to ever date one. They're just not stable or mature enough for me.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:11:41 PM

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Just think about it....When we're 95, all those 70 year olds are going to look pretty damn hot.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:15:38 PM

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Just think about it....When we're 95, all those 70 year olds are going to look pretty damn hot.

Talk about younger men!

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:23:41 PM

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:52:17 PM

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Good powers that be! There's hope for even me!

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:59:20 PM

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I admire youthful beauty, but I am not really attracted to the under-30 set. I've always been attracted to older men, though, it's only lately that I've been looking at mwn my age and younger.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 6:59:53 PM

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As has been said - I wasn't attracted to 18-21 even when I was that age myself. I've always been attracted to men older than me.

On the other hand, many men that I've known (most, actually), find younger women sexually attractive. Like Leadership, my owner makes no secret about admiring a hot young female body. And like Leadership, he sees a huge difference between fantasizing about them and actually attempting a relationship with them. My owner is 51. I don't find anything inappropriate at all about him admiring an 18 year old. It's his natural human inclination.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 7:01:26 PM

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When you're young, beds are altogether unnecessary. So are most material things. Sets of worn-down walls will do.

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Older men drive better, they hug curves, take the long way home.
Younger men get excited revving their own engine, afraid you'll
change your mind if they don't drive fast enough.

... (Dot dot dot.)

Or perhaps they are duly focused on frightening you senseless with their aggressive maneuvering, taking delight at your nervous glares, anxious squirming and futile protests, while you're further rendered helpless by that traitorous safety belt.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 7:06:08 PM

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Are you sexually attracted to legal adults under the age of 20? Do you think everyone is, or every man is, or only certain men/women are? Is there a point at which you think you're too old to be acting on those fantasies, or even having them? Or do you think that anyone legal is fair game to sleep with?

Greetings jujubee,

Age differences were once a very large sticking point for me. In the past I was vehemently opposed to major gaps that extended in both directions. I don't believe my opinion was isolated and I've encountered others that feel the same. However, time and maturity have allowed me to accept that fixed positions can alter when notable exceptions come into play. It is easy to assert what one will or will not do/condone when you haven't had a compelling reason to challenge your stance. It is my belief that attraction encompasses many things. To assume that my standard would or is the de facto for anyone is horribly naive.

At this juncture my stance is geared towards embracing the seemingly impossible and understanding that never is more appropriately stated as, "I've never had a reason to do so." What is most important are the connections we cultivate with the persons that cross our paths. I don't believe that is relegated to individuals within a definite age range, but our inability to entertain other options is often influenced by ideologies that are held above the risks such liaisons might require. In the end we must listen to the voice within and follow it. If it leads you towards the road less traveled hopefully you'll embark upon it with gladness rather than preconceived notions that may serve to deprive you from the very thing you've sought.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 7:13:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes

When you're young, beds are altogether unnecessary. So are most material things. Sets of worn-down walls will do.

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ORIGINAL: poise
Older men drive better, they hug curves, take the long way home.
Younger men get excited revving their own engine, afraid you'll
change your mind if they don't drive fast enough.

... (Dot dot dot.)

Or perhaps they are duly focused on frightening you senseless with their aggressive maneuvering, taking delight at your nervous glares, anxious squirming and futile protests, while you're further rendered helpless by that traitorous safety belt.

(Pardon me just a moment jujubee)
Vroom vroom Twoshoes.....vroom vroom

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 7:19:39 PM

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My post was pulled (there goes 15 minutes typing) so I'll summarize in brief:

No, age doesn't matter to me AT ALL. Physically mature = (possible) physical attraction. I'm 36 and that was the case when I was young, and all the years in between, so I don't anticipate it changing. If it does I'll let you know! :)

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 7:43:52 PM

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Attraction is like emotions, they just are what they are and the reasons are not always in our consciousness. Youthful appearances of a younger person's body can be quite attractive and there need not be a moral dilemma about this. It is our behavior or actions for which we should be judged, not our thoughts, feelings or fantasies. Adults need to say no when and if your actions would harm someone, not because you necessarily experience libidnal excitation. The physiology of attraction cannot be governed by legal statutes or social mores. Our behaviors on the contrary are governed and often with good reason. A pretty 18 year old, with long flowing hair, a tight body, and a short plaid parochial school skirt with bobbie socks always knocked me out ... touching them however is innappropriate and I know that. Lots of adults watch teenie bopper shows on TV and fantasize about a time gone by. Additionally, look at the exaggerated body images produced by a lot of fetish wear. These images engender the curvature of much younger women and men. We have little control over what we find sexy and lots of lattitude over our behavior.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 8:05:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

They're nice to look at...hot young legal hard bodies...full of energy and vigor and not a care in the world...but I never had a desire to ever date one. They're just not stable or mature enough for me.

Same...he'd make me feel old!

But oh yeah...too cute sometimes.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 8:55:01 PM

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Women become old as they age, men become more distinguished. That's why men prefer young women but women like old men,
and they also assume they make more money.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 9:02:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

On the other hand, many men that I've known (most, actually), find younger women sexually attractive. Like Leadership, my owner makes no secret about admiring a hot young female body.

This has been my experience, as well.

*sighs* Doesn't do so much for my almost 50 year old ego.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 9:18:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

As has been said - I wasn't attracted to 18-21 even when I was that age myself. I've always been attracted to men older than me.

On the other hand, many men that I've known (most, actually), find younger women sexually attractive. Like Leadership, my owner makes no secret about admiring a hot young female body. And like Leadership, he sees a huge difference between fantasizing about them and actually attempting a relationship with them. My owner is 51. I don't find anything inappropriate at all about him admiring an 18 year old. It's his natural human inclination.

I guess it depends on perspection. My man is 60 and I am 44. I make no secret that I work out, get botox, dress hot and stay in shape. His ex wife was 65 so to him I am young and hot. I don't physically get turned on by men under 50, I like them craggy, sexy and a bit rough looking. I always think that men that go for way younger women can't engage an adult female on an intellectual or sexual level.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 9:31:34 PM

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Women become old as they age, men become more distinguished.

One thing that age won't give: finesse. Not that you're old, but keep that in mind.

I, for one, flirted with some of my teachers (who only smiled and reminded me to keep the office door open).

I forgot about taller, smarter and more mature, a long time ago. (I can trace these preferences back to my childhood.) As porcelaine indicated, preferences melt away when we are faced with specific people.

Now, I'm perfectly happy with +/- 4 years and a compatible personality (and any undisclosed shallow considerations).

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