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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 9:47:32 PM   
Zevar


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ORIGINAL: Metatron24

Women become old as they age, men become more distinguished. That's why men prefer young women but women like old men, and they also assume they make more money.


I disagree with you. Women do not necessarily become old as they age. Like old money, the value does not fade, it increases with age. What is valued is passed on from generation to generation. Just like a mature classy submissive lady, her ways are memorable and surely not worthless as she ages. She becomes more refined and noteworthy.

In fact, every older woman was in fact a younger woman at one point in her life. Therefore it is not so much the fact that the age of a woman is the issue. Instead the issue is in the myth that many men do aspire toward. That being, younger women are more valuable due to their body. If a man is seeking to impregnate a woman then I would agree that the choice would be a younger woman. I have my family. I am not seeking to father any children. I have loved deeply. My Beloved Companion taught me much about the value of Womanhood prior to her passing on from a long fought battle with cancer.

I find sexual relations with a mature classy submissive lady much more fulfilling and satisfying. A mature classy submissive lady has become a woman as I have become a man in many ways. I value what she has to offer, having walked through Womanhood. I find a deeper meaning in relating with a mature classy submissive lady also due to the fact that she has a heart that knows more than a younger woman.

In some instances it could be said that a younger woman is seeking what an older woman already knows. The true value of Womanhood. In my eyes, Womanhood is not transferable nor is it replaceable by physical aspects that younger women offer. Overall, the treasured internal beauty of Womanhood could not ever be replaced by the fleeting physicality of a younger woman.

Nor do all men become distinguished as we age. As a man who is older, I do not prefer young women whatsoever. Regarding assuming that men make more money, well in most instances we do. Every man who works more than likely gets paid more than a woman, when related to employment compensation. As a mature distinguished gentleman I do make a lucrative living wage, but then I have worked for years to accomplish what I earn, invested and financially manage.

I am not sure how you arrived at the assumptions you asserted? I wanted to reply because I wanted to clarify a few points. Also be informed that I sure do not fit your older man theory as it is related to preferring a younger woman. I would think that I am not the only older man who prefers a mature classy submissive lady over a younger woman. I say, indeed not, give me a mature classy submissive lady any day over a younger woman. My delightful preferential choice indeed.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 9:51:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Metatron24

Women become old as they age, men become more distinguished. That's why men prefer young women but women like old men,
and they also assume they make more money.



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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 9:52:09 PM   
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I always think that men that go for way younger women can't engage an adult female on an intellectual or sexual level.


Depends on what you mean by "go for"...

I've generally been told they like to just look... that it is in their nature to be attracted to females that appear nubile and fertile. 

This is usually always accompanied by a disclaimer that there would be little or no possibility for any type of meaningful relationship due to differences in maturity, life experience, and intellectual levels.

Of course, if they had to opportunity to sexually engage with no other involvement, I suspect they'd jump at the chance. 

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 10:37:00 PM   
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I still feel that momentary spark of sexual attraction, although it's more fleeting as I get older.
I used to look, mentally drool, and say to myself  "I bet he'd be great in bed"
Now I look, remind myself how old I am, and say " I wonder how many things I could teach him in bed"
Neither thought has motivated me enough to act on them.


Hehe, I look at you and I think, I wonder how long it would take my muscles to cramp up or throw my back out.


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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 10:48:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aynne88
I always think that men that go for way younger women can't engage an adult female on an intellectual or sexual level.


Or maybe they just don't really like or appreciate the effects of time and gravity.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/22/2010 11:39:41 PM   
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Or maybe they just don't really like or appreciate the effects of time and gravity.

Which go both ways, LOL.


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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 12:58:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		OK, I have been attracted to (and dated) people as old as 25 years older than myself, and as much as 30 years younger. Currently, I'm under orders from my kids to only date guys older than my eldest, (28) and in the interest of having someone around to enjoy our old age together, I'm trying to stick with men who are slightly younger than I.

But to answer the question, it is entirely possible to be physically attracted to anyone of legal age. It is, of course, legal to date anyone of legal age, regardless of difference in age, and it is not my place to place my morality on anyone else's choices. Nor is it anyone else's place to decide what is moral or right for me to do. However, they are welcome to think whatever they like.

Having said that, I agree with the majority in that I want someone who has similar cultural references if I'm going to be in a long-term relationship. If I mention the crush I had on Greg Brady, I don't want to get a blank look. If the moon landing was ancient history when you were born, I'll pass.

One other factor for me is this; if there is someone I am interested in, and they have not yet had children, I am very uncomfortable getting into a relationship with them. Eventually it can become an issue...no matter how many times they say they don't want kids.

Anyway, enough rambling. Oh, and Zevar, I love your attitude, and here's hoping that you can find another special someone.


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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 1:00:38 AM   
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Are you sexually attracted to legal adults under the age of 20?
No. Never have been.
Do you think everyone is
no,
or every man is
no, although certainly more men are than women,
Is there a point at which you think you're too old to be acting on those fantasies, or even having them?
i've always been attracted to guys older than me. However, barring health concerns, i don't think anyone is ever too old to act out their fantasies, and certainly never too old to have them.

Or do you think that anyone legal is fair game to sleep with?
That's what i think. i don't go for casual relationships. i would not sleep with someone just because of their age or how they look. But i don't expect other people to answer to me for their sexual preferences; moreover, relationships where there is an age difference aren't necessarily shallow.



What does "sexually attracted to..." mean? That you want a relationship with them? That you want to fuck them? Or that you just like looking at their bodies? i'd say that, almost universally, people prefer looking at young bodies rather than old. i don't know about the specific ages of 18-20, but i'd say that younger bodies are generally considered more attractive.. Hence the absence of 80 years olds doing porno.

But who you sleep with, who you choose to be in a relationship with, is often based on other things as well. Not everyone jumps in bed with the first hot body to come along. For me, youth would be a turn off, in bed. So, i guess it all depends on what the terms "sexual attraction", and "sexual fantasy" mean.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 1:09:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		men i seem to be attracted to those over 35 (im 24) my current Master is 45, as far as women i am mostly attracted to those that are around 18-30 usually. although i dont know if this has to do with just looks or what lol

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 1:40:26 AM   
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Having said that, I agree with the majority in that I want someone who has similar cultural references if I'm going to be in a long-term relationship. If I mention the crush I had on Greg Brady, I don't want to get a blank look. If the moon landing was ancient history when you were born, I'll pass.

Umm... how about if the images of Neil Armstrong bouncing around up there put my mom into labor??


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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 1:54:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've always been attracted to men a bit older than me - usually 10 years or so older. Even when I was younger, I wasn't really attracted to men of my own age, and I found no mental/emotional attraction to younger men, even if they were aesthetically pleasing.

Now I'm in my 40s, I find I prefer men who are also in their 40s, or early 50s. I almost dated a guy in his 30s, until he uttered the fatal line "I have a thing about older women - I prefer them to women of my own age". Made me feel like his grandma, not 10 years older!

I admire a hot young body, but I have no desire to date one.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 2:10:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jujubeeMB
Is there a point at which you think you're too old to be acting on those fantasies, or even having them?
i've always been attracted to guys older than me. However, barring health concerns, i don't think anyone is ever too old to act out their fantasies, and certainly never too old to have them.



Reading your question again, i'm not sure if you're asking whether i think there's a point that's too old, or whether i think other people think that. If you're asking about what other people think, i'd say that, yes, most people would say that after a certain age, you're too old.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 2:13:18 AM   
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Are you sexually attracted to legal adults under the age of 20?



Yes. And.....recently.....I've had the opportunity to enjoy myself with one or two.

Mature is all very subjective.....and I've been out with older women who I wouldn't consider to be mature by my definition of the word....such as being not particularly calm and reasonable.....and some times older people are world weary...which again is immmaturity to me because it smacks of thinking the world owes them something.

I personally don't think that much about age......18-45....and I'd be interested providing she carries herself in a certain way.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 2:36:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've been with men and women my age, and on both counts I prefer older.
I prefer women in their late twenties to early thirties...but I'm picky. B does allow me to play with women and I had a recent encounter with a lovely girl of eighteen...and she made me feel old. We had absolutely nothing in common besides sex.
I prefer men in their thirties or forties. When I was 16 I was with a man of 39. Not my best decision...and in that case I do believe (as another poster said) that he just couldn't find someone of his own age to relate to. B is 41 now, we've been together for two years and we get along wonderfully. It's simply a different dynamic, and we do share interests if not some experiences. Most of my friends are a bit older than me as well, and I get made fun of for knowing the classic rock songs on the jukebox at bars...
I usually assess things on a case-by-case basis. Age isn't a determining factor, nor is gender - but if they have a vocabulary of 50 words or less, or don't have their shit together as I think an adult should, there is no way I would pursue a relationship.
Sex is a slightly different thing. If it's a purely carnal experience, I could care less if they live with their parents or they're dumb as a stick - as long as we're both clear that this is probably a one-time thing and no one will get butt-hurt if the other doesn't call.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 2:45:33 AM   
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Are you sexually attracted to legal adults under the age of 20?

I've met some 19yr old boys that were strangely attractive. I say strangely because, for me, they had the appeal of a young colt...all leggy and full of piss and vinegar. You're able to form an image of the mature adult they'll become.

The youngest I've every been involved with was a 28 yr old, I was 40 at the time. His mind was sexy (he had more letters after his name than anyone his age had a right to...can you say "career student") and his body wasn't half bad but he still had a lot of maturing to do. I met with someone from here a month or so age that was 26 and if the circumstances were different (another young geek/brainiac who was intellectually sexy but with a tortured emotional life and a load of growing to do) I might have considered him as more than a friend.

I'm 44 and generally not attracted to men my own age...40-somethings... (which is good because they usually like the 20-something chicas) and I tend to gravitate towards men 10 yrs younger or 10-15 yrs older.

Do you think everyone is, or every man is, or only certain men/women are?

I think it's different for each person. The answers given thus far are example enough of that.

Is there a point at which you think you're too old to be acting on those fantasies, or even having them?

Nothing wrong with having fantasies. As for acting on them, let me give you an example. I have a friend who is a 57 yr old male. A while ago, he contacted me and told me about this new woman he was attracted to. He identifies as a submissive and he felt this woman was a "domme in waiting" and it was his hope to offer her the opportunity to explore. Then he told me she had just turned 19. I asked him what the attraction was, other than beauty and youthful charm, and he said he felt he had a lot to offer her as an older man.
Well, she turned him down by telling him she saw him more as a grandfather figure than as a potential partner.

Was my friend wrong for being attracted to this young woman? No. Was he wrong for acting on that attraction? Not wrong, per se, but not really right in that he didn't evaluate the situation appropriately.


Or do you think that anyone legal is fair game to sleep with?

Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Just my opinion, though.


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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 7:24:08 AM   
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I've been having a disagreement with someone over a very sticky subject (I suppose that's subjective - it's just sticky for me, probably) and I thought I'd see what the general forum thinks. It's a bit biased to ask in a BDSM setting, but I figure it's a good starting point because if anyone is going to be honest about it, BDSMers will be.

Are you sexually attracted to legal adults under the age of 20? Do you think everyone is, or every man is, or only certain men/women are? Is there a point at which you think you're too old to be acting on those fantasies, or even having them? Or do you think that anyone legal is fair game to sleep with?

I'm mainly asking this because I have pretty much believed that a lot of people (with the exception of those specifically into the dynamic) sort of know as they get to a certain age that very young adults are sort of off limits and don't even really find it appropriate to be thinking of them in that way, but it's been brought to my attention that I may be awfully naive I'd love to be set straight on this, if it's an obvious truth, or I'd love for someone to confirm my belief that not everyone is attracted to very young adults.

By the way, please notice that I've said legal adults. I'd really appreciate it if no one gets the thread pulled by mentioning anyone who is not a legal adult.



I seriously don't limit myself based on age. I look at things like, maturity, intelligence, health both physical and mental, willingness to actually BE submissive, etc.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 7:34:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Metatron24

Women become old as they age, men become more distinguished. That's why men prefer young women but women like old men,
and they also assume they make more money.



Really?  Could you let me know where you found out that a woman who likes a man who is older than his is only after his money )which I think is what you are implying.  are you saying that older men have no redeeming features other than the size of their bank balance?

And as for women becoming old as they age, I am 43 and regularly get told I look in my 30's (well apart from the guy who was 30 who asked me out on a date earlier this year who thought I was younger than him ha ha).  Gotta love good genes


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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 8:16:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not someone to ask. I'm not sexually attracted to others while in a good relationship.
However my kid is 17 and half his friends are already 18. To me, they're still kids. Acne, not fully developed muscularly. And certainly they don't think like adults.

As far as fantasy goes, it's not real. I'm not going to get on anyone's case about what they dream about in private. It's when you act on it that the line gets drawn. Would I approve of someone my age having an affair with my son in six months when he's legal? Hell no.


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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 9:27:21 AM   
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Are you sexually attracted to legal adults under the age of 20?


No. Not even 24.

I just see a kid, silly and inexperienced.

Got the equipment, but no idea yet what to do with it, while unaware that's the case.

I'm open to and have had relationships with a wide range of ages--it's more about the person for me than the age.

But that young...no.

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RE: Sexual Attraction and Age - 10/23/2010 9:37:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Metatron24

Women become old as they age, men become more distinguished. That's why men prefer young women but women like old men,
and they also assume they make more money.



I may need to share some of my email pictures with you! That is one silly remark. lol



Yes, I agree. I was going to be very snarky, but Zevar wrote a far classier reply to a stupid comment. Obviously this person has not been around enough hot older women to make a value judgement.

I get hit on by young guys daily and I am guessed much younger than my age in person. Good genes, combined with taking care of yourself, and most importantly confidence and attitude is the difference between a woman who acts old and one who knows how valuable she is on every level.

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